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Kleisto
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Mon 08/03/09 04:58 PM
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too.
Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts? |
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Well I think if she is in the area then take avantage you don't know when it will happen again and you can see if you have that connection in person!!!
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Do it. It's just 50 bucks or so if it doesn't work.. Or more solitude if you just stay home.. Or, she's the ONE, and you click like PB&J.
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As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL
Rule one: be safe! |
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too. Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts? |
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I'm with Skit. What you got to lose......
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agreed go for it.. sounds like something that u lose out more if ya dont go
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go for it...ya only go around once...
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too. Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts? I guess I just feel like it may be too soon because of the fact that we only met a couple days ago. Could be overanalyzing though. |
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As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. |
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too. Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts?  go for it It may not work but you will never know unless you try
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yesterday is too soon...
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too. Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts? I guess I just feel like it may be too soon because of the fact that we only met a couple days ago. Could be overanalyzing though. |
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As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. Oh wow, I didn't know you planned to spend the night with them. Well, I guess you're old enough to know what you're doing. Just make sure you have plenty of money to get back home, carry your cell with you- hoping you have one- and let people back home know you're okay when you get there. |
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 go and find out if shes the one
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You have nothing to lose but time so do it. Like you said it might be a while before you get the chance to meet again so better to find out now if it's still worth pursuing later rather than to waste more time online and find out later that it's not what you're looking for.
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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too. Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since. Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is. But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place? Thoughts? I guess I just feel like it may be too soon because of the fact that we only met a couple days ago. Could be overanalyzing though. Good point I suppose. |
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And if it all for naught, you can file it under
'Internet Dating Mis-Adventures' And have a good laugh. And if it turns out good, good for the both of you. |
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As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL Rule one: be safe! I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here. And you get to watch a Tribe game??? I'd go...
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If an opportunity arises that a person you've chatted with for a nice while is coming your way...or close by...I'd say go ahead and meet. If you put off meeting her, you will only keep wondering what it would be like to see her. So, in short, go for it! And be safe as Calleigh12 said.
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