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It is sexist. I actually assume women who never marry, do so because they are independent thinkers and will not settle, or put up with poo. I dont know why it is, but I respect women in the situation. Its an unfair assumption against men, but I never actually think I am correct, its just what goes thru my mind while Im getting to know someone. That is an iffy subject because some women are so picky but dont have a lot to offer. I do respect women who dont settle, and men too! People should be happy, and when making a commitment----you shouldnt settle for anything less than what you require in a relationship. As diverse as this world is, i believe there is someone for everyone. Its about taking the time to find that special person. 
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It is sexist. I actually assume women who never marry, do so because they are independent thinkers and will not settle, or put up with poo. I dont know why it is, but I respect women in the situation. Its an unfair assumption against men, but I never actually think I am correct, its just what goes thru my mind while Im getting to know someone. That is an iffy subject because some women are so picky but dont have a lot to offer. I do respect women who dont settle, and men too! People should be happy, and when making a commitment----you shouldnt settle for anything less than what you require in a relationship. As diverse as this world is, i believe there is someone for everyone. Its about taking the time to find that special person. I would like to think we all have something to offer; even the picky person. For me, I don't have anything to offer a potential partner. And you are correct that we should never settle for anything less but I don't believe there is someone for everyone. There are the rare few like myself that just don't fit the profile of what a man is looking for. Men my age are looking for a certain type of woman and without going into detail; I can never be the woman they want. However; I don't moan and whine about it; I accept it as a logical conclusion and I enjoy life for what it is. My only complaint at this time in my life is my crummy job and how busy I am trying to maintain my house but really in the realm of things; its pretty minor. Life if pretty good to me. 
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There is the problem.
If you don't believe..what chance are you giving yourself? |
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have to say as far as the never married thing not always a violent problem so much as never found the right one.never been married came close a couple times just didnt work out have to have love an trust both ways for me to consider marrage just never seemed like any fun at all .lol im 42 not mean a little goofy at times .an have trust issues.bad relationship endings will do that to a guy.
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i hope you are right.
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There is the problem. If you don't believe..what chance are you giving yourself? Were you addressing this comment to me? |
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both
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I prefer someone who is a parent, beyond that, I dont much consider the past marriage or lack of,,,
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Thu 09/29/11 01:42 AM
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no strong preference. someone in their 30s or 40s or older who has not been in a monogamous relationship would concern me, but it's not a deal breaker either way. In some ways I like the idea of someone without exes - not fair because I do have one....other times I'd rather see commitment history - depends on the person. I can see good in both.
it wouldn't matter if it was marriage or not & - just a past history of an ability to make and follow through on a commitment and remain loyal to that commitment for some length of time beyond a couple of 1 niters or the occasional FWB. (player, no thanks) some kind of commitment means he is more likely to be loyal & reasonable in settling differences of opinion it does get on my nerves when those who have never been married judge those of us who have been divorced - it's like a plumber doing neuro surgery....WTF?? Divorce is pretty common unfortunately - more often than not no one did anything wrong, there were just compatibility issues & even if someone DID make a mistake - and shown that they learned and grown and changed, I think that's better than someone who self righteously judges others and feels they themselves are above making mistake - and fears commitment based on that |
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When looking for people to date, do you tend to go for those who are single, never having been married, or those who are divorced? Do you have a preference? Is there a point where you think something is wrong with someone if they've never been married? Or a point where you think someone has been divorced too many times? This came up in another thread, but I figured it deserved it's own thread. It matters not one iota to me. Most women I date that have never been married are in the 30s, and we are just friends going out together. If they were older and never married, it wouldn't bother me. |
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no strong preference. someone in their 30s or 40s or older who has not been in a monogamous relationship would concern me, but it's not a deal breaker either way. In some ways I like the idea of someone without exes - not fair because I do have one....other times I'd rather see commitment history - depends on the person. I can see good in both. it wouldn't matter if it was marriage or not & - just a past history of an ability to make and follow through on a commitment and remain loyal to that commitment for some length of time beyond a couple of 1 niters or the occasional FWB. (player, no thanks) some kind of commitment means he is more likely to be loyal & reasonable in settling differences of opinion it does get on my nerves when those who have never been married judge those of us who have been divorced - it's like a plumber doing neuro surgery....WTF?? Divorce is pretty common unfortunately - more often than not no one did anything wrong, there were just compatibility issues & even if someone DID make a mistake - and shown that they learned and grown and changed, I think that's better than someone who self righteously judges others and feels they themselves are above making mistake - and fears commitment based on that Some will judge those who have been divorced, just as some will judge those who have never been married. Unfortunately, that's part of life. I would not have a problem with dating someone who is divorced, though. If they were divorced more than once, I'd start to wonder, as I'd think that maybe they rush into marriage too quickly. But, obviously, it's going to depend on each person. Everyone has their own reasons for getting divorced, or not having been married yet. |
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Hii darling can i have ur sweet love ?
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