there not,you can offend someone you love and if you learn to say this 5 letter words "sorry" it may leads to broken reletionship which some are in to.

Indeed Totage you don't need to love to be able to say sorry.Sorry is a polite word to use when redressing a wrong besides we are humans lets not be emotionally handicap huh

You think we could get a "handicapped" placard for this in order to park closer to retail stores?

- Josh

Don't wrong her and you don't have to say sorry!

is it possible as human being?

To be honest, that sounds like a pretty poor excuse to do such. Being human does not give the right to do wrong to others. It is all about "the right" thing to do upon others. Perhaps I had misread what you had mentioned. I certainly hope so. From what I had read, you basically say that to be human is to only do as you feel is best for yourself no matter what the consequences. However, if this was true, then you would not have opened up this topic. So, I believe I have truly misread your last response. Please elaborate further as to what you were meaning so I and perhaps others may not be mislead to what you were actually attempting to say.

And please, take what I may have to say with a grain of salt as I am just merely attempting to make sure we are all on the right page.

- Josh

I agree with this...."sorry" is for small things but if it was something that can cause problems in a relationship an "apology" is in order.


As a parent you teach your child to say sorry after they knock something down, or take something without asking, but they don't understand the feeling of regret that would call for an apology. My ex-husband would say "sorry" after hitting me and calling me names, kind of like a parrot asking for a cracker, but he NEVER offered an apology for doing it.

To me, an apology includes sitting down and discussing what I did wrong and agreeing that I won't do it again and then not doing the same mistake again. It takes a mature person to offer an apology, if you can't say it maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.

I own my behaviour. I will own the apology too if that is in order. It is never in my intention to offend and I will offer up an apology pretty quickly if my intentions have been misinterpreted.

It is not hard at all. There is no weakness in honoring another.

Beautiful expansion... ty.
Sorry to hear about what your ex did and that whole parrot act that he got into.
That seems to be what commonly happens when people misunderstand what apologies are about. A strange "psychopathy"...

Yeah I'm sorry. Now get me a beer. Pretty easy really........

Absolutely beautiful... too many think they may be perceived as weak, either during the apology or for having committing offense.
Either by the offended or by social rubber-neckers.
And indeed they may... I happen to see it the other way 'round though. Being afraid to show weakness is a weakness and generally leads to other anti-social behaviour. jmo.

There's no shame in being human... fallible, 'tis our condition from birth.

Whao , i must confess you are all great and am happy been among you . Am expecting more.

I never really realized how "I'm sorry" and an apology is different until I started reading this topic. A relationship I was in ended because I made a mistake, which was the first mistake I've ever made in the relationship. I didn't know it would make him so mad that he would end it just because of it. I told him that I was very sorry and I would never do anything like that again. I meant that too because I learn from my mistakes and if I hurt someone or made them mad I try my best to not do it again. He wouldn't forgive me no matter what I said. He just told me to leave him alone and never talk to him again. I found that harsh. He kinda made me feel like I'm just something disposable that needs to be thrown out. Even if I had apologized he probably wouldn't have accepted it.

Well, you did your best... and that counts.
That's the action that follows apology... it matters most.
Welcome to Mingle, btw...

I did try my best. I even sent him a long email about my actions, but he probably deleted it without reading it. I had questions in the email I wanted answered but they never got answered. I was upset at the time I did what I did and it shouldn't have been something to break up over. All I wanted an opinion on a matter from his sister before I went to him about it. If I knew he would get mad about it I would have went to him first, but I didn't know it would make him mad. The way he handled things I found it immature. I really liked him too. I was hurting so bad for what happened and for the way he treated me that I was crying and he didn't care. I guess I'm just going to have to try to find someone else to be with.
Oh and thank you for the welcome.

He obviously wasn't the one for you if things didn't work out, and hopefully you at least learned something from it, so it wasn't just heart ache in vain.

Jess, life is difficult even in the calmest of days... when you step on peoples' toes... there's no figuring how they will react. Some might have broken toes... and the pain is more significant... others are just jerks. Most fall somewhere in-between... I''ve no idea what happenened between you and he. But I feel for ya'... truly.
Intuition and traditional expectations seem to confuse the issue nowadays... so I just don't know.

But the deal is... that you did your best. Regardless of the other factors, you say that your heart was pure... that's all that matters, even to a simpleton like me.

I hope that you can move past this, and soon. I'd hope that you have close, safe friends to mull it over with... feel the freedom to discuss openly without all the needs to talk in unhindered speech... that always helps me.

In my opinion, regardless of what actually happened... you seem willing to talk of your part in it to strangers... that shows courage and some remorse. Strength of character in that...
I doubt that you'll ever get all the answers... we rarely do. And that's just sad. Take it from an old man, it's just common, haha.

But it's not about finding someone else... it's about being comfortable with yourself... we can say "sorrys" or full fledged apologies and some peeps just won't accept.
Know yourself... fug the rest. jmo.
But I'm sorry for your pain and confusion in all this...
it's way beyond this thread.

Now go talk to some saner folks... enjoy Mingling.

Thank you for what yall said. I don't really have any close friends anymore since I hardly get out of the house due to having no car. The only people I can talk with is Family, which I don't like to do all that often because they sometimes say some mean stuff. I do have some close online friends that I've been knowing for several years. I usually discuss things with them. I think I'm going to enjoy it here. While writing this I got a message from someone go figure.

Haha, awesome... might be one of my ex-friends talkin smack... just jokin.

'Tis a fresh canvass, Jess... paint.

Pops always told me part of being a man is owning up to your wrongs. A man will apologize for his errs and mean it. He will do all within his power to make it right while being considerate enough not to make the same err again.