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Just trying to cover all the bases here. |
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O lord, you know most people go out younger on dates, and to dances, and with friends, and are on the road in their own cars. If he were deficent somehow, hed STILL have to live his damn life. If they dont wanna shell out some cash, they still should stay out of his business. hell be staying at her PARENTS for god sakes with permission. Alot of people his age have their own place, and go all kinds of places. Hell I have a retarded cousin who is married with a 2 grown kids. I mean come on.  ok yall can have this thread, Im done.. I gave my opinion Adam, what do you want to hear? Go get er big boy, knock her up and have a grand ole time, Do whatever you will. Im through with it... |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney  it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids!and you dont know these people or what they have done in thie past?a few days ago you were holding strong on a 16 year old girl.now you have no car no money and your family trying to help you and you want to be selfish and trust people you barely know after admitting your naive? |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done |
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it's too soon coz it just is!
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Edited by
Kleisto
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Tue 08/04/09 02:27 AM
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. |
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I dont care what he does. the point is, he has no job, no car, no license to even drive a car, no money. right now he is depending on his family 100%.
If they say no, then what else can he do. If he is so able, then he can get a job, get a license, get a car , get a place to live and get laid in any way he wants too, or sees fit. No one can stop him. He asked for advice we gave it, we told him to go get her, after I found out his situation and his real circumstance, i turned back and changed my opinion. Now we are the bad guys... for what? giving our opinion. No thanks.... |
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aww don't mock we were all virgins once
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. Ok then why don't you get a job and move out, Why can you not get a drivers license, why are you not allowed to do laundry or dishes or cut the grass? Why do you stay there and let them control you? What is the reason for it? If it is so bad, what is stopping you? |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. Ok then why don't you get a job and move out, Why can you not get a drivers license, why are you not allowed to do laundry or dishes or cut the grass? Why do you stay there and let them control you? What is the reason for it? If it is so bad, what is stopping you? Honestly, I think this may be the breaking point, I'm tired of being told I can't do things, I want to prove to them I can, and maybe even to myself on some level too. |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. Ok then why don't you get a job and move out, Why can you not get a drivers license, why are you not allowed to do laundry or dishes or cut the grass? Why do you stay there and let them control you? What is the reason for it? If it is so bad, what is stopping you? Honestly, I think this may be the breaking point, I'm tired of being told I can't do things, I want to prove to them I can, and maybe even to myself on some level too. see, your not even sure you can do it. your 21, is there any other reason why you cant legally leave home |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. Ok then why don't you get a job and move out, Why can you not get a drivers license, why are you not allowed to do laundry or dishes or cut the grass? Why do you stay there and let them control you? What is the reason for it? If it is so bad, what is stopping you? Honestly, I think this may be the breaking point, I'm tired of being told I can't do things, I want to prove to them I can, and maybe even to myself on some level too. see, your not even sure you can do it. your 21, is there any other reason why you cant legally leave home Do you know why I have problems believing in myself? I'll tell you why, it's not because I'm mentally retarded, or slow or whatever you want to call it. It's because for one thing, from both sides of my family at different times, I've been told oh you'll never do this, oh you can't do that, you got too big a gut, you're a tub, you know what you're doing is wrong, that your beliefs are wrong (even when it isn't that simple), etc etc etc. That stuff gets stuck in your head, to where it's all you see in yourself, you only see your failures, you only see the bad parts of you that need fixing either in your mind or someone elses. Now does that mean it's ok to keep going on living like that? No it doesn't, in the end we do make the choices of how we let our past effect us. But just the same it's not always easy to move forward when others around you keep bringing you back to what you're trying to get away from. |
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http://www.answers.com/topic/maslow-s-hierarchy-of-needs
This may explain some. |
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Maybe someone in her family needs a kidney it puts the lotion on the skin and rubs it in unless it gets the hose again.. as for being naive you dont know that until something happens and so now your a trained eye? If something was wrong, I'd likely know it let's put it that way, especially given we've spoken on the phone several times. "likely" "maybe" you would but its soo easy to hide your ill motive over a phone overly trusting perfect strangers can get you hurt and or killed its great that you think the world is so nice and safe tell that to my brother whos been fighting over seas where any minute he could die and there are people over here selling meth to kids! I never once said the world is nice and safe, I know very well that it's not, however at the same time we can't live in a bubble and be afraid of everything either, and not everyone has a ulterior motive in what they do or what they say. then tell ya what go get her pregnant go be with random strangers but sence you not allowed to do anything like dishes there may be a deeper reason why they want to keep you safe..im done Why is it assumed I'm gonna have sex with her if we meet? I'm not! And no there is no deeper reason, except for them being overcontrolling. Ok then why don't you get a job and move out, Why can you not get a drivers license, why are you not allowed to do laundry or dishes or cut the grass? Why do you stay there and let them control you? What is the reason for it? If it is so bad, what is stopping you? Honestly, I think this may be the breaking point, I'm tired of being told I can't do things, I want to prove to them I can, and maybe even to myself on some level too. see, your not even sure you can do it. your 21, is there any other reason why you cant legally leave home Do you know why I have problems believing in myself? I'll tell you why, it's not because I'm mentally retarded, or slow or whatever you want to call it. It's because for one thing, from both sides of my family at different times, I've been told oh you'll never do this, oh you can't do that, you got too big a gut, you're a tub, you know what you're doing is wrong, that your beliefs are wrong (even when it isn't that simple), etc etc etc. That stuff gets stuck in your head, to where it's all you see in yourself, you only see your failures, you only see the bad parts of you that need fixing either in your mind or someone elses. Now does that mean it's ok to keep going on living like that? No it doesn't, in the end we do make the choices of how we let our past effect us. But just the same it's not always easy to move forward when others around you keep bringing you back to what you're trying to get away from. In the end, it is up to you, if you are able, then do it. You will hear that all of you life if you just sit there and listen to it, do something about it and show them they are wrong. |
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Go ahead and meet the woman. This may be the most convenient time and place for it.
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This is what I do.. if I find someone local on here, I don't waste a lot of my time with emails, and I don't give them my number or anything. I just arrange to meet up somewhere. Then I can decide if I even want to pursue future dates or communication in any form...
Life's too short to get all involved with someone on here only to find that you really didn't like them that much anyway. Go for it, meet up with her, then decide how you feel after that 
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Oh, for the love of money!
 If you are dead set on something, why ask if it is OK? WTH? We aren't your parents, we aren't your priest. Just buck up, be a man and do what you want without asking permission from your family or us. Just be willing to deal with any consequences. |
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I do admit I got things to work on too with a license and all. Ya think??? License,job, car, then drive to see her...in that order. You live near Detroit. That makes seeing someone that lives in Ohio, Illinois, Minnesota or Wisconsin ( depending on how far North they are in the last two states ) a whole lot easier. There is so much else in this that needs to be worked on before you meet this chick or any one else for that matter. Learn to Drive, get a job, etc etc. And good heavens do NOT have sex with her. A pregnancy is not something you need OR can clearly afford right now. |
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