Well, google "quotes" and find something that you like and put it up there. Don't leave it "no".

The secret passcode is wink, wink, nudge, nudge, hug, wink, kick in the butt, wink, blow them a kiss.

Shoku

My darling boy.....


Listen to me... Put your ear up real close to your monitor......






STOP!!!




I think you are insulting the intelligence of everyone who tries to help you!!



Pick up your big boy panties
Storm the forums

Where you will meet literally hundreds of girls!!!!



Forget your own profile for just 2 minutes

Go meet and greet!!!!!


Or is that the real problem?????


Said with love and just my opinion. Really

You seem to want people to tell you exactly what to write. That has to be your own decision. Many people here have given you ideas, yet you just complain that no one has gotten back to you about things.

Everyone writes there own profiles with a little bit of advice here and there. You have been given so much advice and you still SEEM to want us to give you the words.

Shoku, this is blunt but still stated without flaming you: you are being narrow-minded about your profile, stubborn, and irritating! I hope this isn't an example of your personality because you WILL have a hard time meeting anyone either in real-life or online. Your online personality is a turn-off so far.

Ruth gave good advice. If you are too "scientific" to be creative in describing yourself then Google ideas about your headline quote. I didn’t realize you have “No” in your headline. That is just smug and ineffective.

Gossip also gave good advice about getting in the forums and -- 100 pages ago -- I suggested you read other profiles. Reading others will help you see the mistakes but also help pick up on some good tips. Don't just read profiles of men for ideas; the ladies’ have good examples too.

I don't know what is so hard for you. Get your head out of the lab, the beakers, and the science and learn to be social, resourceful, and spontaneous.

Honestly, this thread should have been done and over after the first page.

I want you to repeat this 100 times while smiling: this is supposed to be fun!

"So do I have some fatal flaw about my profile or do people just sort of not reply much to anybody?"(shoku)

Dude, There is a fatal flaw. Please re-read your profile.
Really???? you've been learning to walk backwards???? AMAZING!

See what I mean? It makes me think there was an attempt at humour but seriously fell short. You and me brotha.... We can talk Bacteriology, Microbiology and Genetics all day long over beers... You'd talk and I'd probably just sit there and listen... Would the average woman do the same? Most likely NOT. And that's my point... I'm a salesman, have been all my life. The secret of my success in sales and the ladies revolves around listening and being able to carry a conversation about anything. Being book smart will not help you here and Being nice comes 2nd

You describe yourself as "above average" intelligence... I don't doubt that for 1 minute. But how come you can't figure out this formula? All the ingredients are there(advice from posters here)but still no luck?

Consider this... Let's say you meet a hottie here on mingle... a valley girl of sorts. Would you be able to communicate about things that interest her? and do so on an regular basis? Maybe but somehow I don't think so. The difference is I would talk about that flea bitten varmin in her purse and her new cell phone for as long as it takes(I'm kidding but you get the idea)

My advise is this... Get off dating sites, go to the library or book club and shmooze that lil brainiac(in your league)

Cheers

I've been signed up for two years (plus?) and I've only been to meet two guys. One of which was super cool and fun. I'd still love to meet some of the people farther away- not the point.

It DOES takes time. When you get all antsy just remember, she's got a lot to do as well. It'll happen when it happens you just have to be open and prepared (slightly) for the fact that love doesn't just happen right away.

I wrote no. If there's something wrong with that explain to me what it is and maybe point out a few other things I should avoid.

The advice to find a quote I like a few posts back did not do things for me but gave me a very clear direction to go and I can tell you it had never occurred to me to use quotes I like.
I am going to start actually doing that just as soon as I get a chance to sort through some of my favorite quotes for something I think would be useful as a headline.


I realize I'm doing a bad job of selling myself but as usual your advice is basically "stop sucking at this so bad," (in addition to "turn into someone good at picking up chicks in person.")

If I was having trouble with math problems and I asked for help understanding what I was doing wrong would I be in the wrong to not be very pleased when people told me "oh, well the problem is that your answer isn't the right one. You should make that be right" and when I ask people how I am supposed to figure out what the right numbers are would make any sense for them to respond "hey, I'm not going to write the right answer down for you. Stop being such a child and just do what I told you to"?


