Don't you think it's kind of irresponsible of you to encourage a young man to put himself in an unsafe situation? He doesn't know this woman or her family. They could be murderers, they could be anybody. You say you have children, would you want someone older to encourage them to endanger themselves in this way? Even if you're "just kidding around" he might listen to you, be careful what you say, please.

If they're perverts or killers, you won't be anywhere for very long. I'm not trying to scare you, I just want you to think. Do you watch the news? There are crazy people out in the world just looking for "easy marks," try not to be one of them.

Okay, I got sick of going back and re-reading the same stuff for pages and pages, so I'm just going to post this and then I'm over this thread. I'll tell you again- when you post stuff on a public forum and then ask for opinions, there's a pretty good chance you're going to get them. And unless the people you're talking to have been paid to agree with you, you're not always going to like what you hear, or in this case, read. If you don't want honest opinions about your decisions, DON'T ASK FOR THEM. It's just that simple. There's no way in hell everyone is going to agree with you.

You keep saying you're 21 and you're old enough to do whatever you want, but you know what? You're not acting like it. A mature 21 year old man doesn't put himself in unsafe situations. You've talked to this person for a day? You say she's 26? How do you know? Because she told you? I used to talk to a guy online who lied to me and told me he was 25, showed me this super hot photo of himself, weaved all this amazing lies about himself, and you know what? He turned out to be 50, married, had a couple of kids, and was a complete liar and stalker. He was insane. You cannot trust everyone you meet, especially on the internet. I can be anyone I want on here. You know nothing about me besides what you see on here. A responsible adult thinks and doesn't trust blindly.

It sounds like your family is attempting to look out for you, but you're right, they can't really force you to do anything, unless they decide to declare you incompetent and then you will need a guardian's permission to do anything. Not to be insulting, but it sounds like this might need to be done. You are not making wise decisions; trying to hook up with children, going off to meet people you don't even know and stay in their house "because I know they would never hurt me." You don't know what they will do to you. People are capable of anything, and just because they claim to be a family that doesn't mean you will be safe. There are crazy families and these people don't even have to be related, just because they claim to be. Did you hear about the wife who helped her husband torture women he had kidnapped? Yeah, some women are capable of that.

I read your profile and I understand you have faith in God and you think he will protect you. That might be true, but remember, God gave you a brain, and he did that so you can think and possibly prevent anything bad happening to you, if possible. No we can't prevent everything, but this is not one of those situations. I don't believe out of the entire state of Michigan, there isn't a girl you can meet safely. I used to live there, so I know there are women your age nearby, who you can get on a bus and go meet for coffee or something equally safe. This is not something you HAVE to do. It's something you are determined to do, simply because people have told you shouldn't. And believe me, hun, that's not mature behavior. Only children do things out of spite, "just to prove they can."

I hope you will listen to the voices of reason on here, people who are encouraging you to put yourself in danger are not thinking of you. They think it's funny to tell someone something stupid, but I bet if it was reversed, there's no way in hell they'd do it. Use the sense your god gave you.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Yea but I didn't realize the guys situation until well after the encouragement, didn't know he lived at home, didn't know his status in life, but as soon as I found figured it out, I turned my opinion around real quick.

You know something, I'm starting to think I shouldn't tell you people anything, cause no matter what I do, you're just gonna find fault with it, even if I know the real truth about the situation that some of you don't see. You may think you know the truth, but you don't, you are simply assuming, not even trying to see it from my point of view at all.

If that is the kind of comments I'm gonna get for opening myself up to people, to be attacked and called immature, stupid, naive, like I don't know anything about life, then maybe I just shouldn't open up at all, cause I'm tired of it, and I've had about enough, to where I think I'm just about done.

well that was immature











kidding. I'm just kidding

you asked for our opinions if you cant handle the answers then dont ask we are not gonna say what you want to hear to make you feel better

It's not even that, it's one thing to be concerned, it's another to simply ignore my side of things entirely, which is what a lot of you here seem to have done.

Are you mad because some people don't agree with you? That's what happens when you have a thread. There are all kinds of opinions on here. It gives you different perspectives on a situation. Take the legitimate opinions and throw the rest away.

Btw, I, personally, would never spend the night at a house with someone that I talked to with emails for one day.

You're complaining that your parents wouldn't approve. I just turned 50 and I would never the end of it from my parents either. But..that's not why I wouldn't go.

and how long are you going to play the victim,where telling you what could happend we have had experience in life and you just sit there and feel sorry for yourself.so you have a few options either stop asking for advice get a job and a car an move out.obviously you think the world its just not really that bad then if you dont like what we have to say then stop asking and get up off your *** people in worse conditions have helped themselves so either hush up and do something and move or or stop posting

I never said the world is all good, I know it's not, but I have to get out too, whether some people like it or not.

Maybe I will just stop posting, cause I'm sick of being put down for having my opinions, I get enough of that crap in real life let alone on the internet.

well if you are gonna post in public forums be prepared t get real answers and not wine when people dont agree with you

It's one thing not to agree, but to me it crosses the line when you start to attack me and how I think entirely.

Kleisto, I dont blame you for trying to do what you want with limited resources. I personally think its lame that you should own anything to be able to see someone nice..


I dont see the big deal in borrowing the remainder of the cash, or you wanting to do what you want to do.. we all have wants, and needs, and you just wanna enjoy someone nices company and have a good time.


For whatever unfortunate reason you arent working, and dont have a car, liscense, etc. I can see why you like anyone else would want to explore new things and the world, and Im sorry your family shelters you, but I hpe you gain strength, and trust more in yourself so you DO experience newfound freedoms.

I take a chance myself walking out the door every day, once I was kidnapped, and held at gunpoint just walking through a park with friends.

ya think Im gonna stop leaving my house, or walking in parks because of that? Hell-to-the-no!

Do you shawty. If your gut tells you you shouldnt, go with that.


xo

i think if its right why not , go for it i dont understand why men are so scared of love

screw that bro, no need to second guess yourself. go with the flow.

I don't think men are afraid of love, they just don't want to be hurt, just like we don't.

He dont have the money to go on this trip, he is blaming his family for not giving him the money, so go, who cares, just go...
Im tired of this thread, later.....

For whatever it's worth, I wasn't able to go today, the time for it came and went and it wasn't gonna work with my family being as they were, so that's pretty much it for now.

This is exactly the thing, is the world scary sometimes? Yes, but we can't live in fear, cause if we do that, we're doing exactly what those who wish to scare us want us to do. We have to live our lives, regardless of what is out there.