I'm just trying to come up with a song for every thread in "My Topics". It's not as easy as it sounds.

i have noticed this as well. I suppose everybody clicks the mutual match thing and stops there. nobody sends an email. this is suppsoe to be the avenue where people feel comfortable enough to make the first move.. i guess even in the virtual world, nobody wants to be that person.

I've been sending messages left and right- around 300 by my estimate.

Just for the record, I usually get responses when I email someone. More often than not, they email me. Some don't even bother to look at my profile to see what I really look like, they just send a message that starts with something like, I saw your post about ______________ and it made me smile ... or something like that. If you are depending upon your profile to sell your personality, perhaps you should try using your personality to sell your profile instead.

Honestly my friend I might be the only one to say it but "it is what it is." It isn't you. You could change your profile a thousand different ways and it wouldn't mean a damn thing. If you don't look like Brad Pitt to these women who are looking for the perfect guy then they won't talk to you. I would try to find things to occupy your time and try to meet someone you can talk to face to face. Try not to take things personally because believe me it is in no way a reflection on you. These women want some football player looking guy to talk to them. I have had a number of interactions with women on this site and I get responses from all the same women. Half of them are either trashy who will throw the p**y at you and you really don't want to touch them or they're generally unattractive in ways that I don't want to say on here to ruin my own chances but I'm probably going to deactivate my account anyways. The worste place to find someone is the internet because expectations are through the roof and women are so full of themselves they don't want to give anyone a chance. So go hang out with your buddies and meet some women at a place besides a bar. That never works either. From a guys point of view you're not an ugly man so believe me the problem is not with you. Good luck man and just kind of brush it off your shoulders because it is what it is.

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never mind

I can guarantee you 100% success. But for that, you need to travel to a different country, where -by the living standards-, you are way up on top. YOu could probably get like someone who would easily be a beauty queen if she would ever had the chance to compete. probably not even one, maybe 5-6 competing for your love.

Have you evern considered you are not their type?

I'm just saying ...

For once, I am forced to agree with MelodyGirl. It has been said that "it is a man's world". Well, I am not going to get into a philosophical debate on that subject at this time. But, I would add that in the United States at least, "it is a woman's world". Meaning, that our laws [marital, community property, common law marriage statutes], as well as our societal structure favor women and their rights.

In America, attractive women can have their pick of men, whether they are handsome, rich, beggarmen, or thieves. "Mingle2" is no different. I have heard one frequent blogger and a very attractive woman state that, "I get an average of 75 e-mail messages a day from men". According to her, she is constantly bombarded with male attention. Let me tell you quite sincerely: that is the way of the world. Women have what we men want. It is the law of supply and demand. It may just come down to the fact and reality that the women who you message are not interested in you; no matter how your profile is configured.

And, most of them did not go through because you sent out too many too quickly. Unless you only sent a few a day, Mingle blocked them mistaking them for spam.

there's nothing on your profile about what it is you are seeking--otherwise it's good...

good luck!

Well actually I'm (supposedly?) up there from the female perspective as well.

I don't think it's that they're looking for royalty, just that when you don't know what you're looking for it's too much trouble to decide unless the person is a level above what they expected they could find.

I'm plenty familiar with the streets paved with gold perception thing but I don't want a trophy, personal servant, or mix of the two.

So I'm nobody's type?
Mmmmm, no. I know better than that.

Most people would, in person, hold at least a small conversation and judge if they were each other's type based on how awkward it was. Not necessarily all kinds of awkward- the deal killer is when someone shows they don't have the capacity to be less awkward, as if they are defective. Based on where people hold their standards any number of other things can also shut the book.

An important one of these is how many people approach the other person. (Decent) Women at bars will only ever be swayed by people that are basically masters of picking up women because they're getting so many people approaching them.

The same thing probably plays in to these sites but I haven't been expecting the people the get that kind of attention to respond to me, or at least not hardly ever. Unless even very average looking girls get dozens of messages a day this this shouldn't explain why so few respond to me.

300 messages. 1 year. Not just this site. Usually between 2 and 5 a week, occasionally more, only once being around 20. I read people's profiles and then think about what I am going to say so they're not ever sent back to back.

Alright.

It's going to take me quite awhile to think about how to describe that in profile-speak. Anyone got any tips that could help me speed that up?

still have your picture in a frame,hear your footsteps down the hall

So I think I work better with being asked questions than I do with being given instructions. Would anybody else like to give this a shot that way?

I got your profile and liked it but what do I know I'm a guy who doesn't date much. I think the ladies are right you have to at least pretend to like or possess the rosy superficial things they do in order to land one. Wow that sounded jaded. Lets try that again. Do what the ladies told you to do you will probably be more successful. Except don't listen to the one's that tell you to change your profile and in the same breath tell you to be yourself. I assume that the profile as it stands reflects who you are and that clearly is not working. For what its worth as a heterosexual male I'd have no problem hanging out with you. We could both sit around thinking about our unfulfilling jobs and playing video games.

Also, I think what Melody is saying in a soft peddled way is your not George Clooney. Diligent is correct, you/we have to have something women want, fast car, lots of money, rugged good looks, and or fame. Invent some kind of vaccine and you'll be in there buddy!!

I disagree with your statement that women want ... "fast car, lots of money, rugged good looks, and or fame."

What women want will be different from each woman you ask; to assume women are that superficial is to also believe that all mean cheat and lie. Generalizations are evil.

I know most women do not want an obtuse personality that can't accept the multitude of advice already given.

"Beating a dead horse"

"You need things you can't reasonably get to attract women who are jaded" is a better description of it. Anyone that gets hit on over and over all day long is going to start to just ignore most of it unless someone really stands out. Most guys don't relate since we're the ones expected to do the asking but I'm been listening to researchers talk about how humans react to modern society a lot.

It does seem like most black women are eager to respond though. Too bad Utah is white even in comparison to the usual white majority areas.

Why is your profile headline "no"?

Vaccine Shmaccine, it's a piece of cake to insert any DNA you want into cells these days (except maybe full chromosome transfer,) so you just break the needle a virus uses to get into cells in nine different ways so there's no hope of fixing itself by luck and then have a cell make a bunch of those and squirt that in someone's nose, or eyes if you're upset and want to take it out on strangers.



Now that, that's more the tone I want when writing about myself but I don't know how to do that while describing preferences and hobbies.

Because I was given the very vague advice "change it" and nobody ever got back to me about that. I've even asked if people were just not saying anything because it somehow worked.