Am I the only one that has found that here in southern CA if you love the Lord and are not in fear of stating it openly, people just leave you alone? I am not a Bible thumper but I do talk to people about how the Holy Spirit lives within me.

I find that here in the desert, it is only married people that are filled with the Lord and that makes it hard to meet anyone, (besides working with 12 year olds all day doesn't help).

I will not turn to worldly desires and selfish wants or needs to be around people and I will keep my vows to my Father, but how does one go about meeting Godly people in ways outside of a church? My church is very small, and I need some ideas please. I have given it to God and I know in His time...but I have this drive to start to build memories.

Thanks for the input and reading this.

When you find out something, then let me know.

noone said its easy,, was anyone else on the cross with Christ?

I wouldnt focus so much on 'finding' someone. I think there are good people in all walks of life but I would try charitable causes if I were seeking them out specifically. Work at a shelter, or food bank, or volunteer with a charity.

Teacher50,

Plenty of women label themselves "Christians", but they try to serve two masters. So when it comes to dating, they want a man who can satisfy their fleshly desires, not a man who takes up his cross daily.

My cross is what I carry, but it is lite due to the fact that I have other hands holding it for me. My vow to my Father makes me an outcast to so many. Guess what? I love Jesus, and I can still have fun. I love doing things so long as they are moral.

when it comes to love, you can't "make" love. Your love is already out there, you just have to wait for her to come along. Patience is a virtue. I know it's hard being alone and waiting for that person, but with great work comes great reward. And longer you have to wait for her, the more you'll appreciate her once you have her. That's why relationships don't last that long very often, it's just to easy to find someone else. So just keep your head up and keep truck'n on and the father will guide you two together when the time is right.

Matthew 6:

31, Therefore take no thought, saying,
What shall we eat? or,
What shall we drink?
or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?

32, (For after all these things
do the Gentiles seek:)
for your heavenly Father knoweth
that ye have need of all these things.

33, But seek ye first the kingdom of God,
and his righteousness;
and all these things shall be added unto you.

34, Take therefore no thought for the morrow:
for the morrow shall take thought
for the things of itself.
Sufficient unto the day
is the evil thereof.


Philippians 4:

4, Rejoice in the Lord alway:
and again I say, Rejoice.

5, Let your moderation be known
unto all men.
The Lord is at hand.

6, Be careful for nothing;
but in every thing by prayer
and supplication with thanksgiving
let your requests be made known unto God.

7, And the peace of God,
which passeth all understanding,
shall keep your hearts and minds
through Christ Jesus.

8, Finally, brethren,
whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just,
whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue,
and if there be any praise,

think on these things.

9, Those things, which ye have both learned,
and received, and heard, and seen in me, do:
and the God of peace shall be with you.

For me it is at the nursing home.

Hang in there. I believe that God will test us to see how true our heart is. My pastor has said that God waits to give us things sometimes to see if we will appreciate it and cherish it when he give it to us.

All I can suggest is pray. Go to the web sites that are for christians or the ones that you have to pay to join. I wish you were in Virginia. I too am looking for a Godly man. I have two children that I am rainsing alone. My deepest desire is to have a complete family. I want someone for me, but I also want someone to teach my son how to grow up to be a godly man. A mom can only do so much. I keep praying and I know God will give me my deepest desire.

Good luck.

The issue I am having is being a Christian single parent. Churches seemed to be 90% women and the few men there are married. I know I don't go to church to find a husband but where else are we to go? My advice is to pray, receive and then thank God for giving us the desires of our heart. Sometimes I find that the problem is that we don't know how to receive from the Father

For single parents and widows/widowers:

Isaiah 54:4-17

4, Fear not;
for thou shalt not be ashamed:
neither be thou confounded;
for thou shalt not be put to shame:
for thou shalt forget
the shame of thy youth,
and shalt not remember
the reproach of thy widowhood any more.

5, For thy Maker is thine husband;
the LORD of hosts is His name;
and thy Redeemer
the Holy One of Israel;
The God of the whole earth
shall He be called.

6, For the LORD hath called thee
as a woman forsaken
and grieved in spirit,
and a wife of youth,
when thou wast refused,
saith thy God.

7, For a small moment
have I forsaken thee;
but with great mercies will I gather thee.

8, In a little wrath
I hid my face from thee
for a moment;
but with everlasting kindness
will I have mercy on thee,
saith the LORD thy Redeemer.

9, For this is as the waters of Noah unto me:
for as I have sworn
that the waters of Noah
should no more go over the earth;
so have I sworn
that I would not be wroth with thee,
nor rebuke thee.

10, For the mountains shall depart,
and the hills be removed;
but my kindness shall not depart from thee,
neither shall the covenant
of my peace be removed,
saith the LORD that hath mercy on thee.

11, O thou afflicted,
tossed with tempest,
and not comforted,
behold, I will lay thy stones
with fair colours,
and lay thy foundations
with sapphires.

12, And I will make thy windows
of agates,
and thy gates
of carbuncles,
and all thy borders
of pleasant stones.

13, And all thy children shall be taught
of the LORD;
and great shall be the peace of thy children.

14, In righteousness
shalt thou be established:
thou shalt be far from oppression;
for thou shalt not fear:
and from terror;
for it shall not come near thee.

15, Behold, they shall surely gather together,
but not by me:
whosoever shall gather together against thee
shall fall for thy sake.

16, Behold, I have created the smith
that bloweth the coals in the fire,
and that bringeth forth
an instrument for his work;
and I have created the waster to destroy.

17, No weapon
that is formed against thee shall prosper;
and every tongue
that shall rise against thee in judgment
thou shalt condemn.
This is the heritage
of the servants of the LORD,
and their righteousness is of me,
saith the LORD.

well Lord is good,I dont know,why He do not let me to meet christian man,and share my life and Him self,still you know if God gives you a gift ,,it will be the best from best,, give over pushing to hard,just wait,He will come in right time and gives you the best,and I pray He will do the same to me,amen

Psalm 34:15,17,18

15, The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous,
and his ears are open unto their cry.


17, The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth,
and delivereth them out of all their troubles.

18, The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart;
and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

Guilt? Some people are intimidated by religion. They just have not let it come into their lives. So, they isolate a christian out.
Most people are not christian.

Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you [from their company], and shall reproach [you], and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man's sake.
Luke 6:22

I say, "just be the best Christian YOU know to be..."

Matthew 6:31-33

31, "Therefore take no thought,
saying, What shall we...? or, What shall we...? or,
Wherewithal shall we...?"

32, "(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:)
for your heavenly Father knoweth
that ye have need of all these things."

33, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God,
and his righteousness;
and all these things shall be added unto you."

Marriage and dating relationships are a work...

Stay in the Word of God...

Prayer is vital...

Trust in God is everything!!!

I think that loving God brings about a way of life full of convictions in your heart.

Hence, as a youth. I would not go to class parties due to the use of alcohol and no parents at the party.

Going out to clubs is normally a setting to "find" someone. However, as a christian..why would I want to go to a club. To feel as if I died in that club God would say. Now what were you doing there? Guilt wrong witness.(People also would say..what? Do you think you are above it? or better? Yes I do. Lost friendship.)

Convictions and witness for others that is a makes a wedge between you and others. It has between me and my family.

Amen to that!!!

When you have the Lord in your life how can you ask 'why does loving God make you alone'? once He is in your life buddy, that is the end of loneliness!! then it is aloneness and not loneliness....when your relationship with God is one of a friend and you can talk with Him like Adam did in the Garden of Eden, then you will find a 'forever friend' who will always be there with you :)