For the sake of argument, let's suppose for a second that you're a newbie. You've just signed up, and you want to create your first thread. Stepping back and thinking about it for just a minute, wouldn't you think that a "nice guy" thread MIGHT have been done a few times already?

If so, and you're worried about repeating a subject such as that, just wait around another five minutes. Somebody else will do it for you....

Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge.

I sense "hostility"

(in general terms)

if they are new the thread has not been done a thousand times

and if you do not like to read threads that are done to death

then do not go into them

no where does it say you have to read every thread and post in them

whether you let such things bother you that is your issue not the newbie oldie or anybody elses issue

(in general terms)

if they are new the thread has not been done a thousand times

and if you do not like to read threads that are done to death

then do not go into them

no where does it say you have to read every thread and post in them

whether you let such things bother you that is your issue not the newbie oldie or anybody elses issue


in the words of another """Common sense should dictate that knowledge."""

(in general terms)

if they are new the thread has not been done a thousand times

and if you do not like to read threads that are done to death

then do not go into them

no where does it say you have to read every thread and post in them

whether you let such things bother you that is your issue not the newbie oldie or anybody elses issue


in the words of another """Common sense should dictate that knowledge."""

Hey Mr DJ...long time....

Practice what you preach much?

Since when do people stay out of threads they disagree with??

Exactly!

and if the thread has been done too death and you do not want to do it again just do not go into it

common sense is not so common i guess

People like to argue and cause drama. So that's not going to happen.

i assure you that if a noob asked one of the female regulars if they were actually a man.... all hell would break loose.

however when the situation is reversed it's just a joke that the noob took too seriously

when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?

do you think they deserve it?

and if the thread has been done too death and you do not want to do it again just do not go into it

common sense is not so common i guess

I was more subjected to underhanded planned attempts to exclude me rather than a whole lot of verbal abuse when i first came here. Of course i probably gave back more than i got and looked like the bad one. Sometimes new people come on here being abusive, or insulting, and some of us decide it will be fun to put these people in there place. Sometimes things do get said that are wrong, sometimes it is me that says them. Not always though, sometimes these people just get beat down with sense, and wit, and things dont always get personal. But it is always taken personally, by somebody or other.

Its just the dynamics of forums. Newbies and fools sometimes get a rough time. If one person doesnt step in, someone else will. There is no getting rid of it. But it does also need to be controlled, and thats why all of us who break the rules, new or old, get suspended from time to time. I dont think things are any worse here than anywhere else at all. That being said, sometimes we need to step back and think about how we are acting.