That's why I don't date so i don't fall for the wrong guy... solve my problem...

aww jeez, someone just make some "lawwww of attraction" reference like you mean it.

cmonnnn laww of attractionnnn. *rolls eyes*

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Only you can prevent forest fires

I thought it might be nice to get some objective opinions since i am here anyway.
So why is that? I always get attracted to the wrong guys, the ones that i know i can't get, the ones i know it s wrong to even think about, the ones that i know will be difficult to get due to different reasons. WHy? WHy? At the same time there are really nice guys out there who i know like me and want to do things for me all the time, and the more i know they like me the more not interested i become!
What is wrong with me??

huh?

Without knowing you I can give you a few discriminate reasons it happens.

1 Self esteem is not good and you are desperate, which leads to the following reasons

2 Moving too fast in the relationship and finding out they are not the right ones after moving too fast to begin with

3 You do not know yourself well enough to set personal boundaries of what you are looking for in a man and knowing he has to have these qualities or he has to be "for" someone else not you.


4 Not loving and respecting yourself enough to stop the relationship when you see the warning signs

5 You have the deadly "I can fix him" syndrom and try desperately to make him what you want, first in your mind and then in full blown changing effort. Usually telling yourself that if you love him better than any other woman ever has he will change the "bad habits" he has when you meet. Because you know no other woman is capable of loving him the way you can.

Etc....

I used to resemble this list, not anymore.

i think u r right about most of the things you said. I do feel like i can fix people many times. Needless to say, without success :( and still i keep doing it. And yes, i ve actually thought about this a lot. When i meet someone at first, i really do create this image, this idea about them in my head, and i think this illusion is what i actually fall for. Then i get disappointed because in reality they are different than my idea. I think i fall in love with the idea about a person rather than the man himself.
Thank you

I thought it might be nice to get some objective opinions since i am here anyway.
So why is that? I always get attracted to the wrong guys, the ones that i know i can't get, the ones i know it s wrong to even think about, the ones that i know will be difficult to get due to different reasons. WHy? WHy? At the same time there are really nice guys out there who i know like me and want to do things for me all the time, and the more i know they like me the more not interested i become!
What is wrong with me??

I don't know hon. All I know is that you are really hot!

I'm sure that's one way she falls for the wrong guys, when they tell her how hot she is.

and the more i know they like me the more not interested i become!

Could be! But probably the nice guys say that too!

She needs to be more picky and look for depth in someone instead of superficial and shallow people.


I guess she is going for the bad boys, but the really wrong bad boys who only go for her is to fulfill their own desires and wanting and probably want to get rid of her after a while.

I've never known a deep person.

Oh yeah, I forgot to give my opinion to the thread. Okay, here's what I think, you fall for the wrong guys cause you have bad taste in men. That's why I fall for them too. Now you know.

LOL..because you are on the opposite side of the spectrum. You are looking way too deep then.