thanks john!

I always support a good post

Actually I quit smoking weed, but I did go look for ways to maximize my MDMA expeirience

Did anyone take the time to read the poem I posted? It really is worth reading.

I really do have an uncanny knack for killing a thread. The Almighty Snuffulluffugus strikes again.

If a newbie comes in and is nice I will make every effort to make them feel welcome. I try to respond to all threads in the spirit they seem to be posted. If someone comes in and asks a legit question even if it is redundent I try to answer. Even encourage them to think at several angels.

If they come in acting like they are doing the site some big favor lowering themselves to be here or start off whineing or bashing a previous relationship or the opposite sex in a public forum because they are too cowardly to do it in person or can't get away with it there it isn't going to pass by me here either.

Newbie or other wise a post that asks a question better be ready for the answer. You have to be an adult if you are here and if you open your mouth and are just showing your Arse I really don't care if I use reason and pointing out another view to expose that.

As hostile and brutal as that seems it really is an opportunity for that person to have a perspective that they rarely get when no one puts the mirror to their words. Calling names or curseing them or even ignoreing them has no effect. Sometimes attacking the behavior, and not the person, changes the behavior, sometimes it doesn't.

It is a fine line to walk and I am sure I have stumbled off a time or two so to those whos toes get inadvertently stepped on I humbely apologize. But one thing it doesn't do is let it go unchallenged so that it is repeated over and over. When it doesn't turn aorund the OP sometimes the only lesson is to be learned are those who watch from the sidelines. To me makes it worth the effort.

I don't think a friend lets what needs to be challenged just go by. To me Mingle is a collective friend and even the ones I find hard to like at the moment gets what I think is fair. Some times that is a hug sometimes it is a slap on the behind.

Again, I must reiterate, it is not up to the members here to police the problem threads/members, it is up to the mods and Admin, so, report the post or alert a mod to it so they can take the proper action. It is not okay to insult members here just because you don't like the approach they take in introducing themselves.

There may be members here, especially the newbies, who are not familiar with your style of humor who will take offense, however subtle you make it appear.

We were all newbies at one time...give 'em a break.

I agree

I remember being a newbie and a bunch of people ganged up on me and made me start my own "hello" thread........


And I haven't shut up much since........

I can remeber joining here back when we had gaslamps, horsedrawn carts, and dinosaurs were our staple diet....

I hid in the poetry section...

mind you I was 1 of 50 newbies within a week!!!

And...we are so glad you stuck around . but many folks don't handle 'ganging up' as well as you.


We want everyone to feel welcome here, because this site belongs to ALL members, not just the members who have been around a while.

maybe because


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FORUM RULES

1) Do not attack/slam/insult others. You can discuss the message or topic, but not the messenger - NO EXCEPTIONS. If you are attacked by another user, and you reciprocate, YOU will also be subject to the same consequences. Defending yourself, defending a friend, etc. are NOT excuses. Violations of this rule are taken very seriously and may result in being banned without warning!

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but hey.........

Robin...the ones who ganged up on me were: Lex, Nusalor, Whisper, Marie55...

You know.....the really mean ones!!!

EMU:
I U, I U, I U, I U,

I don't think I'm discriminative.....








I think I gang up on everyone....new, old, young, male, female....???


or rather, I USED to before I went to rehab.

oh yeah and some even found yer home number and ganged up on ya there

when you were not on just so you would not feel forgotten