I think this plan is seriously flawed.

Your instincts that this is too much to fast are right.

At 21 I can not understanding a parent/grandparent saying you can not do something you want to do. If you live with them and they are supporting you it would not be wise to openly defy their wishes.

What I understand even less is the parents of a 26 year old woman hosting a 21 year old stranger in their home. It sounds like either they see you as a meal ticket or they are trying to get their daughter to come back home from where ever she has been. Maybe living with and abusive boyfriend or husband.

Way too many red flags on this play.

you dont have your own means of transportation or money flowing in and you plan to spend the night with her already?

thats waaay to fast and her parents probably have an underlying motive

Agreed!!!!!

Adam, I think you should reconsider, if your family is strong enough, I am convinced that you will not be going anyway. I just want you to understand why they are interfering and not allowing you to do it. They love you, they know you better than we do, and they know what is best. Listen to them buddy, Ok....

Still don't agree, heck it's not like I'd be there very long anyway.

I'm not a kid though, and I resent being treated like I can't do a freakin thing for myself, or put down that I'm not good enough to do this or do that, why the hell not?

As for the rest, the girl has lived alone in an apartment for a bit now, no real issue there, and the meal ticket thing I would think is unfounded to say the very least.

Dude. Come on. Quit being thick headed.

You are doing the same thing here that you did with your thread about the 16 year old.

You ask, then when people don't tell you what you want to hear, you just plant your feet and tell us all we're wrong.

No one said you cant do it for yourself, we are just saying listen to your family, they know what is best...

I have my feelings on it, and yeah maybe I am stubborn, but that's just me. I don't back down on things just cause people want me to, not anymore.

well you asked if it was moving to fast and yes you are your family is doing this for your safety and because they care and really its it back to that 16 yrd old."even if her parents say no im going to see her anyway"

you dont spend the night with a bunch of people you dont know its not safe and its not smart

Then why do you even bother to bring it up???

Do you need reassurance and have someone agree with you?? Most people did until they got the full ( no job, no car, have to borrow money etc.. ) story.

Honestly I think they treat me like a freaking 5 year old protecting from me the world, NEWSFLASH: THEY CAN'T! I have to get out eventually, whether they like it or not. The more they push the more I resent them for doing that.

Look I know enough about this to know if I went I'd be ok, that they aren't gonna kill me or anything like that, but my family doesn't.

Ahh, c'mon now, if you got out there and something happened to you, it would kill them, its a stranger you never met before and your going to another state to stay with her and her family, how do you know nothing will happen. Have you guys talked on the phone have you guys seen each others pictures. what if they are internet predators and they are trapping you?

so with no emergency money or a car or you family s support your putting ou life and safety in strangers hands that you dont know b,c you met a girl and sence assuming shes nice its ok?im guessing you havent paid somebody to do a background check on these people so you dont know if they are dangerous

i don't know about too soon but when she tells you "i'm pregnant with your child",well it's too late then....

i just wanna handcuff jt..and whoops!

you may have seen these people but people who want to do harm do you dont always look like they will i think for your safety you need to stay home or wait until you have you own money and wheels but i think its foolish to spend the night like that