I agree..u either choose to take a chance and put urself back out there..with the FULL knowledge that u could be hurt again..even more then I more time....orrr u choose to never trust again and definately live ur life alone...theres also a third option...choose to date someone for ur pgysical needs, get that taken care of,,with the understanding thats ALL it is...and still end up alone.

Love is SUXHHHHH a beautiful gift,personally for me, well worth the risk of having my heart broken again....

You have to make the decision of whether its worth it to you......

P>S> marriages dont just disolve suddenly...something wasnt right on her end long ago...otherwise, she wouldnt have left...but you need to accept that it was HER issue, her choice, not yours. If you honestly feel like u were good to her...u did whatever u could for the marriage...then ur mind should be free...she wasnt happy tho....and thats not on you..its on her..

I wish you all the luck in the world..dont be afraid to love someone....u might just be shocked at what u find waiting for you...

OK I give up...lol...Im not sure u even want advice, maybe u just want the attention..because NO woman..evven a 25 yr old one...would be upset over not getting a call from a guy u met 5 hrs ago..who just happens to be WORKING still..and u knoooo hes still working...ANDDD..u didnt give him ur number..u gave it to a friend....and ur spazzing because u acted shy and demure..OKKKK....then u have a problem sweetie..this is drama for the sake of drama in my humble opinion..and Im being even MOREEE dramatic by responding so much..lol..good luck sweetie...and I mean that...

Trust me sweetie, if thats the only reason he spoke to you..he isnt worth worry over like this..geezeeeeee dont stress so much abou this stuffff...lol

Ahh, ok I just checked your profile..ur 25 yrs old..that explains alot. And I dont mean tht in a condescending way honestly, lol. When ur 25 the world is all about NOW NOW NOW..I want what I want..when I want it...I've been there....

5 hrs is nothing..as someone said above..the guy probably isnt even home yet..and if he is..hes SUREEE as hell not gonna rush to the phone to call u immediately..he doesnt want to give the impression hes desperate either...

I DONT QUITE UNDERSTAND WHY UR SO CONCERNED ABOUT THIS? 5 HRS??? YOU GIVE THE IMPRESSION YOUR WAITING BY THE PHONE FOR HIM TO CALL BECAUSE YOU think HE MAY HAVE GOTTEN UR NUMBER FROM THE FRIEND YOU GAVE IT TO......??

I;M SORRY, BUT U SEEM VERY OBCESSED WITH GUYS AND THEM CALLING YOU, OR BEING THE RIGHT TYPE OF GUY..OR ON AND ON AND ON...RELAXXX..DONT THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT...WHEN U DO THAT, HE WILL COME ALONG...U CANTTTT FOCUS TOO MUCH ON THS STUFF OR U;LL MAKE URSELF CRAZYYY...LOL

AND JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION..UR A VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMAN...DONT BE IN SUCH A STEP BY STEP HURRY..LET HIM FIND YOU...UR GONNA GO BONKERS IF YOU LET ALL THIS STUFF GET TO YOU...RELAXXXXXX SWEETIEE

JMHO

jaded much??

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I didnt mean that you nlove them less..or more..the older you get...I meant..u love differently. When ur 20 and u fall in love, you think nothing but happy rosey pie in the sky thoughts about ur partner..they can do no wrong...when ur 40, and have lived a little..you look at them...you still love that person..but you can see that yes, they too have faults..they are not perfect.....they are not infallible..they screw up and they even burp and do the normal nasty things everyone else does..lol\

You dont love that person less...but you love them differently...you see the REAL person..not the blurry eyed version of what loves supposedddd to be.....
God help the person who lives their life actually thinking that theres some love out there for them who is PERFECTTT...someone who has no faults and no warts and comes straight from a fairy tale...it just doesnt happen like that....life isnt a fairy tale...

Now, in the meantime..my damn prince sureeee is taking his sweet time finding meeeeeee!! lol

I REFUSEEEEEE to think love cant last...!!!!

I think it definately changes...we evolve as people HOPEFULLY and we change...the trick is in realizing that doesnt mean the LOVE just goes away....it must change with us.....

The man I love at 20 is not going to be the man i love at 40...we've both changed. its natures way....if it really love, then u adapt to lifes changes...if its not love..then u move on...

YESSSSSS..love can lasttttttttttttt..it has to!!! lol

I think you;re chasing something that u might be missing in your life.... ??

Just my opinion..but when we seek something we KNOW we cant have..or something that we KNOW is not good for us, its usually because we;re missing something inside ourselves that we're constantly chasing.
If I were you, I would spend some time trying to figure out what it is that I need...what is it that I think those types of guys can give me that a nice, "good" guy couldnt>

I think maybe u dont really WANT a good honest relationship..maybe that scares you ...and so by chasing the wrong guys..u solve that issue...u already know it wont work out with them..so actually, u r sabatoging urself...ruining the relationship even before it begins..

I wish u luck hun...I think u have some persoanl issues to deal with beofre u get involved with anyone...
Sorry if that pisses you off..but thats my opinion...

