Well said Ruth

I am here not to find love although it would be nice i know the chances are slim i am here to chat make friends and if allowed take a little peek in to others lives. Anna x

Thanks!

People look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them how much I've learned from participating in these forums.

So, I don't tell anyone anymore.

But, it's true. I really enjoy talking with other people here.

I agree that it was rude but I see it as only returning the rudeness to people.

Should I be happy that people don't listen to me?

The advice "It's good, don't change it" is understandable enough but I don't understand what other people are telling me to do and it's like struggling to understand someone talking in another language.

Edit: But hey, if the "this internet dating stuff isn't actually any good for meeting people" advice was right why does it matter if I burn bridges here anyway?

I didn't see anyone here being very rude to you. You're the one getting upset that you're not getting the exact advice you're looking for.

I've been ranting for pages how rude it is for most people to be responding the way they are.

Why is it so much to ask for some clarification?

Rate my profile constructive critism is taken as rude normally the truth you really knew but didn,t want to admit lol

I don't think you're going to get anymore helpful advice if you're going to continue being rude to people. Good luck, though.

You seem like a very bright young man. However, you also present as negative, arrogant, pessimistic, resistent to change, and argumentative. You have an answer to everything. How sweet to know everything.

If you can figure a way out of those, you will be full of dates. But as long as you continue to stay this chosen course, you limit your dates.

Now, that is a good thing if you are seeking a girl like yourself. Which is rare.

You'll find with maturity - perhaps - that if you're outside, it's never very goo to "break into jail". Good luck in pursuing whatever it is that you want. But the flow of advice might be a trickle given your somewhat irrational responses.

Maybe you could post a picture that appears more "mature" -Just a personal opinion but when I saw you I thought you were much younger than you actually are. Not to hurt your feelings mind you, youth is a wonderful thing....really but you do look very(very) young.

I let "dark" characteristics show through quite a bit more in internet discussion because they build value and you might notice I amped it up when someone said they don't know who I am.

I'm very displeased that people get the impression that I am resistant to change. I've been saying almost constantly that I just don't understand how to use their advice but more than that I immediately leapt upon the first criticism I received as an opportunity to heavily revamp my profile.

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So here's the thing. I want to be less negative. I tried to change my profile when I first heard that.

But there is a problem. When I make myself stop thinking negatively I stop thinking altogether. Inside my head it becomes silent except for negative thoughts that rise to the surface as my self control waxes and wanes.

So I have been saying that I need something else. People have thought I'm asking for the help a child would get where they go through step by step but JUST giving advice about how to deal with negative thinking is what I have been asking for.

People have ignored that and told me that I am essentially a rotten person for not having taken the advice I got.
"I still have a problem."
"You're just not trying hard enough" reminds me of what the people I know with Asian mothers go through and have you ever met anyone like that? They're entirely justified in being frustrated.


But at this point I really don't expect anyone to help me with any problem I have using their advice. I am defective for not being able to do it and I'll stop hassling people for what is obviously wrong with me.


So I haven't looked at other profiles yet. I know with plenty of certainty that I'm not gay but how attractive something looks is the only way I can think of to judge if a profile is good or not. What do I need to do to gain anything from reading men's profiles?

Yes, people think that in person as well. I know I'm trying to not complain so much now but I haven't been able to figure out why I look so much younger than other men my age.

Is my face too round? Have I made a terrible choice of hairstyle? Is there something I can do with makeup that would help?

We are not here to tell you the solutions to your issues. That you must find within. I suggest Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

We are not easy buttons, nor are we clinicians.

You must help yourself.

I've been helping myself for a year and the advice I got at the start indicates I was doing very poorly. So you are you telling me that I am supposed to ignore this advice?

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I'm wondering why nobody has said anything about what I changed the headline to. Is "NO" really an acceptable thing to have for that?

What advice are you talking about?????

I dont understand you, why not just relax and make friends instead of looking for conflict Anna x

You received advice when you asked for it. It's up to you how you choose to use it.

Is the OP mistaking feedback on his profile for advice on how to live his life? Is he not understanding what I'm saying?

He doesn't seem to like the advice he's been given, so he's getting upset with those who gave him advice when he asked.

It would appear the OP doesn't understand.