I think you;re chasing something that u might be missing in your life.... ??

Just my opinion..but when we seek something we KNOW we cant have..or something that we KNOW is not good for us, its usually because we;re missing something inside ourselves that we're constantly chasing.
If I were you, I would spend some time trying to figure out what it is that I need...what is it that I think those types of guys can give me that a nice, "good" guy couldnt>

I think maybe u dont really WANT a good honest relationship..maybe that scares you ...and so by chasing the wrong guys..u solve that issue...u already know it wont work out with them..so actually, u r sabatoging urself...ruining the relationship even before it begins..

I wish u luck hun...I think u have some persoanl issues to deal with beofre u get involved with anyone...
Sorry if that pisses you off..but thats my opinion...

Good Luck

Well spoken.

Hey. Who the hell said i was pushy...lol. Liars!! And I am far from ignorant. And arrogant while we are on the topic.

Its like shopping, you want some new clothes, you go to the store and look at a few and try on a few and put a few back before you find the one that appeals to you. Your going to find a lot more of what you dont want, before or stumble across the one that you do. You find the one that looks good on you. LOL

I don't mean to compare us men to clothing, but Im trying to make the point that the higher the standards you have, the more your going to find what you do want before you get what you really want.

I think if a person has an entitled feeling that they are going to up and down the line of people until they find exactly what they want are going to be dissappointed with what they get.

That attitude attracts only those people who are willing to play with her and dump her or get her to dump them by being a jerk. Players are real good at spotting the "Little Pretty Princesses" and spoiling them just long enough to get what they want.

Perhaps the reason it is tough to attract older men is they are too mature for such selfishness.

if you study ethics and philosophy, OP, it will help you sort through what you want and attract the right folks. JMHO

Thats not exactly the point I was trying to make.. lol

yup plenty of good guys, just need to let ur self out of the box, and take a chance for once.

Since I don't even know who you are, obviously I wasn't referring to you personally. However, since you took it personally, it's apparent you see some negative things in yourself that need addressing.

you guys, its not about me falling for "bad" or "good" guys, thats not what i meant. The guys are fall for are not good or bad, they are complex people just like all of us. Its that the more difficult it is to get someone, the more determined and interested i am . After all the thinking i ve done, i dont really thing i am that different than a lot of other people out there. May be ther isnt anything wrong with me, after all.

OHHH so you like chasing the hard to get guys, well maybe they are not taking you seriously, maybe they think your just a flirt and nothing more...Older mature guys steer away from that...
I dont know, Im just guessing

WOW that could explain soooo much!!!!
or not ...:(

He does not!!

Love does exist, just not the kind from the fairy tale books, that does not involve hard work, understanding, tenderness, forgiveness and so much more! If you are looking at someone with the "idea" already in your head what they are like, then you will be disappointed by every guy you go out with. By the end of this thread it seems like you are starting to believe there is not anything wrong with you. You are partially right, being a human being you have good points and bad points and that includes thinking! Consider the inside of any that you go out with and then take it from there!

Ok, this might sound odd for some, but for others it'll make sense. Guys are a bit carefull with pretty women. They drag a lot of attention, and while for some it sounds like something fantastic, it's not that easy. Anyone who wanted to date someone who creates a lot of attention around herself (or himself if it's a guy), the other will be extra careful and more suspicious. After a while It can be a drag. Just an example. I dated really good looking women, and it was normal thing, that if I was in a restaurant or bar with her and I happened to leave her for 5 minutes, I usually found guys hitting on her or she told me.
I was down at the beach with her and I went to get some soda, as I come back 3 guys standing around her asking questions. Same thing happened in the movie theater. I went to get soda and some dude wanted sit right next to her and wouldn't give up until I showed up.

So every good has a bad side too. So for guys, who know what's up and dealt with this sort of thing..dating someone again who brings a lot of attention might think twice again dating someone like that. It's not that you get jealous because if you know she loves you then you won't, but it still damn annoying.

i couldnt agree more! it s funny u would say that, because thats exactly what happens!
i hope there are some secure guys left out there who are not afraid of pretty girls@ lol

if it makes you feel any better i'll say that to my tastes your not attractive nor beautiful....nor you mindstate....
see not every guy likes you

damn, that was pretty rude. i'd grab a mirror if i were you, before i went around calling women ugly, you're no superstar yourself!

Did you read anywhere that i said that "every guy likes me"?
What is your point? I know what i am and i know what i have and what i dont. And while your opinion of me doesnt really bother me it s rude and shows some self esteem issues there.
Good luck to you

i never said i look like a superstar,and i would sleep with any woman if she were clean.