Good Luck

OK I could be setting myself up for a backlash here..but heyy what the hellll!! lol

Here goes..

I personally am NOT attracted to a man who will let me..or anyone walk all over him...I like a man who is sure enuff of himself and who he is to stand up for himself when hes being taken advantage of. Now, that doesnt mean he should be a loudmouth blowheart either....

I try to treat people how I would like them to treat me...I think if we all did that...would there really be any such thing as bad guys or good guys?

There are definately women out there who get off on the uncertainty of being with the BAD boy...I think that speaks more for the character of the woman then the BAD guy....

Just my thoughts...lol

Absolutely I would..love knows no color..

You cant begin a relationship with one man while ur still in love with another..its just not fair.

Tell the guy ur with that u still love the other one...u dont know where it will be going with the one u love, but u owe it to the new guy to either be with him wholeheartedly or leave him alone and let him find someone who WILL love him .

As for you and the guy ur still in love with...tread carefully...he dint love u enuff to stay with you the first time...so if u go back with him be prepared to be hurt again...if it works this time..wonderful..but dont pin all ur hopes on him...its not likely he will love you enuff this time either...

Good luck hun...I wish u the best..

Too controlling...I dont want or need a man to change me...or control me..if you didnt like something about me in the beginning, why be with me? You shouldnt be with someone if you feel the need to change them, or control them.

I would neverrrr try to tell my partner what he could and could not do... he;s an adult..do as you please and let me do the same.

Basically, if u need to change someone..you dont belong with them, if u need to control them...they dont need YOU.

Just my thoughts..lol p.s...yessssssss just a tad bitter!! lol

1. Honesty
2. Loyalty
3. A good heart

Im sorry I dont think u read ALL of my comments...absolutely women are just as capable of cheating...I couldnt agree with you more, i was using the word HIM and HE and HIS because I am female and it comes naturally to me to use those words. I also said very clearly in all my posts, if I felt the need to cheat, I would leave the relationship first which I have done before. I meant NOOO bashing towards the male species...lol

Oh my lord this is a sore spot fo me!!!lol
where to begin?

Yes..if u r in a relationship whether in real life or online, if u both have expressed interest and feelings for each other, if ur thinking of this person as a possible PARTNER , then absolutely flirting online is cheating.

If u[ve just met, havent spoken about being committed to each other solely , then not so much.

I;ve been in a relationship with a guy who I thought was committed to just me, I knowwww I was to just him, and when i wasnt available for him for whateverrrr reasons..I discovered he had back up chick online who he went to for cyber sex. He also went to a sex site to look at girls cams. He claimed it wasnt real because it was online..not in the flesh.....Needless to say, his ass was kicked to he curb!! lol

Never, never,never!!

Ive been on the recieving side of a cheating partner, it sucks big time, but to me, hes the one who made an ass of himself lol. If Im not happy with someone, before i would step out on him, I;d leave the relationship which I have done on two occasions. I look back now and I feel very pleased with myself, I have no guilt like I would have had i cheated, my cheting exs cannot say the same for themselves, I will bet. lol

As for not knowing what hes doing when u arent there..thats on YOU. You either choose to trust someone (whether they live next door to you or thousands of miles away)or you dont. I;ve found in life its much easier to trust until you have reason not to. Thats what I expect from my relationships certainly.
Mistrust is actually your problem, not his unless or until he does something to warrent ur mistrust, Until then, u have to trust him or u have absolutly no trust.

Furthermore, a cheater is a cheater it doesnt matter how much u r able to keep an eye on him, if he wants fresh meat, hes gonna find it, whether u like next to him, with him or thousands of miles away.

Love is love...I would definately caution anyone to not jump in too quickly, its very easy for either of the people to just NOT contact you again if they decide to not be wih you any more, Take ur time, get to kno each other, trust me, if its real, if u have a genuine connection with the other person, its sooooooooooooo much better when u can say, I KNOWWW you, I know the kinf of person u r on the inside BEFORE you get to enjoy his physical body. Wayyyyy to many people talk on here and develope a friendship based solely on someones physical appearance,,, thats soooo wrong..beauty fades, beauty is trivial, and beauty does NOT sustain a real relationship. Get to know who he really is...and ur relationship will have a genuine real chance to grow.

tHE BIGGEST DEAL FOR ME HAS TO BE INFIDILITY. i HAVE NEVER..will NEVER CHEAT ON SOMEONE i AM INVOLVED WITH. iF i FEEL THE NEED TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE, i WILL TELL MY PARTNER AND MOVE ON. uNFORTUNATELY, THATS HAS SELDOM BEEN RECIPROCATED BACK TO ME. I HATE A CHEATER, I DONT DISLIKE THEM, I HATE THEM!
YOU DONT HAVE TO LOVE ME AND BE FAITHFUL TO ME FOREVER IF THATS NOT WHAT YOU WANT..BUT HAVE THE BALLS TO TELL ME UR NOT HAPPY WITH ME..TOO MUCH TO ASK?? LOL