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Being a newbie doesn't necessarily have a whole lot to do with it. Many young 20-somethings, predominantly male, who sign up on this SOCIAL site come onto the forums with all the arrogance in the world, acting like they own the dump. There are often many times that a newbie will sign up here thinking this is AdultFriendFinder with their very first post/thread. The bottom line is, regardless if it's a newbie or a veteran, if someone comes on the boards acting like a d!ck, they will in turn be treated as such. I have never apologized for taking someone to task who desperately needed it, and I refuse to play Pollyanna just for the sake of not hurting somebody's little feelers. If they have it coming, I'll be happy to give it to them, and that goes not only for online, but in the real world as well. I don't suffer fools well. If that is considered rude, then so be it, but I will not apologize for that. What you sow, so shall you reap, and I'd rather take a stand for something than fall for anything. when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm? 
do you think they deserve it?
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Someone say 'lynch mob'? Oh, no...no one actually said that, sorry, I'll go back in my hole now...
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i'll gang up on someone with 50,000 posts too if i feel they've insulted a friend. i don't let stuff like that go by in real life, why would i online? when was the last time you castigated a friend for being rude to a noob? Firstly, by the timing of your thread and the timing of your other post on another thread I'm guessing I know what this is about and who it is about. Secondly, the person gave an Opinion as to why they are here...just like a few did. This little newbie was calling people "trolling", telling them where they can't post, and calling people out BY NAME on the thread. woahhh... don't try to create drama where there isn't any
this had been something i was noticing for a loong time. don't make it seem like i'm referring to any one person or group of people in particular
i'd like to also ask you the same question if i may... when was the last time you defended a newbie when a friend or one of the regulars was rude to him/her? 
No drama here dear. Just calling the time line as I see it. As for defending a newbie, I've done it plenty of times. I've seen what you speak of in the welcome area and based on a picture (generally) the person is mocked. i think that is admirable
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i'll gang up on someone with 50,000 posts too if i feel they've insulted a friend. i don't let stuff like that go by in real life, why would i online? when was the last time you castigated a friend for being rude to a noob? Firstly, by the timing of your thread and the timing of your other post on another thread I'm guessing I know what this is about and who it is about. Secondly, the person gave an Opinion as to why they are here...just like a few did. This little newbie was calling people "trolling", telling them where they can't post, and calling people out BY NAME on the thread. I think she was talking about in general. It happens a lot. |
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Fri 07/31/09 07:59 AM
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Why ty SMS, I wasn't aware she was speaking to one particular board. The one to which I was referring wasn't in General.
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when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?
do you think they deserve it?
Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge. |
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Why ty SMS, I wasn't aware she was speaking to one particular board. The one to which I was referring wasn't in General. No. Not a specific forum. Just speaking generally. 
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when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?
do you think they deserve it?
Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge. He makes a point, I've done it with noobs and veterans alike. I'm an indiscriminate eater...err...my dictionary is messed up again... |
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when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?
do you think they deserve it?
Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge. If they're new to the site and new to sites like this in general, perhaps they are somehow unaware that these types of threads have been done over and over. |
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when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?
do you think they deserve it?
Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge. If they're new to the site and new to sites like this in general, perhaps they are somehow unaware that these types of threads have been done over and over. And we remind them, the same way we remind anyone else. |
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Am I a newbie???
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Edited by
JasmineInglewood
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Fri 07/31/09 08:03 AM
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veterans know better than to do that because they know how it would be recieved. newbs do not. that is castigating a newb for essentially... being new. in my opinion.
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Am I a newbie???
you've been here for over 2 years 
get outta here!
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veterans know better than to do that because they know how it would be recieved. newbs do not. that is castigating a newb for essentially... being new. in my opinion. So what are we supposed to do? Treat them as an equal or an outsider? Not my fault I treat them as an equal, it can pretty much be assumed on a dating site that the 'nice guy' thread has been done...and from that base one can assume since it is not on the first page, it was either not well recieved or completly forgotten. Really, do you want me to start holding their hands? Me of all people? 
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i don't see a problem with disagreeing with someone whether they are a newbie or not... i mean would you rather we all sugarcoated and agreed with everything they said for their first week in a forum? i will be completely kind and cordeal to someone whether they are new or not but i will not hold back my opinion in a place made for the expression of just that. now if its being done just to be a bully and a jerk then there's a problem. and that needs to be cut off. Expressing an opinion and/or disagreeing are worlds apart from "ganging up on a newbie" as is the topic of this thread. Expressing an opnion within the forum rules is not only condoned, but encouraged. "Ganging up' on a newbie or anyone else here is against the rules...period. thats exactly what i was trying to say. :p lol I have noticed though there are a select few on here that find that if you disagree with their opinion they immediately take it as a personal attack. I've since found myself avoiding threads with them even posting. in a perfect world, all opinion would be respected. but its not always like that. but yes you said exactly what i was trying to say. its unfair and wrong to pick on anyone like a freakin kid in a schoolyard. its like grow up.  lilbug you changed your pic! its cute. and i'm not just kissin mod @ss. lol
LOL! Well on that note, it is waaaaaaay past my bedtime...let's all just be kind to one another...newbie or not... just embrace the experience and grow, learn from it. 'Night...sweet dreams when ya get there. 
We could all sing Kum ba yah too.
Come, let's join hands and sing. |
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But I haven't been in the forums for ages!!
Am I still a rookie?
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But I haven't been in the forums for ages!! Am I still a rookie?
Noob, let me go cut a switch real quick. 
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For the sake of argument, let's suppose for a second that you're a newbie. You've just signed up, and you want to create your first thread. Stepping back and thinking about it for just a minute, wouldn't you think that a "nice guy" thread MIGHT have been done a few times already?
If so, and you're worried about repeating a subject such as that, just wait around another five minutes. Somebody else will do it for you.... 
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I sense "hostility"
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when a newb makes a thread lamenting the plight of "nice guys" have you ever noticed how he/she will most likely be met with intense mockery and sarcasm?
do you think they deserve it?
Not to put too fine of a point on it, but yes, most times they do. Newbie or not, it stands to reason that such threads have MOST LIKELY been done to death already, so I personally find it a rather large pill to swallow that they would think that it hasn't. There are thousands of members on this site. Chances are good to excellent that a "nice guy" thread has been posted a time or two. Common sense should dictate that knowledge. (in general terms) if they are new the thread has not been done a thousand times and if you do not like to read threads that are done to death then do not go into them no where does it say you have to read every thread and post in them whether you let such things bother you that is your issue not the newbie oldie or anybody elses issue |
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