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Topic: How soon is too soon to meet someone?
Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 05:19 PM
As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. Oh wow, I didn't know you planned to spend the night with them. Well, I guess you're old enough to know what you're doing. Just make sure you have plenty of money to get back home, carry your cell with you- hoping you have one- and let people back home know you're okay when you get there. I think I do lol, I'm a little fearful, never really traveled like this on my own, but I know if I'm to really get independent, I have to do things like this, even if my family doesn't want me to go.

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 05:20 PM
As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. And you get to watch a Tribe game??? I'd go... Yeah lol, more a Tigers guy but it's ok, I can support her team for one night. Helps they're playing the Twins who are close behind us in the division.

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 05:21 PM
If an opportunity arises that a person you've chatted with for a nice while is coming your way...or close by...I'd say go ahead and meet. If you put off meeting her, you will only keep wondering what it would be like to see her. So, in short, go for it! And be safe as Calleigh12 said. You're right, and even if it doesn't work out into anything I'll know for the future I can do things like this if I want to.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 08/03/09 05:22 PM
Go for it..

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Mon 08/03/09 05:22 PM
As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. And you get to watch a Tribe game??? I'd go... Yeah lol, more a Tigers guy but it's ok, I can support her team for one night. Helps they're playing the Twins who are close behind us in the division. No need to rub it in but it is a great place to see a game...

KimmiM Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 1694	Mon 08/03/09 05:26 PM
Go for it. If you click.. great. It's a good start on getting to know each other better. If you don't click, you don't waste time wondering "what if". Worse comes to worse, you spend a few bucks and a little bit of time.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Mon 08/03/09 05:30 PM
Bring condoms

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 08/03/09 05:32 PM
Bring condoms

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 05:32 PM
Bring condoms Those won't be neccessary, not planning on any of that, either one of us really.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 08/03/09 05:33 PM
Bring condoms Those won't be neccessary, not planning on any of that, either one of us really.

daytime Joined Sat 04/25/09 Posts: 2735	Mon 08/03/09 06:26 PM
As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. Her parents are having a complete stranger stay at their home to be with their dtr?? Hmmm.....

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 08/03/09 06:31 PM
As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. Her parents are having a complete stranger stay at their home to be with their dtr?? Hmmm..... Yeah, I thought about that, my mom would die first, LOL

daytime Joined Sat 04/25/09 Posts: 2735	Mon 08/03/09 06:35 PM
Yeap, I think my mother would freak out and say NO WAY.

Buttah Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 2382	Mon 08/03/09 06:37 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :)

AGoodGuy1026 Joined Wed 04/22/09 Posts: 1333	Mon 08/03/09 06:38 PM
go for it...ya only go around once... well, actually about 73 times on average, but yeah -- i'd go for it anyway...

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 08/03/09 06:39 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :) Every time I've ignored my gut instinct, it came back to bite me in the a$$. Good advice.

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 06:54 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :) So in your mind then you think my gut is telling me no? Is that how I am to understand it? As it turns out, the timing may not work entirely, depending on when she calls back tonight and all (she's asleep right now), but shall see.

Buttah Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 2382	Mon 08/03/09 06:59 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :) So in your mind then you think my gut is telling me no? Is that how I am to understand it? As it turns out, the timing may not work entirely, depending on when she calls back tonight and all (she's asleep right now), but shall see. Oh no, I just think you already know the answer. You stated you have 2nd thoughts, there is usually a reason for that. Just look inside to see the reason, and if you feel it is nothing, go for it. Only you know the answer. :)

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Mon 08/03/09 09:07 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :) So in your mind then you think my gut is telling me no? Is that how I am to understand it? As it turns out, the timing may not work entirely, depending on when she calls back tonight and all (she's asleep right now), but shall see. Oh no, I just think you already know the answer. You stated you have 2nd thoughts, there is usually a reason for that. Just look inside to see the reason, and if you feel it is nothing, go for it. Only you know the answer. :) Perhaps though at this point it may not even happen at all, my grandma (and mom too) both refuse to allow it to happen, they saying no I can't, I just can't. Ugh it's sooooo annoying, I'm 21 for crying out loud!

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 08/03/09 09:25 PM
If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why. If it is just normal nervousness or is your gut instinct telling you that you shouldn't do this? You already know the answer, that is why you asked. Good luck :) So in your mind then you think my gut is telling me no? Is that how I am to understand it? As it turns out, the timing may not work entirely, depending on when she calls back tonight and all (she's asleep right now), but shall see. Oh no, I just think you already know the answer. You stated you have 2nd thoughts, there is usually a reason for that. Just look inside to see the reason, and if you feel it is nothing, go for it. Only you know the answer. :) Perhaps though at this point it may not even happen at all, my grandma (and mom too) both refuse to allow it to happen, they saying no I can't, I just can't. Ugh it's sooooo annoying, I'm 21 for crying out loud! They just want to keep you safe. If you were 40, they'd still feel the same way. When you first posted, I didn't know you planned to spend the night in this girl's home. That puts a whole new spin on things. Going off with people you don't know and planning to sleep in a stranger's house, that scares people who care about you. If you were just going out for coffee in a public place, or were planning to get your own hotel room for the night(s) it'd be one thing, but put yourself in your family's position, wouldn't you be worried if they were talking about doing something like this? You hear horror stories all the time about people being abducted and held captive and tortured and killed- many of these are adults who thought they could take care of themselves. Your family is just being concerned for you. They don't want to see you physically hurt or worse.