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Ok, to explain why I don't like it,
When I have a mate, I will call her honey, sweetheart, baby or another love felt pet name. Stop and think about this for a second. If I call everyone by these pet names.. doesn't it remove the specialness intended when I call my partner these names. |
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I believe there are certain ladies in the Baltimore area that are referred to as "huns". 
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Are you kidding?
My family is from Maryland, and people from there are KNOWN to hun ya. I love HUN!!! HUN. 
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Moving around the USA the custom of useing endearments such as Honey, Sugar, Babe, Darlin is taken as a friendly compliment. Other times it is considered a put down. Sometimes it is just a generic for service people to address customers in a hospitable way. I am fairly sure there are a few prostitues who have used the generic terms for the same reasons "Johns" call their mistresses generic names. If they don't get used to calling them by a given name they don't risk slipping up and useing the wrong name with a spouse. Truth be told it really harkens back to house servants/slaves were not allowed to call adult people by their christian name in an effort to prevent familiarity which of course existed. And is why today most modern working women detest it in the workplace and it is considered a form of sexual harrassment. Thankfully now most working women are not subject forced sex in the work place. Since I am used to such familiar names or nicknames being how siblings, cousins, and friends addressed each other if I do it is probably because I like the person and are trying to comfort them through a difficult experience. I will admidt I don't like someone sending me an email that assume we are that familiar when we have never met or sent messages back and forth. If someone takes offense at any point just say so and I would try to honor their wishes. Generally I am going to think they are a little too tightly wound and probably wouldn't interact with them in the future. Voice of reason...well said. 
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Edited by
Moblodite
on
Wed 11/04/09 09:20 AM
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Read through the posts...intolerance is such an ugly thing, eh? Some folks need to get out more...and accept the fact that maybe - just maybe - they aren't universally right in everything they say.  There is no obligation to tolerance within someone’s personal boundaries. People either respect boundaries or they don’t. Some may venture to guess a person would be acting like a jerk if they assumed they could act anyway they wished around strangers -- are anyone for that matter. There is no obligation to tolerance when discussion such a supercilious topic anyway. Do unto others is a wonderful thing to live by. Part of doing that is asking someone how they wish to be addressed. I was told to never assume how I should address someone (last name, first name, Miss, Mrs, Mr, etc). My father taught me that when I learned to speak. I was also brought up that I should never, ever be too familiar without someone I don’t know by calling them a nickname. My father was born in Georgia and raised in Texas; he was the father of manners. Exactly my point!! It just shows respect to use a persons name. I went to a certain smoke shop often, They hired a new checker, She called me sweetie, I kindly told her, My name is Rick.. please use my name. next time I went there, she again called me sweetie... I said... I have already ask you once not to call me pet names, My name is Rick.. take a good look at me and remember me. next time I went there, She again called me sweetie. Ok third time, I got mad..told her off. her manager was standing there. She no longer worked there. I give people respect!! I demand respect as well. On the other hand.. **IF** I were to go to a bar..... I would then expect to be called Hun, Darlin, sweetie and other pet names. |
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Myself, I strongly dislike being called hun, sweetie, darlin, or any other pet names . sounds like a bar whore is talking to me.... I see nothing wrong with hun, sweetie, darling,.....and they are not pet names . These words show warmth and affection . |
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You can call me Hun anytime
I always call everyone baby! 
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i usually call women by their name if i know it or just call them nothing at all if i don't......but for some reason when i am dating them and they keep hearing their name instead of hon,baby,sweetie.....etc. they get mad,i don't know just where a name tag and have "this is what i want to be called and thats it" on it,maybe then they won't get offended
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so ya huns and honeys out there, now that u got ur panties in a wad, what is the verdict?
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Never heard "hun" or any spelling of the word associated with a woman. Usually what women call their man. I wouldn't find it offensive; just strange for anyone to call a woman "hun".....It's a Term of endearment. Some people are crazy and all kinds of things set them off!
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Ok, to explain why I don't like it, When I have a mate, I will call her honey, sweetheart, baby or another love felt pet name. Stop and think about this for a second. If I call everyone by these pet names.. doesn't it remove the specialness intended when I call my partner these names. Why would you call EVERYONE a pet name, though? In that case; it probably would be something that is no longer reserved for someone special & the other party might object. I think some women like you to use their "name" because maybe they like the sound of it from the man they are with (or) are afraid they will forget their name (heehee!) |
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Depending on how it's said, I think it sometimes comes of as either flirty or condesending. Depending on the situation, it may not be crystal clear so why make someone guess what that term means to YOU?
Also, I know some consider it a term of endearment, but there's a rule I use to determine if endearment is appropriate. Consider this...if you don't know someone well enough to be sure they will like it, then it may not seem appropriate to them. |
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Are you kidding? My family is from Maryland, and people from there are KNOWN to hun ya. I love HUN!!! HUN. Psh! You're just trying to divert them from callin' you "hussy". ;)
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hahahahaha
okay so who won...huns versus the honeys, and i think the hons r ahead. personally i don't give a shitz. just don't call me "sweetie" cause it sounds like sweenie to me, and i hate that name.  
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