Topic: Some women .
oldsage's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:23 PM
If I am calling a lady by tender loving nicknames. I know her name quite well & am using that as a personal endearment.
Different strokes for different folks.
Some ladies like being called "baby, sweetie, honey, etc.

MelodyGirl's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:23 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Tue 11/03/09 05:27 PM



Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.laugh :wink:


There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t.

Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers.

There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway.

Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners.

If I reach the point where I ask a person how I should address her I am sure she is not worth knowing . Being myself is the best policy regardless to what others think because I do not want to change anyone and certainly I do not want to change myself for anyone .
To pretend to say what I do not mean is just not me .



What??

When you meet a business associate, you think they are not worth knowing if they prefer you to address them a certain way? Your boss? Your friend's grandmother whom you've never met? That is disrespectful. YOU don't dictate how people wished to be addressed.

You can be yourself but when you first meet someone and shake hands -- don't you ask, "what is your name?" slaphead If they say, “Call me Ms. Jones”, do you say, "Well, that's not me so I'll call you "hon". slaphead

IT IS NOT YOUR NAME to change or reduce unless otherwise told! whoa

WTF happened to respect for other people?

krupa's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:26 PM




Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.laugh :wink:


There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t.

Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers.

There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway.

Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners.

If I reach the point where I ask a person how I should address her I am sure she is not worth knowing . Being myself is the best policy regardless to what others think because I do not want to change anyone and certainly I do not want to change myself for anyone .
To pretend to say what I do not mean is just not me .



What??

When you meet a business associate, you think they are not worth knowing if they prefer you to address them a certain way? Your boss? Your friend's grandmother whom you've never met? That is disrespectful. YOU don't dictate how people wished to be addressed.

You can be yourself but when you first meet someone and shake hands -- don't you ask, "what is your name?" slaphead If they say, “Call me Ms. Jones”, do you say, "Well, that's not me so I'll call you "hon". slaphead



No.......the usual response is..."Call me Anytime"


hehehehehe ya stepped right into THAT one honey....Melody.....DAMN IT!!!!

Jess642's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:27 PM
Hey hon....drag your sugar lips over this way, and rub those honey pots on my back, will you babe?



ill

tohyup's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:28 PM




Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.laugh :wink:


There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t.

Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers.

There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway.

Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners.

If I reach the point where I ask a person how I should address her I am sure she is not worth knowing . Being myself is the best policy regardless to what others think because I do not want to change anyone and certainly I do not want to change myself for anyone .
To pretend to say what I do not mean is just not me .



What??

When you meet a business associate, you think they are not worth knowing if they prefer you to address them a certain way? Your boss? Your friend's grandmother whom you've never met? That is disrespectful. YOU don't dictate how people wished to be addressed.

You can be yourself but when you first meet someone and shake hands -- don't you ask, "what is your name?" slaphead If they say, “Call me Ms. Jones”, do you say, "Well, that's not me so I'll call you "hon". slaphead


I am talking about Mingle2 which is a dating, social site . I am not talking about other places and other circumstances . I hope we are not comparing apples to oranges .

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:28 PM
oh, for cripe sakes. i think this whole topic has turned vishus.

i think that for one, people are very familiar these days, and to be "hun/hon, lady, sweetie, or you, over there", is just a way of a greeting.

the old days are gone when we used to be so formal or respectful.

now i still want to know how u net a nun? any ideas?blushing

MelodyGirl's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:28 PM


No.......the usual response is..."Call me Anytime"

hehehehehe ya stepped right into THAT one honey....Melody.....DAMN IT!!!!


Honey isn't cool but as I said earlier, psycho b**ch is fine! Foreplay! pitchfork :laughing:

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:33 PM


Good lord has no one heard of the differences between formal and informal, or friendliness versus stodginess?

MelodyGirl's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:34 PM





Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.laugh :wink:


There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t.

Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers.

There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway.

Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners.

If I reach the point where I ask a person how I should address her I am sure she is not worth knowing . Being myself is the best policy regardless to what others think because I do not want to change anyone and certainly I do not want to change myself for anyone .
To pretend to say what I do not mean is just not me .



What??

When you meet a business associate, you think they are not worth knowing if they prefer you to address them a certain way? Your boss? Your friend's grandmother whom you've never met? That is disrespectful. YOU don't dictate how people wished to be addressed.

You can be yourself but when you first meet someone and shake hands -- don't you ask, "what is your name?" slaphead If they say, “Call me Ms. Jones”, do you say, "Well, that's not me so I'll call you "hon". slaphead


I am talking about Mingle2 which is a dating, social site . I am not talking about other places and other circumstances . I hope we are not comparing apples to oranges .


It's still rude in a social situation to assume a person's nickname or name until you are introduced properly. Website or not, when you meet someone, an introduction is the minimum of manners.

Why should it be any different if you met a person here or at the store?

At the store, you would approach them and say (something like), "Excuse me, I am Brian." and extend your hand.

