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| Topic: OMG the cheapest date ever !!!!!!! | |
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Aside from the perceived "cheapness", how was the date? He must have said all about financial planning after marriage 
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We went to the movies and before we went in he had already gone to the grocery store and purchased two sandwiches and asked me to sneak them in by putting them in my purse,we go inside and he asked for the senior discount rate, and instead of getting a soda to drink he asked for two small cups of ice so that we could drink water so needless to say that was the end of that ,there is a point of being to cheap ,when i was invited out to the movies  Next time, it sounds like you need to ask your date upfront if he's going to be paying for your food, rather than assuming.
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He made sure you were fed and watered. I think that deserves some credit.
I can't decide if the guy is just a cheapskate, of if he is struggling financially and had little other option. Maybe he should just have cancelled if he couldn't afford to meet your standards. The money he did spend was obviously a waste. I don't know the full story, so it is hard to judge. If the OP doesn't know the full story either, she should maybe give the guy a break. |
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He made sure you were fed and watered. I think that deserves some credit. I wish to laugh again...hope u dont mind.. I can't decide if the guy is just a cheapskate, of if he is struggling financially and had little other option. Maybe he should just have cancelled if he couldn't afford to meet your standards. The money he did spend was obviously a waste. I don't know the full story, so it is hard to judge. If the OP doesn't know the full story either, she should maybe give the guy a break. I think these kinda dates are bound to happen now due to american financial recession
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My point was being raised in a different time and generation i havee never had to pay for anything when going out on a date, i've always but times have changed and things are very different in the dating world now . I not looking for sympathy i was stating my opinions thats all  Perhaps if you paid a few times you might begin to relate to the expenses. |
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We went to the movies and before we went in he had already gone to the grocery store and purchased two sandwiches and asked me to sneak them in by putting them in my purse,we go inside and he asked for the senior discount rate, and instead of getting a soda to drink he asked for two small cups of ice so that we could drink water so needless to say that was the end of that ,there is a point of being to cheap ,when i was invited out to the movies Next time, it sounds like you need to ask your date upfront if he's going to be paying for your food, rather than assuming. really? is that something you'd be comfortable asking someone? it's not like asking if there's going to be a meal on a flight somewhere. how's that conversation going to go? . . . Actually, I never assume the other person is going to pay. I bring enough money to cover what I want. If he offers, cool. But, I'm happy to split the bill as well. For those who assume that the guy is always going to pay, times have changed quite a bit. So, if it's important enough to them, they may want to find out beforehand, so they're not disappointed. i agree that times have changed. i still feel awkward asking a woman to contribute to the date. a friend and i used to hang out and she'd pay for somethings and i'd pay for somethings, which was cool. but we were just friends and not dating. also, i've always been the one making more money, so it makes me feel more awkward if the other party offers to pay when i know that i can afford it more than they. . . . |
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You both went on a date. Did you ask him what he wanted. Are you independent? You could have paid for your food, enjoy the movie left and never see him again. Are you obligated to him, vica versa.
