so she is ok if you hang with a girl that most would say have a facial disorder ?

Insecurity has alot to do with this , most of my friends from High school - straight into college were Male ...

Why ....Because most women Gossip too much

you know, even when i make a female friend just to set an example....my s.o. never points to that. all they ever say is "i know she wants to be more than just friends with you." then i say "so your male friends wanna be more with you, right?" then she says, "no, that's different". and the cycle of hypocrisy in most of my relationships goes on.

you don't think i feel inadequate in comparison with other men?! ;p
sarcasm intended....

you know, even when i make a female friend just to set an example....my s.o. never points to that. all they ever say is "i know she wants to be more than just friends with you." then i say "so your male friends wanna be more with you, right?" then she says, "no, that's different". and the cycle of hypocrisy in most of my relationships goes on.

You're missing the point. The point is I'm expected to trust them to hang out with other men, without getting the courtesy to hang out with other women in return. The fact that I choose to introduce my significant others to "Busty Brittany" should be irrelevant. If I introduced them to "Sweat Sow Suzy", it shouldnt be any more acceptable.

You've already pointed out that you aren't friends with women unless you are interested in them, or unless you're trying to tell whoever you're dating that they're getting to close. So, why should they trust you with other women?

you know, even when i make a female friend just to set an example....my s.o. never points to that. all they ever say is "i know she wants to be more than just friends with you." then i say "so your male friends wanna be more with you, right?" then she says, "no, that's different". and the cycle of hypocrisy in most of my relationships goes on.

I had an ex before and he had so many female friends, but I didn't think much of it. There were women "friends" on his facebook that were just too "sweet" for comfort. I have male best friends, but I would never post in their face book page that I love them, especially knowing they are already with someone. That's just plain unethical, in my opinion, especially if they're not even THAT close to begin with.

There are friends who pretend to be friends, but are in fact only waiting for a time when the couple would hit a rocky patch in their relationship. That's when they become the oh-so sympathetic-cry-on-my-shoulder-because-she-doesn't-understand-you-like-I-do kind of friend. That's the one you should watch out for, because as there are genuine friends of the opposite sex, there are weasels too.

If the partner has been really good friends with them before you were a couple, and she isn't averse to having you join them whenever, then I would not worry. But you have to give her the same courtesy. Worrying about a relationship is not necessarily an indication of paranoia. There are women (or men) who would jump at the chance of coming between a couple in the guise of friendship.

Very responsive Red, could not agree
with you more.
Losers will chase the ones already 'taken.'
Happens in here every day.
We all know who they are.
Sickening, really.
The 'pretenders.'

Sweet This is exactly my thought ......So i think the Girlfriend knows this guy better than he knows himself ....

Very responsive Red, could not agree
with you more.
Losers will chase the ones already 'taken.'
Happens in here every day.
We all know who they are.
Sickening, really.
The 'pretenders.'

Sad isn't it ,Boyfriend stealing Friends ..
Pretend they with you and all that chit an deep down they just wanna Phuck you up .....Why can't they just go out there and find a boyfriend for themselves,And stop focusing on their friends man ....

I'm impressed with the opinions on this... everyone has some sort of experience with it. The op has a valid point IMO.

As a Man:
We are expected to pursue... We invite the opposite sex to lunch, drinks etc.... based on attraction(mental or physical). I have put myself in a few awkward situations because I've invited people purely for good company... but got entangled in misunderstandings. So I don't initiate new female "friendships" if I'm in a relationship. It's a better fit for me than having to explain things in detail over and over.

As women:
Men expect you to be receptive to our invitations. Your acceptance is an honor for us, it gives us self confidence and pleasure. Yours, is a passive role compared to us actively pursuing you. We shmooze to make you like us. It is our role!


If you don't want us to be so outgoing to pursue new female acquaintances, YOU shouldn't be so receptive to other new males invitations.

Cheers!

I had an ex before and he had so many female friends, but I didn't think much of it. There were women "friends" on his facebook that were just too "sweet" for comfort. I have male best friends, but I would never post in their face book page that I love them, especially knowing they are already with someone. That's just plain unethical, in my opinion, especially if they're not even THAT close to begin with.

There are friends who pretend to be friends, but are in fact only waiting for a time when the couple would hit a rocky patch in their relationship. That's when they become the oh-so sympathetic-cry-on-my-shoulder-because-she-doesn't-understand-you-like-I-do kind of friend. That's the one you should watch out for, because as there are genuine friends of the opposite sex, there are weasels too.

If the partner has been really good friends with them before you were a couple, and she isn't averse to having you join them whenever, then I would not worry. But you have to give her the same courtesy. Worrying about a relationship is not necessarily an indication of paranoia. There are women (or men) who would jump at the chance of coming between a couple in the guise of friendship.