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Where are the newbies
 i feel like pimp slapping someone 
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But seriously, who is this Pollyanna? She sounds sweet. C'mon now. somebody take the bait. See, yall are all ganging up on me because I'm a newbie and my joke wasn't very funny. Luckily for me I always laugh at my own jokes. |
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Edited by
jerseygirlSINGLE
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Fri 07/31/09 01:32 PM
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the newbies back there
  here he is
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Where are the newbies i feel like pimp slapping someone Is it in anyway possible,that you take your frustrations out on people you've never met, due to the feeling that you are powerless in your real life, and nobody out there truly respescts you? Just a shot in the dark. |
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Dammit, I'm witty today.
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Where are the newbies i feel like pimp slapping someone Is it in anyway possible,that you take your frustrations out on people you've never met, due to the feeling that you are powerless in your real life, and nobody out there truly respescts you? Just a shot in the dark. methinks, and this is just a random notion here, that he's not entirely serious... 
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 who's attacking who here 
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am i the only one who notices that SOME of you guys gang up on newbies? whether it be for perceived rudeness toward a friend (in which case there is a double standard because there is no backlash when the experienced minglers are rude to newbies) or because they posted a thread that may have been done before many times but is new to them... the reasons vary but i've noticed an air of condescension sometimes... just wondering what you guys thought... maybe i'm crazy?  (i'm not sure if this thread is against the rules, if it is i apologize) |
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who's attacking who here My precursor of is it possible and just a shot in the dark were tactful disclaimers. I have seen enough bullying for all the wrong reasons to begin to get a belly full however. sorry I took your misguided joke the wrong way. |
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who's attacking who here
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2 werds  Singles site, dating site. The average joe /joan would automatically expect SINGLES to be here. and again, I know the drill here.. BUT.. many newbies don't. And this is the thing that gets my goat....everybody seems to forget the third set of two words: SOCIAL site! Not everybody is here to "date". It's really not that tough of a concept for anyone to wrap their head around. |
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Jasmine, I completely agree with you. I'm not talking about the new posters that some might call rude. I'm talking about someone and a first post that they just got out of a relationship and thought they would give internet dating a try. I've seen smart responses like- what's your point? This doesn't fall under attacking but is sarcastic. I also wonder how many never bother to repost again.
I do think that younger posters are singled out more frequently for the sarcasm. Say someone makes a first post in music about a certain band or song and the first response is you call that music? I think we are losing many people who might participate but were turned off by a negative response as a first answer. Answers are probably viewed as being intimidating and they just don't bother posting again. Many new members are not used to posting in forums or know what to expect. I think it scares off many from posting on the forums. |
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Jasmine, I completely agree with you. I'm not talking about the new posters that some might call rude. I'm talking about someone and a first post that they just got out of a relationship and thought they would give internet dating a try. I've seen smart responses like- what's your point? This doesn't fall under attacking but is sarcastic. I also wonder how many never bother to repost again. I do think that younger posters are singled out more frequently for the sarcasm. Say someone makes a first post in music about a certain band or song and the first response is you call that music? I think we are losing many people who might participate but were turned off by a negative response as a first answer. Answers are probably viewed as being intimidating and they just don't bother posting again. Many new members are not used to posting in forums or know what to expect. I think it scares off many from posting on the forums.  |
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Where are the newbies i feel like pimp slapping someone YOU slap me and i will sick my Frogs on you and they will I promise you they will eat all your fly's in your house so you will stop swatting all the newbies on this site!!!!!! we are just starting to figure this stuff out......... and I think i have got it....... be a smart "ask me no more question behind the refrigerator".... just have fun..... The cutest thing just happen, so my grandchild granddaughter just said, Grandma Julie i have to go to the restaurant, right here.... to take a piss......... omg......... that was so funny...... you mean Restroom no those are at the restaurant! |
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If some people get their ego bruised so easily because they have no backbone of their own, by something said by someone else on a website, how in God's name do they ever make it in real life? If that's the case, there's obviously more issues to them than meets the eye, and they probably have no business being in the internet in the first place.
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If some people get their ego bruised so easily because they have no backbone of their own, by something said by someone else on a website, how in God's name do they ever make it in real life? If that's the case, there's obviously more issues to them than meets the eye, and they probably have no business being in the internet in the first place. in that case, why don't we just abandon the rules and bash each other then. receive as much as we give for the sake of growing some backbones. mods where are you! i think this idea is briliant!  |
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Oh, noooo. We must instead do what everyone else suggests: Pat them all on their little heads, agree with them, and tell them everything is going to be okay. Coddle them some more. Give them more of a false sense of security than life has already given them.
Sorry, that ain't me. |
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Edited by
msmyka
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Fri 07/31/09 02:43 PM
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It's not about backbone it's about someone new coming onto this site, and who knows maybe this is their first time on any dating site. If they are already apprehensive about it then someone attacking them about their first post is likely to confirm their worst fears about dating sites. I do have a backbone but if someone did that to me on my first post and the site allowed it I would probably look for a new site.
Edit: It's more about tact than anything else, and if you don't have that then you're not likely to make it through "real life" either. |
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i think, too, that a lot of what a person is trying to convey is lost in the style of their writing.
there are not very many people who are capable of writing emotion, even with the addition of the emoticons, so much of what is said comes across as sounding coarse, abrasive, rude and judgemental. i know i'm guilty of this - i think my writing style is standoffishish and snobby. it's not what i mean to give off but it's the way that i write. it isn't so noticeable in chat mode, or private email. i think there are a few others who would sound totally different (to the offended newbie) if the words were heard in real life. |
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Edited by
JasmineInglewood
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Fri 07/31/09 02:44 PM
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Oh, noooo. We must instead do what everyone else suggests: Pat them all on their little heads, agree with them, and tell them everything is going to be okay. Coddle them some more. Give them more of a false sense of security than life has already given them. Sorry, that ain't me.  this thread is, and has never been, about agreeing or disagreeing with anyone... it's about condescension, sarcastic remarks, mockery and double standards... |
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