If you email a stranger, why wouldn't you formulate some type of introduction as well? It shows class and it's polite. Gawd forbid a person shows any of those qualities! scared

I digress. I've made my point and I will continue my way, as you will your way.

I delete all emails when the person calls me unintelligent nicknames, doesn’t introduce himself, and doesn't bother to ask mine.

Enjoy your night. flowerforyou

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:36 PM
well what is stoginess?noway

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:37 PM
boring, stiff or nerdy..is a stoginess....phitttpitchfork

Gator76's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:38 PM
laugh

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:39 PM
oops stodginess....:angry: grumble noway

tohyup's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:40 PM






Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.laugh :wink:


There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t.

Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers.

There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway.

Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners.

If I reach the point where I ask a person how I should address her I am sure she is not worth knowing . Being myself is the best policy regardless to what others think because I do not want to change anyone and certainly I do not want to change myself for anyone .
To pretend to say what I do not mean is just not me .



What??

When you meet a business associate, you think they are not worth knowing if they prefer you to address them a certain way? Your boss? Your friend's grandmother whom you've never met? That is disrespectful. YOU don't dictate how people wished to be addressed.

You can be yourself but when you first meet someone and shake hands -- don't you ask, "what is your name?" slaphead If they say, “Call me Ms. Jones”, do you say, "Well, that's not me so I'll call you "hon". slaphead


I am talking about Mingle2 which is a dating, social site . I am not talking about other places and other circumstances . I hope we are not comparing apples to oranges .


It's still rude in a social situation to assume a person's nickname or name until you are introduced properly. Website or not, when you meet someone, an introduction is the minimum of manners.

Why should it be any different if you met a person here or at the store?

At the store, you would approach them and say (something like), "Excuse me, I am Brian." and extend your hand.

If you email a stranger, why wouldn't you formulate some type of introduction as well? It shows class and it's polite. Gawd forbid a person shows any of those qualities! scared

I digress. I've made my point and I will continue my way, as you will your way.

I delete all emails when the person calls me unintelligent nicknames, doesn’t introduce himself, and doesn't bother to ask mine.

Enjoy your night. flowerforyou


I did not know you are miss manners.......laugh laugh .
Honestly people just do not think like YOU in general .
We are in 2009 .
You made your points but saying people are rude is something else .
You miss manners ?.
scared .

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:40 PM

oops offtopic Ok, first off... Krups has the coolest pics...

now back to the point...

I think they are only offended, if they think your a jerk or an ***... it's all in the woman's perspective...

you know, if they are attracted to you, it's going to be taken in a positive light... if they think your a piece of ****... your an *** for saying it!! (please excuse the language kiddies...)...

rofl drinker


Totally agree with you, but it also seems to depend on where you're from as well. I have noticed within the south as far as Texas, Alabama and Georgia they seem to use those terms more loosely. Not to offend others but due to that is how they were raised with the words. But now in some states others are offended by them.

But regardless if your dealing with someone everyday then it is okay but you never use those terms when it comes to business or those that you do not deal with in a day to day bases or friends.

So I can see what some are saying that they do not like it for me even been raised in Texas I have found those that are from Alabama and Georgia use those terms more then we do. At first yeah it bothered me but I have learned they don't mean anything by it but only being friendly....bigsmile

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:41 PM
I tell you what, if a lady walked up to me in the store and said "Excuse me hon can you tell me wear the frozen peas are?". I would not only show her where the frozen peas are but help her carry them to the car.

4974's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:42 PM
too generic for me....gimee a name thats all mine.....

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:43 PM
r u speaking 2 me, cause i did not call anyone rude. however, that is an idea. let us explore that.......
people r rude because they call u hun/hon or some similar type familiar name. could be....what do u all think...

CORRECTION::::::
i stand corrected...from stoginess to stodginess...i said nerdy, and something else. correct meaning is pompous like pompous assp.

i checked. my asp is not pompus, it has long ears and eats grass.

tohyup's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:43 PM


oops offtopic Ok, first off... Krups has the coolest pics...

now back to the point...

I think they are only offended, if they think your a jerk or an ***... it's all in the woman's perspective...

you know, if they are attracted to you, it's going to be taken in a positive light... if they think your a piece of ****... your an *** for saying it!! (please excuse the language kiddies...)...

rofl drinker


Totally agree with you, but it also seems to depend on where you're from as well. I have noticed within the south as far as Texas, Alabama and Georgia they seem to use those terms more loosely. Not to offend others but due to that is how they were raised with the words. But now in some states others are offended by them.

But regardless if your dealing with someone everyday then it is okay but you never use those terms when it comes to business or those that you do not deal with in a day to day bases or friends.

So I can see what some are saying that they do not like it for me even been raised in Texas I have found those that are from Alabama and Georgia use those terms more then we do. At first yeah it bothered me but I have learned they don't mean anything by it but only being friendly....bigsmile

In some parts of Britain peole say " thank you love " and ....love...love all the time even when they never saw you before .

Duffy's photo
Tue 11/03/09 05:45 PM
my asp might even carry frozen peas 2 ur car. well for a price.noway