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| Topic: OMG the cheapest date ever !!!!!!! | |
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What's wrong with saving money, there's not much of it around these days. Think yourself lucky that you even got a drink. Save money later when you get married and have a budget. But if you are going to ask a lady out, make sure you have saved up $100 to spend. It's just courteous. Movies are totally expensive nowdays. i get it. But at least offer to take her to chinese food before the movie or go to dinner. Asking to sneak in sandwiches is rude, for one thing, how did he even know what kind of sandwich she wanted. What if he bought her roast beef. I hate roast beef sandwiches. Going to the movies on a date is already a bummer, cuz you dont get to talk too much. If you are, then it is a good idea to go to dinner or dessert before or after, so you at least get a chance to talk to one another. You have a set amount your date is supposed to spend on you?  I agree that movies are bad for dates in the beginning, though. Well he doesnt have to spend the full 100, but if he does, I wont complain..  I mean i have taken guys out plenty of times as well. If a guy asks me out I assume he is prepared to pay for the date. If i invite him out, i always bring enough cash to cover the both of us... but if you dont have enough to take me out, then you should not invite me to the movies, why not suggest heading to central park for a nature walk, or a $10 RENTAL for a kayak or something. I think there are plenty of inexpensive FUN things to do besides a theater and dinner. A. I don't have a central park. B. Chinese food gives me the *****. |
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why do some, most, females assume the male is or has to pay? it's so weird. what do they owe you? is it part of the whole courting thing? i don't get it. is it weird that i don't ever let a guy pay for me? meh. perhaps i'm just odd. Just a leftover from the olden days when women were not expected to work at all. Access to money is the reason. Im sorry to say, you will still make less than your male 'equal' when you enter the workforce. Yeah, but depending on the job, many women probably do make more money than men these days. Perhaps not at the same job, though. And most women have access to money now, but some still refuse to pay for anything. |
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Women continue to make an average of 70% of what men make for the exact same position. I think its unfair for a woman to refuse if she makes the same or more. If a woman who is a wealthy CEO, dating a man who is say, a teacher, then shoot, she should prolly pay. That would be the gentlemanly thing to do, even if she's a gal, but such a situation, would rob most men of their masculine energy and could easily create a mother/child-or-sugar momma relationship...tricky. For that reason I think the man should still plan the date and simply do what he can afford. As the dating progresses, tho, there should be more reciprocation/balancing out. The theory is that the first date sets the tone for the relationship...as far as masculine/feminine energy. That's why I said perhaps not at the same job. But, it's unlikely that two people dating are going to have the exact same job. So, there's no telling who is going to be making more. It just surprises me that there are still women who refuse to pay for anything. Then again, those women also never make the first move and refuse to ask men out as well. But as I have previously said, times have changed. Younger women don't seem to worry about that kind of thing so much. I also don't think a guy is less of a gentleman if he doesn't pay all the time. Or less masculine either. |
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What do you mean by masculine and feminine energy?
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Yeah.. I'm still not quite sure what you mean.
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Well I must be old school because I pay for my dates. I make sure I bring plenty of green stuff with me, but with plastic there isn't a boundary to spent $$$ as long as we have fun together. If I detect no "funness" factor I cut the date short but I still don't cheap out.
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Edited by
2KidsMom
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Tue 08/30/11 09:15 AM
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well said
@klc. for example 'the hunter' is a masculine energy trait. If a man is comfortable engaging his 'hunter' (pursues the woman) then he will typically attract a woman who is comfortable displaying feminine energy...that is, she is receptive/attracted to that. alternatively, if a man is not comforable engaging his masculine energy (he is surely still a man), he will attract a woman who IS comfortable engaging HER masculine energy...she is a 'hunter'. One partner will 'be' the masculine energy, and the other will 'be' the feminine energy. |
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Yeah.. I'm still not quite sure what you mean. Men and women have both masculine and feminine energy that they can display. for example 'the hunter' is a masculine energy trait. If a man is comfortable engaging his 'hunter' (pursues the woman) then he will typically attract a woman who is comfortable displaying feminine energy...that is, she is receptive/attracted to that. alternatively, if a man is not comforable engaging his masculine energy (he is surely still a man), he will attract a woman who IS comfortable engaging HER masculine energy...she is a 'hunter'. One partner will 'be' the masculine energy, and the other will 'be' the feminine energy. Its just my perception on the matter. Im sure there are folks who think Im nuts. ....grain of salt. Thanks for explaining! It makes sense, but I don't necessarily agree, as I have asked men out, but have also been attracted to men who have asked me out. And I'm attracted to confident men. Confident men, not the kind of men who are afraid to ask women out. Yet, I don't just wait around for someone to approach me either. Different things work for different people, though. |
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A cheap date? If you go to a drive in movie make your date ride in the trunk. You can get them in free that way........
