Fair enough, but is it still worth it if you get a side effect you didn't expect, such as an STD, or a baby? In a committed relationship that isn't a problem so much, as for one you know whether or not there are things wrong with the other person, and secondly if you get pregnant you are much more prepared for it.

Casual sex is kinda like playing russian roulette in that sense, beyond even what I mentioned earlier.

Casual sex is about pleasing yourself. Intimacy, on the other hand, is about pleasing your partner and encompasses many things besides the act of sex.

Casual sex is seen as acceptable since it's between two consenting individuals. In my opinion, sex isn't casual. A conversation is casual. Jeans are casual. A wave in passing on the street is casual. Sex is special...or it should be. When it involves genuine feelings solely to please the other person, it's transformed into intimacy. I miss that, not sex!

in this day and age, it's perfectly possible to have safe sex. we know much more about how to protect ourselves.

i also didn't say "sex with a complete stranger".

just because the sex is casual doesn't mean the precautions are, as well.

If the woman is happy then the relationship is succesful

Laughing and shaking my head as I step away from this one.........


"Ooooohhhhh...I could have REALLY enjoyed myself for a night/ week/ month.....but, I would rather be alone for a few more years in search of Mrs./Mr. right...while I wait for "the right one to present me with an everlasting love with NO sex involved"


HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHahaaaaaaa cough..hack cough.....



Lemme know how that strategy works kids.....

they're gonna move it. i can feel them thinking about it...

Sex in a relationship breeds closeness. If you are in a committed relationship and you do not desire her, she will leave you. I have been in a relationship of almost no sex and it was very hard for me to stay feeling close to him and feeling attached to him. I left him.

It is sad too when that happens because you do not want to appear as thought the physical is so important but in the long run it is important to feel that bond that sex creates.

Don't beat around the boosh Fear!!!

C'mon Lulu.....We way not have genuine "for the rest of our lives" kind of a connection...but, at the very least, you would have some mind blowing orgasms...some real happytude...a sense of peaceful belonging.....plus, I cook a mean breakfast and will make sure that you never walk out of my door feeling used....

*chuckles*

count me in. i'm all about the happytude.

Even so there's always a chance things may fail. Condoms are NOT foolproof contrary to belief. In that sense there is no such thing as safe sex, you can take all the precautions you want, but there's a small chance it won't work and you'll end up with a bun in the oven as it were, or worse.

You realize no one is saying sex is bad, quite the contrary in fact. Sex is meant to be a good thing, a beautiful and pleasurable thing, that is when done with the right person in a committed relationship. When it's taken out of where it was meant for, then it can become destructive as can be seen in our society now.

yes, but by that way of thinking...i might as well never leave the house. we need enjoyment in our lives, period.

sorry, i'm not exactly the fearful type. i deal with life as it happens, and take full responsibility for each and every one of my actions.

For me, sex quit being important a long time ago, going on five years in fact. There are just too many emotional and physical hurdles to have to contend with before you can even start to consider taking part in such kind of activity.

And THEN there are the STDS and the other pitfalls of sex, as some of the other members have pointed out.

I'd rather just play my guitar instead.

I understand that, but there are many other ways to get that enjoyment without sex as much as with sex.

Read back bro....plenty of people are playing down the role of sex...

If these people mean that each and every time they are naked with another soul it should be for nothing less than sweet loving romance and only towards the goal of the "One" love..... I just gotta laugh.

Cro-mag, up against the wall, sweaty, monkey style sex has it's place too....

...and for the people who don't believe me....Your moms and sisters would disagree.

There's room for rough style sex in committed relationships too, didn't say it all had to be one way. No need to put words in my mouth.

I guess my point would be this...

Making love is part of what we all desire...

So is a hickey that we try to hide cause we got LAID!!!!!

No one ever got a hickey from making sweet sweet love...

you only get those from ****ing...love is completly irrelevant in reguards to sexuality.

I was not putting words in your mouth bro....I was reading the previous posts and a whole lot of people who are competely denying the fact that a good hard f**k has it's merits too.

Just because one has sex, doesn't mean that you will get the clap, have a child or is required to dedicate the rest of ones life to someone who may or may not be great in the sack.

Sex is actually a legitimate way of weeding out potential partners...

Should we seriously hold out?.....finally make love...only to discover that person ain't great in the sack....but, be obligated to adhere to an abysmal and unfulfilling sex life in the name of "Love"?

Cause that sounds like a reciepie for divorce to me.....