I started signing up for these sites a year ago because I was unhappy with how often I meet people in person. No, I didn't say chicks there Mr Salesman. I said people. The problem was that I don't meet anyone anymore despite my being out and about in the busiest city in the state every day.
I tried resolving to actively acquaint myself with people as often as possible but I stopped seeing people in any of the settings I'd have been any good at talking to them in (stopping people walking by on the sidewalk seems like a bad idea because they're busy going somewhere, or should I drop that line of thinking?)

Well, I'm probably pushing the limits of how much you'll tolerate (fuses seem short here,) so before you decide never to bless this ingrate with any more advice can you answer a question for me? If there was a fellow salesman having trouble making any sales, largely because he didn't know what sells, and for whatever reason you found yourself telling him how you do it what would you say and do you think he could just pick it up any just do it if he really intended to?

Well that averages out to 1 a year so the percent you're beating me by is infinity :/

So about how many people have you sent mail to/replied to in those two years?

Well I kind of like to not have to travel 500 miles to meet people face to face. There is that one forum for just people in my state but looking around that has shown me that Utah is apparently full of 50 year olds talking about the weather and that there are a few people way on the other border of the state my age commenting on how people in this state don't seem to reply very much.

Well, there's also the woman with an angel picture that seems to post in every thread but even she says there's basically nobody in there.

I'd probably have a better shot finding people in my state in the "under 30" board but that's mostly because I haven't looked in there and like to hope for the best.

Or does storming the forums mean something entirely different?

Man is a lonely flame in the night... he warms nobody, and nobody warms him. His fuel is his own desire. The stars blink at him, unmoved and largely uninvolved. What's the son of man complaining about now? These life forms and their unfulfilled desires... I'm sure glad I'm not a warm heart on a cold orb, said Vega to Orion.

I think Vega should hurry up over Deneb to meet with Altair~

Is there a meaningful difference between complaining and informing people that they aren't saying useful things?

I've sent out a few. Some have responded some have not. That's the way it works out in reality land too. You can shoot a guy a hot look or have an engaging conversation but it doesn't always lead to a date (or anything else).

One or two I talk to on msn on a semi-regular basis (Openwounds if you're out there I miss you!) but can't meet. As we live in different countries.

Again, your profile isn't bad. Though I don't understand the need to walk backwards? Also, as a girl aware to the dangers of internet dating I'm going to throw that out there as a possible reason. Some guys profiles I've seen...they don't make me want to meet them, in fact they make me want to board up my windows and buy a shot gun. It's frightening because you don't know what it's going to be like when you get them out in public. Regardless of how much you chat with them here it's always different out in the world.

Don't take it to heart. You don't seem scary so much as weird (which isn't a bad thing in my opinion).

Ya, weird. When I know who I'm talking to I manage balance but that sort of goes out the window with the effectively anonymous audience of you guys and the genuinely silent audience of people looking at my profile... not so much.

Hence the "how do I manage to sound like I'm talking to someone when I'm not?" theme to most of my complaining/arguing/whatever.

Mate,how are you approching these birds?,if your saying stuff like Am i what your looking for, or i think your what im looking for,like i belive i read back about a book ago!,no wonder man!,catch there attention,intreage them!,it might be a dateing site but we,r all looking for friends first not blind dates!,just chat man,some funky headline,then just say hi!,just snatched a peep and thort it rude not toooo!,C-YAAA! chow! :) ,your acting like you want a mail order bride from russia with LOVE!

it just takes more time than others, though i got an e-mail in the first day she was literally butt ugly...so that didnt really count

COMPUTER SEZ NO........,loosen up,you 23 not 73,mabey try a museaum?or a libery and antiqe shop!,grow your dream girl in a test tube!,or as youve got mega lungs buy a blow up doll and call her maltilda!

This is the best advice so far!

WARNING !!!! This thread causes brain damage.

You are really, really, really over thinking things.

Agreed!

There's a very simple solution to all of your problems in life my friend. Something that if you don't overcome you will never have the success in life you desire. You will never have the social interactions with people you desire and you will never truly be happy.

If you're a negative person and are ugly on the inside, people will know. Usually even if you try everything you can to cover it up people will still know and people just don't want to be around negative people. Until you're happy with yourself you will never succeed in life. Do you think successful people such as CEO's of companies think negatively? They think success, for you to win you have to think success. Doesn't matter what you want to do.

And I didn't get this out of any self-motivation book buddy, I used to a negative thinking person. Once I've changed that people respect me more, I get more dates and life is just easier in general. Take my advice, or don't it's your own choice.