casual sex is mostly for self gradification....in a mutual way though

Not true if you hit it off in a way they want more, there is a very good chance of seeing them again and again. It can be a lot of fun too specially when you start using the imagination to come up with different scenarios to.......Okay I'm not going to say anymore on that.

Sex when you are in love is the ultimate way to be close to your partner. Can two people in love be any closer and more in sync then when they are making love? I think not...

However, casual sex is another story. It is pointless and in certain ways degrading.

I agree totally besides being intimate is how two people create that bond that keeps them together.

Sorry but to me it is important within a relationship along with several other things. It is not the most important thing but it is a factor within bringing two people together.


Hummmmmmmmmmmm besides I still enjoy practicing lol

I'm not uncomfortable with intimacy or affection, I just don't think they should be limited to just sex...there are many ways of showing both and to just say sex is the only one is very limiting in scope.

No, I refuse to take medication. I have a chemical imbalance where I don't get enough testosterone into my system, not quite sure who the wiseass is that thought to call that a chemical imbalance...but apparently I'm supposed to be a drooling horndog chasing everything with breasts...

I personally think that sex doesn't mean what it used to in society, and it's kinda sad. Now I admit having said that that I struggle with it, and have used many a person for sex, be it through porn, cyber or whatever over the years. Not proud of that, but it is what it is, I can't change the past. Although I will say I am a physical virgin in spite of the other things.

Even with my issues though, I think sex and one's body should be treated a lot differently then it is. It's treated too casually, like it's all that matters, when in reality it should be the heart, the soul, the true beauty of a person that matters before anything physical. That's where true connections are formed, to try to connect based on sex and how one looks on the outside, is to ask for heartbreak. I don't think it's any coincidence that since the sexual revolution of the 60's, that divorces have risen, the number of single mothers has grown, the abortion rate has gone sky high, and just in general the amount of broken down people has risen.

What has happened is, we've made sex from something special and sacred, something meaningful that is only given when two people truly love each other and are committed to each other to the very end, into something cheap and tawdry. Too many men take without deserving it, too many women give it away to those who aren't worthy of it, and vice versa.

Men need to realize that women are more then bodies, they are human beings too, that deserve real love, love that won't forsake them, love that is patient and kind, love that has meaning behind it, love that is true. They deserve to be seen for who they are inside and out, their true beauty as people, not just for what they can do with their bodies, or what can be offered sexually. There is so much more to women then that, but a lot of men don't seem to see it, it's all about their own gains, the woman is secondary and that's a shame.

As for women they need to understand they mean something, their bodies mean something, their entire being who they are means something, that they matter. They need to know that they are very much worth waiting for, and shouldn't give themselves up to just anyone. Sex is not a right, it should be earned, if one can't commit to the person, they don't deserve to share such a bond with you. They're worth more then a random hook up with someone who will love em and leave em, they're worth more then giving themselves fully to someone who may not be there a year later, they're worth a lot more then maybe they know, and deserve respect, deserve better then they get.

So in answer to your question, does sex matter, is it important? Yes, in fact it means so much that physical bond that it should only be shared with one who really truly deserves it.

If you do, I mist insist one thing.. That you purchase, and wear a Charlie Brown shirt with the zig zag stripe.

Casual sex has nothing to do with intimacy is my point, again this is about 'casual sex' not with a significant other.

I'm glad you posted this.

I think I place too much importance on sex. I think it's partially why it still scares the heII outta me

i meant as in its a mutual self gradification for both...they get what they wanted and you get what you wanted....nothing wrong with having casual sex with someone a.k.a. booty calls

Not exactly casual sex can be very intimate if its a friend sometimes feelings can and do blossom between people who are just **** buddies.

IMO

Sex is not first on the list but to not want it could also be
Your libido is not that high because of
Your up bringing or medical reasons or phsycological reasons
That's what you gotta explore

We are human and as humans we have the desire for sex within us. It's primal. First to proceate then for pleasure
Having an orgasm helps us hormonely and emotionally

Theres nothing like an orgasam with the person and love is involved. Also how much fun it can be when two people share the closeness of experimentation

God I'm glad I'm not like that. Sexuality and sensuality is so wonderful

IMO

Can't add anything to that!

My comment wasn't meant for you sorry for the confusion. It was to the not seeing them again being unlikely.

Well then that is a whole new story for I don't care for casual sex myself. As far as that goes I will do without besides that is why they made water massager's huhh

I know off to my corner.........

Heheheh but at least I will be clean

Masturbation? Sex with love is not apart of this, again this is casual sex not sex with your significant other.

casual sex can be extremely intimate, maybe even more-so than committed sex, as there's never the reticence to push boundaries.

i'm a big fan of casual sex...but there still has to be a connection. just no commitment.

She beat me to it, other than I don't use a water massager.

ive said it a billion times before and i will continue to do so...

nothing more overrated than sex and nothing more underrated that a good $h1t.

I totally and emphatically agree w/ you that intimacy and affection go far beyound the scope of sexual interaction. I am ever so lovingly tactile and extend it towards many in my life. So good, that seems in check for you also.

*Less testosterone in your system would have the opposite effect than what you note as producing a drooling horn dog. It would more likely result in a lessened sex drive, not heightened.

*(Editorial note: ^^^ I reread and see you mean the same. ^^^ That seems to have merit in weighing in your position. Agree that need not be deemed an imbalance chemically, just not an average in the routine 24 yr. old male ratio, yeah???)

Don't see your stance as a problem, more ... just you ... and all things in good time. Back to the in season notion.