Now she is angry. each member reply is different. we do not have to agree with you. thank for showing us you get angry when things do not go your way. you are easily baited and try to prove how RIGHT you are. you ask our opinion because you could not get over the nightmare you had with your Date. At the end of the day life goes on. Remember Eve gave Adam an apple which he ate. Was she cheap? At the end of the day life goes on. With 4 children i see why everyone is looking for a handout. A female does not have to tell any Guy to treat me like a lady. When he tries, he will not always live up to his commitment. Life struggles makes you a strong person.
Sing the song I did it all for the NOOKIE.

She could have refused and bought the food/drinks she wanted.

I remember dating this guy recently, who drove all the way from Toronto to Missisauga. Who bragged that he owned this company, for me, who cares. We met at Timmy's with Wendy's on the side. When we met, he dragged me to Wendy's and he ordered water, yes w-a-t-e-r and he looked at me, so I just ordered a small nestea Trust me, there is really a global austerity what a terrible move

hahaha
He had mastered..The Look :-)

Damn that's pretty sad really. At least you HAD a date, even if it did suck.

Here's my take on this for what it's worth. I would never expect a first date to sneak sandwhiches in for me unless of course she specifically asked too lol. And also he shouldnt have assumed you wanted a cup of ice. When invited to the movies though I would only assume he will buy your ticket not any concession food. Though he probably will offer to buy that too. Though it's not a bad thing either if the guy gets the tickets and the girl offers to get the snacks. I appreciate when a woman is willing to even offe to do that even if I say no its no problem Ill get both.

This guy might just be trying to save some money and in the process looked kind of foolish. If yo had fun on the date besides what occurred maybe consider giving him a second try. If t bothered you that much though let it go. There's billions of other guys out there.

I do think its a bit comical. I mean if money is an issue there are plenty of "free" places to go on dates. Going dutch is pretty common. Yes times have changed. Women are no longer thought of as homemakers and someone that needs a man to financially support them. I think women being able to pay their own way on a date is part of the female empowerment movement and a many offers to pay out of kindness and not necessity.

I am even cheaper. I like museums and art galleries. They don't even have snacks. (Well, the art galleries do offer free wine, beer and hors devours.)

I just get used movies cause if I am gonna spend time getting to know someone...I would rather actually talk to her or make out with her like a teenager.

But, don't get me wrong....for a first date I do my best to impress. Wash and vaccuum the car. Gnaw my toenails. Bathe. I take a woman out and have been known to blow way too much money on a good date. Often for nothing. Still, I was raised by a disco pimp daddy so I was taught old school that a lady should be treated like a LADY. (Tom Jones or Barry White style)

The point of a date is to make an impression.

I understand your point more than you may realize Cara. You have raised four kids,and supported yourself and are approaching retirment. You have paid your dues woman. You do NOT have to settle for less at this point in your life.

Stick to your standards and stick to your guns honey! So, it was a lame date. Sing it out girl...."NEXT!!!!"

(ps...I can't afford you )

:)

I LOVE that song!!!!

Could not have said it better....

Sure I take drinks and snacks in to the theaters at times... Would I take sandwiches lmao or ask someone to on a first date? Hell nooooooooooo..

But then I feel that movies are the worst place to go on a first date in the first place...

Heck I would rather do the museum instead or a picnic or just a walk in the park stopping at a fast food place and grabbing a burger or a drink.. It is not the cost of the date as the way they go about it.

I understand many don't have the money but come on if you are going on a first date plan it out a little better. If you don't have the money to get the extra stuff then don't go there find something else that cost less but don't make one look like a fool in the process..

My point was that he thought we were coming back to my apt to "do the uou know what" and that did not happen so it and by the way the man worked at one on the hospitals and is doctor. but such is life

My gramma told me that my Dad used to be so cheap, that when he went to the bordello (we lived in Hungary where prostitution was legal before the war) he used to sneak in his date, so he wouldn't have to pay the Madam.

why do some,
most,
females assume the male is or has to pay?
it's so weird.
what do they owe you?
is it part of the whole courting thing?
i don't get it.
is it weird that i don't ever let a guy pay for me?
meh.
perhaps i'm just odd.

Cheap date? Ha!!

When I lived in Toronto, I had a really cheap date from Victoria, BC.

She came to Toronto for business. She visited me in my house, and we took the subway to Victoria Park, and went to a dollar store there. She was so cheap, that she only asked for $1 gift (plus tax) for her grandson, who was four at the time, and she wanted him to learn the alphabet. It was some cheap wood-cut alphabet letters.

Then we took the subway back and had a mysteriously crazy night all-night long.

For the culinarially curious, we had hot bologna sandwiches for dinner. Open faced. (I.e. open-mouthed.) Kissing, too, the same way.

I got cheap down to an art form.

Show up at her door with a single rose....(I am too cheap to drop $40 on 12 roses that will be dead in three days anyway...So, I just go clip on off of a random bush.)

Like you would know the difference.

I suggest an espresso or a drink somewhere (I will spring for it)...we got some nice little shops down town. Once we do that, there are many really nice free art galleries (free beer, wine and hors devours), Local historical museums, and a well manicured park with cool statues and is a great place to snap a couple pix of her looking pretty in a great setting. There is even the old Paramount Theatre which was remodeled back to its original design (1950's) They only play old movies but it's $3 with 50 cent drinks and popcorn.

At this point I have spent money for a carwash ($3), soap for my stankass (.12 cents) , gas to go kidnap a rose ($1.12), $8 for our drinks, An old Katherine Hepburn or Robert Redford movie ($6). Food and drinks for our yap holes. ($2)

That makes my dating expenditures at: $20.24

For that money, you got great conversation. A trip through several galleries and museums with wine and snacks. A pleasant walk through a nice place with pix to prove it. A High dollar treat....espressos and boiler makers ain't cheap. Then you got to watch a classic like "Gone with the Wind" in an antique theatre.

At this point...I am thinking I should get laid for my money and effort.

:)

Well a I heard this on talk show, I think it was Dr. Phil or Oprah, I can't remember.
Qoute: "The guy wants the girl more than the girl wants the guy"
So if he wants to keep her, he better impress her, I guess.

Yeah I do find that a little odd.

I usually ask my dates to sneak in a nice cold six pack.

it took him two weeks before i said yes to that "date" i should have trusted my instincts

next time if that I am going to order, I am not going to look anywhere except to the order taker