I choose to sound angry when people give me advice I already understand. When I was younger I was very polite and just let everyone think that they were being helpful but I realized that wasn't really useful to either of us and decided to try to be more honest.

I've got possibly the worst track record of "stop trying so hard and it will just happen" possible and I can say that because I have not tried at all until starting one year ago. A variety of things I'm well aware of have made me prone to social anxiety so meeting entirely random people never happens for me, ever. The only way I ever made friends in the first place was being introduced by other people I knew but right at this point in my life my social circles have dead ended.


Now, I'm not asking people to tell me who I am. I'm asking how to say it in a good way.

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I live in Utah so I am perpetually bored. I know this is not a good way to advertise myself.
The boredom is well enough justified if you know what Utah is like. There is really very little to do so if you don't feel like playing basketball, going to the same pool every day, or walking around parks (and apparently nobody attractive likes parks in this state,) then you do things at home.
When I got bored I found weird Japanese media to consume but as we're all aware mentioning those at the forefront of who you are basically says "I'm nobody."

This isn't a big problem because I am a lot more than that but I can't think of how to describe it.
I'm smart. Not in the pocket protector and don't know how to talk sense- I've got a great sense of the timing needed to be a good comedian and I've got a strong memory so once I know what someone will laugh at I am enormously entertaining to be around.'

I'm not a clown though. I am very much an intellectual but I make people laugh and try to talk smoothly because I'm not "too smart" to function socially. Am I a dork? Yes, but only to the same degree as whoever I'm talking to.

I'm artistic and creative. I've got impressive control over fine movements of my hands and a knack for design. I'm always finding new ways to express that and the things I put on paper are dwarfed by the mountain of ideas I've fleshed out well enough in my head that I could put them on paper.

I'm opinionated. I make up my mind about current issues quickly but unlike a lot of people I can support my opinion and I'm actually open minded enough that a well thought out argument can sway me.

But I'm not only good at mental types of activity. I'm a natural skier, though not very skilled because my mother was a spoiled sport and never wanted to go when I was younger. I'm good enough at sprinting to catch animals when the rest of my family have decided that running after them would be a futile effort and my legs also have the endurance for hiking. My high pain tolerance probably plays into that sort of thing because I get tired like anyone else but the distance between tired and exhausted looks to be much greater for me.

So I'm asking you not to say these things about me but how to say them about myself (or to give me any guidelines for how to take more pictures of myself without just taking the same picture 9 times.) Can I just copy and paste most of this into my profile or should I rephrase it? Is there something I can do so that people won't read it as anger but instead as enthusiasm? Are there other things I should talk about? Is my writing style too challenging for most people's reading level? Is this too much information?

annoying. be seeing you

I know I tend to be long-winded myself, but my brain went numb reading your post.

Don't bore your potential dates to death!

No one can describe you but you. As SingMeSweet said, people will perceive you in their own way based on your profile. If your profile is dry, without personality, and flat then it IS what it IS.

Relax; lighten up and have fun though! Stop over analyzing -- it's getting annoying.

Hi

You should add more pix.

Your essay is ok but I would add a little panache so it's not so perfunctory. If you are that straight forward and dry, by all means, don't change who you are; however, if you can cause a smile or a giggle for the reader you might have more luck. Definitely add more to your essay though.

I'd say about 20% reply rate is average. I've been on the site since January and only went on 3 dates. I don’t know if the lack of success is due to apathy, laziness, or online gigolos trying to play the field. I find that suggestion entertaining though. How pleasuring can an online harem of girls be? Sticky keyboard anyone?

To follow the crowd, it takes time.

Have fun!

My ORIGINAL reply to you:



You asked:
"-IS- my profile dry flat and lacking personality?"

I said in my first reply to you "YES it is" and aside from my advice you have 3 pages of advice.

You are acting like a 12 year old that wants someone else to write his homework essay. Pull up your big boy pants and write something else -- other than what you have -- using some of the advice within this thread and see if that is better.

You are treading in the same vortex without initiating a change. Just do it!

How?? Read other profiles; read other threads in this topic offering advice on a better profile; research; trial and error!

When you were in school, did you pay someone to do your homework or did you bug the hell out of your teachers like you are here -- and asking for the answers to be given to you? Just do it!!!

My comments are in total frustration but also meant with all due respect. We tossed you the life jacket but you have to swim to the boat yourself.

My advice and humble opinion:

Please listen carefully to what they tell you and if your really intrested in their advice
Do it!!

They gave good advice. They are intelligent people

Melody has really said all anyone can say to you

Now run with it or no one will WANT to chat with you

All my best to you

Your profile is actually very good. I'm not sure how different it is from when you started this thread a few days ago. But, I just now looked at it and it's very good.

The honest truth is that you're not likely to meet anyone on the internet. Yes, there is a small percentage of people that do, but most don't. And, I don't know why people sign up for a dating site and then never email or respond to emails. It happens all the time to all of us here.

But now I'm going to undo most of that thank you by complaining about how you couldn't at least say yes/no/not sure about the items on the pictures list :(

I choose to sound angry when people give me advice I already understand. When I was younger I was very polite and just let everyone think that they were being helpful but I realized that wasn't really useful to either of us and decided to try to be more honest.

Why get angry at all? You asked for advice. That does not mean you'll always get advice you want to use. Just say thanks and take whatever advice you think will work for you. If you're going to get angry, you might be better off not asking for advice to begin with.

I know, how dare anyone reject you after you went to all the trouble of writing a message or copying a pasting one to them?

Well maybe not. After complaining about no explanations of picture advice I did get the one response from Ruth but that was that I didn't need more pictures so I still don't know the answers or even starts of them about anything I asked.

Would people respond to me if my replies were shorter and dumber?
Like "More pictures? What is more pictures?"