So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too.

Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since.

Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is.

But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place?

Thoughts?

how is this rushing..you actually have a chance to meet face to face..go meet her

As long as you meet in a public place it shouldn't be a big deal. Just meet her for coffee or something. If you don't like her, you can always just go back home. I met a guy like that once, after about an hour of chat, we decided to meet in person- stupid, I know, but whatever- so I took the bus to downtown Seattle, where I was living at the time. I took one look at him, decided hell no, and took back off down the street. I had a coffee in Starbucks, and took the next bus home. It was good coffee, so it wasn't a total waste of time, LOL

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So few nights ago, I looked at a profile and then found that the person who I looked at decided to add me as a friend. Figuring why not, I decided to accept, and we talked briefly. Next night, we ended up on the phone and online chatting basically all night and into the morning, and talked some yesterday too.

Now at this point we're more or less just friends, but I had found out she was traveling into the Cleveland, Ohio area today to visit family, and Cleveland is just a couple hours away from me being just outside of Detroit in the suburbs. So I had come up with the idea that maybe we meet for a day or two while she's home. She didn't mind the idea (although my family has), and we've been trying to work out me getting there and all by bus since.

Today though I've been having some second thoughts, I mean I do want to see her and I know she wants to see me, to see just how things transfer from over the phone/online chat to real life meeting, especially considering she won't be in the area again for a while considering the costs to travel from where she lives, and not having a whole lot in the way of funds. The same could be said for me traveling to where she is.

But at the same time, I wonder if this is too soon, if the timing isn't right and by meeting we're sort of rushing this, or is it possible to rush a real life meeting in the first place?

Thoughts?

I guess I just feel like it may be too soon because of the fact that we only met a couple days ago. Could be overanalyzing though.

I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here.

yes you are...look at as if you just met her for the first time in person as in never met before,is that considered rushing?

I know, the plan as it is now is her and her mom would meet me at the bus station in Cleveland, we'd go to an Indians baseball game, and I'd spend a night or two at her parents before coming back here.