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Thanks for explaining! It makes sense, but I don't necessarily agree, as I have asked men out, but have also been attracted to men who have asked me out. And I'm attracted to confident men. Confident men, not the kind of men who are afraid to ask women out. Yet, I don't just wait around for someone to approach me either. Different things work for different people, though. exactly. And its all good. I wonder if, when you did the asking out, he took the lead on making the plans? The more you allow the man to do, the more masculine energy you allow him to take. I like it when we're both willing to make plans. Maybe one night I plan the date and the next time, he does. One guy asked me out once and refused to make plans. He wanted me to decide. He asked me out again and I told him to let me know what he wants to do. We never went out again because he would not make any plans. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Tue 08/30/11 10:11 AM
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More like indecisive. I don't think it's a gender related quality, though.
But yes, I have asked someone out and they have made plans. And the other way around as well. Works much better when both actually contribute to dates. You learn much more about each other that way. |
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Well, yes. If the first date doesn't go well, there won't be a second. For me, though, it's not mandatory for the guy to plan the first date.
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Its not that you are odd...although i wont disagree  But there was a time, back in the day before your time youngens, that men attempted to court a girl, when it was a PLEASURE or HONOR (if you will) to BUY her a shake/burger and a ticket to the drive in--- It wasnt about sneaking peeps in and smuggling in food, it was a sign of pride and passion. And a man felt good about it. There is definitely a difference in dating now and then. My friends and I joke about it, how we are the last generation to live by a man who takes HONOR in supporting his woman and family. It was not a TWO PART DEAL. YOU look pretty, do your chores, and raise beautiful children. He works hard, take you out, provides for his family. I call it old school but it is just how i was raised and the men i date concur. No problems there. Its not your fault...your just part of the new generation. I barely made the cusp but i am glad i did. it makes sense if you set it back some decades. doesn't really make sense now though. [the thought of doing nothing but looking pretty, doing chores, and raising children makes me gag.] Just a leftover from the olden days when women were not expected to work at all. Access to money is the reason. Im sorry to say, you will still make less than your male 'equal' when you enter the workforce. i'm aware that a penis makes more money than a vagina. [i'm thinking a penis might be a good investment.] even if the male makes more money i don't believe he should have to pay. the female has her own money. she won't die without him. |
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Why do you think I always go to the multiplex? I thought it was the mirrored urinals. I go there to see a show don't I? You would think you would want your money's worth. Owieeeeee. |
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Of the women who do not want the man to pay, which I find an honorable thing, I wonder what you would do if the man wanted to do something you could not afford. Lets say he's a millionaire or some such and wants to take a plane to Milan for dinner at his favorite ristorante. He wants to share that with a nice gal. Would you turn down the date? Or are there circumstances where you would be flexible with your policy? How about going to McDonalds and ordering from the value meal on a moped........
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Of the women who do not want the man to pay, which I find an honorable thing, I wonder what you would do if the man wanted to do something you could not afford. Lets say he's a millionaire or some such and wants to take a plane to Milan for dinner at his favorite ristorante. He wants to share that with a nice gal. Would you turn down the date? Or are there circumstances where you would be flexible with your policy? What I saw was women saying that men don't have to pay. Not that there were women who would refuse if a man paid. I always offer to pay my share. Doesn't mean it always happens, though. |
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Of the women who do not want the man to pay, which I find an honorable thing, I wonder what you would do if the man wanted to do something you could not afford. Lets say he's a millionaire or some such and wants to take a plane to Milan for dinner at his favorite ristorante. He wants to share that with a nice gal. Would you turn down the date? Or are there circumstances where you would be flexible with your policy? How about going to McDonalds and ordering from the value meal on a moped........ You can bring your own water! 
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Owieeeeee. ANYone can win an Oscar :-) |
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Argh. I meant...Of the women who prefer to go dutch, which I find an honorable thing, I wonder what you would do if the man wanted to do something you could not afford. Lets say he's a millionaire or some such and wants to take a plane to Milan for dinner at his favorite ristorante. He wants to share that with a nice gal. Would you turn down the date? Or are there circumstances where you would be flexible with your policy? If we had been dating and he really wanted to do something fancy, sure. First date? No, I'd definitely suggest something else. |
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