divorcing direct n indirect are many and it suprising ,do they want to be free to satisfy their selfishness or what is causing this?

I date quite a it. Usually I meet a guy and am eh!

But not this one. I can't even pin why but I just really liked this one.

But yes I feel he did play games. I already told him prior that I feel he is hot and cold and hard to read. 1 minute he says he wants to pursue something serious but then the next minute he blows me off and seems uninterested that it is confusing......and does make me think he is playing field. 1+1 = 3 kinda nonsense!

The bottom line if he is only interested in fun then say so. I am no NUN. But if he wants more it is not fair to feed me BS. He had said that he feels same way toward me that I am hot and cold. Typical flip the script BS.

We had both agreed that our communications were off and would work on it. Still he never stepped up to the plate to make it exclusive of any kind instead the hot cold saga continued.

And the facebook drama as you say was not ever done intentionally. My friends did all of that as an inside joke and tagged me in it. I have guy friends and many photos of me and "friends" on there. What He got pissed over was the photo caption "cute couple" and the fact I didnt post that I had a man (him) which I never even knew he was my man.

All Pretty lame if you ask me and just unfortunate.

Overall I do agree he has some insecurity issues and control issues.....it is all his way or highway which is not the type of guy I would want to be with to begin with. If it wasn't this it would be something else a week from now I know.

So it is for the best realistically.

I still feel conflicted so to speak since he messed with my mind and played with my emotions GOOD....its been a flipping merry go round of BS.

I do not wish to play his game so hopefully he won't call

Maybe I am the psycho for liking a DB.....IDK!

AYE AYE DATING TALES ~

Im smart and creative...people waste their time asking the wrong questions...then they fail to realize what a gem you really are.

Energy and emotional vampires to me are people who suck first your emotions out of you, then your energy, and finally your life-force or will to live.

The vampires who suck these out of me are people who talk, I listen, and they keep on talking, and I keep on listening. I learned to stand up and leave them in the spot. Not on a date or a coffee-meet, but at large parties. I am not your sounding board, I say to myself, and I sometimes don't even excuse myself, but that's seldom. Later you see the same guy or woman wondering around, weaving in-and-out the crowd, looking for another person to listen to him or her.

There are other sort of vampires. I used to have this sweet honeybunch for a girlfrined, we loved each other to pieces. I was very happy, really, but really happy to see her again each time we met, and I was coming out in overdrive with my speeches. She used to say, eventually, 'Andrew... please don't wear me out', and even that was quaint and lovable when she said that. It gave me empowerment, you know, the pride a man feels when he exhausts his girfriend in bed. I know she did not mean it in bed, but the feeling I got from it was the same.

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There is another vampire: who asks questions. Questions that reveal they have very-very little understanding of human nature, and since I am strange, they just can't believe I exist, even though I am sitting right in front of them on the other side of the table at a cafe or restaurant. "Why do you..." "Because,..." and I patiently explain. My limit is usually ten questions for not so interesting women, and twenty with interesting (i.e. gorgeous) women.

Don't think badly of me, or that I am shallow... I have not been out on a date in seven years.

got called crass all because I do not tell my profression.


Does that truly make one crass?

When I get emails from new guys, the emails tend to be full of the same questions.

"Why are you single?"
"How long have you been here?"
"How long have you been single?"

Those are just a few of the questions that are asked by most. I'm sure I'm not the only one who gets them either.

Do you ask these types of questions when you email new people?

What other questions do you see over and over?

Has anybody here had any experiences with this type of individual? Generally, it's associated with borderline personality disorders and or Histronic behaviour.

I've been in a relationship with a lady on and off again but her dramatics and inability to maintain a grip on reality constantly tip the scales and I tend to boost out for a while. The consistent emotional rollercoaster gets very tiring after a while.

I'd like to hear others opinions and or stories about the matter (emotional vampires).

Strictly for my own personal and selfish reasons of course!! :)

Thanks,

K.

Just wondering why do people cheat when usually they have another half at times?

But what if a guy calls you beautiful, smart, AND sexy?

Is that overkill?

What if he is being honest? How will you tell?

Sometimes I think compliments depend on timing and how well you know each other. Personally, I'm not good at handling compliments from strangers or acquaintances. It makes me uncomfortable as I doubt their motives. It's one of those flaws I've been trying to work on over the years.

Online... it's easy to fall for "aspects" of another.
We see attractive things that excite us and think that this is what we want, see?
But time will have it's way with us... and after a while we begin to see other aspects as well.

Then we have to decide. Are we going to go with what we originally saw, or take in the scope of the whole person?

Most seem too scared to retract their original perception... I'd suggest not to fall for this.
While the original remains true... the additional info has significance too... it's not a contradiction to change your mind based on the newer info, see?

You fell in Love with what you saw... then saw something else. You stop and hesitate.
Crap happens... and you're left alone.

Don't wonder if your your love was real... or try to figure if theirs was too... that's a fool's errand.
Know yourself... they are gone. Move on.

But learn from the pain... players exist and if they played, you... so what?
That says more about them than it does you...

Can you pick-up and move on? I hope that you do...
Being in love... or really, really in love simply doesn't matter to them... but what's it mean to you?
Are you falling too quickly... why are you "falling" at all?
Try a controlled decent instead...
If they love at all... they will wait while you try to figure it out.
If they don't love.. they'll be grumbling everytime you're trying to get ready for the next date.
And the next date is the rest of your lives together...