Some may remember I posted about my confusion regarding Vicky, an Australian girl who I met once and then came back into my life about a week and a half ago. Well now there's another dilemma here, bear in mind I still have yet to see Vicky again since we talked those few days a week or so ago.

I was talking with someone whom I also met sometime ago, about a month or so now, about this situation, when suddenly she says to me: "What if I told you I was going through the same thing?" I asked her what I meant, and she replied: "What if I fell for you?" When I asked her if she had, she said maybe, and that the feelings were just a little strong, since she doesn't know me all that well yet, though when we chatted a month ago, we actually hit off quite well.

She is 16 going on 17 in the fall, so there would be a little waiting period there (not that we'd be sexually active anyway before she turned 18 as we both know better), and is in North Carolina considerably closer then Australia lol.

Now I had thought about the possibility of maybe being with her before, but it sort of has been more an afterthought, since she isn't around much at all to really talk this being the first time we had since we met actually, outside of exchanging a few messages between now and then.

So I find myself confused, do I take the chance and give her a shot and see where it goes, even with the whereabouts and otherwise of Vicky being unknown, or do I wait for a bit and see if/when she comes back and what is happening on her end? I'm kinda wondering with all this going on lately, if what I really want has always been there and I just never noticed it cause of how infrequent she is around, though at least she is.

It's very confusing and I kind of want to keep my options open to other possibilities too, though don't want to hurt anyone here. Lot going through my mind right now, can anyone give me some advice?

Dude.

Just my opinion, but girls that young are WAY too wishy washy about what they want.

They really have absolutely NO idea.

That could be, but her beliefs, views and values are in line with mine from when we've talked.

For real!!!! They always leave.....................

well if you think she knows then go for it man.

Uh huh...

And five years, maybe even five weeks from now, they could be completely different.

Again. Just my opinion.

Understood, and you're free to have that opinion, I know sometimes people can change, but not so sure about this one in that regard.

I'm considering it, it's just I'm afraid about the possibility of Vicky coming back between now and then. Though then again even if she did, there's no guarantee that she will be available, depending on what is going on with the guy in her area.

yeah this new girl doesnt know what she wants i remember being that age and didnt know what i wanted and i changed my mind like every 5 mins u might want to cut them both out

I'm not so sure, her beliefs about things are about as strong as mine, even for 16 so...

It sounds like you have your mind made up.

If you were looking for someone to say go for it....you probably won't have many.

Sounds like you are in a pickle in this one

Find out which one is serious about being with you and mae sure it is not a phase...


Wish you the best whatever happens

That's the thing, without hearing back from Vicky, I don't know whether I should take a shot with this other girl or not. It's almost like I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't at this point.




Thanks for that, I appreciate it.

Why is a 16 year old considered to be an option for a 21 year old?

Well the age gap isn't all that bad, by this time a year from now she'd almost be 18. Age is really but a number anyway, and it's not like it's over 10 years or anything like that.

Not quite, I'm a little torn.

She's a teenage girl in high school.

Yes I'm aware of that, it doesn't bother me all that much.

It'll bother her parents.

That's a good point, but it's not as if I'd be seeing her anytime soon in real life though, least not at this point.