See if you went with me you would not have to ask for anything. i would let you take your selection of food. I would observed your personality while watching the movie. You can tell from the first sight if it will click or some spark of happiness. Its your fault, when you agree to sneak the sandwiches in to a cinema. You are also cheap by your action. You got pranked, and he laugh at your reaction. |
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He made sure you were fed and watered. I think that deserves some credit. I wish to laugh again...hope u dont mind.. Not at all. |
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We went to the movies and before we went in he had already gone to the grocery store and purchased two sandwiches and asked me to sneak them in by putting them in my purse,we go inside and he asked for the senior discount rate, and instead of getting a soda to drink he asked for two small cups of ice so that we could drink water so needless to say that was the end of that ,there is a point of being to cheap ,when i was invited out to the movies Dearest, you have a tough crowd here. I was laughing when I read about your experience. If it is any consolation, I once was on a date who wanted to finish eating my left overs on my plate. I'm not basing the entire experience I had on that small instance alone but I do have to say given the fact that we didn't even know each other I found it awkward. It made laugh and your story brought back those memories. Times are different now. I don't mind paying for myself, in fact often I prefer it. If a man who wants to pay for my dinner is a generous man who would also do it for his male friends because it came from his heart I would be more likely to accept it, otherwise it's best to be independent. |
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We went to the movies and before we went in he had already gone to the grocery store and purchased two sandwiches and asked me to sneak them in by putting them in my purse,we go inside and he asked for the senior discount rate, and instead of getting a soda to drink he asked for two small cups of ice so that we could drink water so needless to say that was the end of that ,there is a point of being to cheap ,when i was invited out to the movies Next time, it sounds like you need to ask your date upfront if he's going to be paying for your food, rather than assuming. really? is that something you'd be comfortable asking someone? it's not like asking if there's going to be a meal on a flight somewhere. how's that conversation going to go? . . . Actually, I never assume the other person is going to pay. I bring enough money to cover what I want. If he offers, cool. But, I'm happy to split the bill as well. For those who assume that the guy is always going to pay, times have changed quite a bit. So, if it's important enough to them, they may want to find out beforehand, so they're not disappointed. i agree that times have changed. i still feel awkward asking a woman to contribute to the date. a friend and i used to hang out and she'd pay for somethings and i'd pay for somethings, which was cool. but we were just friends and not dating. also, i've always been the one making more money, so it makes me feel more awkward if the other party offers to pay when i know that i can afford it more than they. . . . Do you know how much everyone makes that you've been out with? You feel awkward talking to someone about who pays on the date, yet not about salaries? |
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Do you know how much everyone makes that you've been out with? You feel awkward talking to someone about who pays on the date, yet not about salaries? Solid 
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Yes I work every single day and yes i live in my own place apt and have raised 4 beautiful children and yes i will retire in a few years and yes there are certain things i expect and i wont except any thing less so to those of you who have really nasty things to
say i hope you have a wonderful day.
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Prashant, i think it might be appropriate for you to laugh again!
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Prashant, i think it might be appropriate for you to laugh again! I'm already laughing..but this time with myself
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Yes I work every single day and yes i live in my own place apt and have raised 4 beautiful children and yes i will retire in a few years and yes there are certain things i expect and i wont except any thing less so to those of you who have really nasty things to say i hope you have a wonderful day. No one here has been really nasty to you. You've given your opinion, just as others have given their opinion. You just have to realize that not everyone is going to see things the way you see them. |
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Prashant, i think it might be appropriate for you to laugh again! 
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To my frank opinion,that guy is a genuine buddy.
Plenty of people pretend & spend money for few days for impressing even if they dont wish to spend & even if they dont have capacity. That fellow behaved clearly & didnt bothered about what you will think of him. He has given you clear indications & made you think before you move further. Now isnt that too easy for u to decide yes/no clearly?? 
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I can see both sides of the coin!!! Movies are so damn expensive not to mention drinks and food. I would suggest to my date to have a snack before going to hold U over, buy sodas for the both of U and then go get a Pizza and a beer or whatever U wanna drinK after the Movie!!! problem solved (at least in my case!!)
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Have a picnic first and then manage the whopping 2 hours without a snack???? Concessions are pricey, so I get it. It's the way it sounds like it was handled that bugs me-not the dollars saved or spent. Whenever I go to the movies, if we actually want a snack, we sneak it in rather than paying expensive prices. I wouldn't mind if I was dating the guy, to sneak in snacks, I mean they are really expensive at the movies. But I think it's too much to ask a girl u just met to sneak them in. |
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How big is your purse? I can remember one time my wife and me went to Ryans. She had enough food in there for another two dinners for the both of us. I really didn't think she could get that many cookies in there. It was like going trick or treating at the end of the night when you opened up the bag to see how much stuff you got.
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