Sex is actually a legitimate way of weeding out potential partners...

Should we seriously hold out?.....finally make love...only to discover that person ain't great in the sack....but, be obligated to adhere to an abysmal and unfulfilling sex life in the name of "Love"?

That can be worked on, personality however is different. You can be totally crazy about someone, have great sex with them, only to find out they weren't who you thought. But by then if you married them, you're already up the creek without a paddle, which brings about divorce.

I'd rather stick with my method of knowing the heart and soul first thanks. In the end that will last far longer then any sex will.

Read back bro....plenty of people are playing down the role of sex...

If these people mean that each and every time they are naked with another soul it should be for nothing less than sweet loving romance and only towards the goal of the "One" love..... I just gotta laugh.

Cro-mag, up against the wall, sweaty, monkey style sex has it's place too....

...and for the people who don't believe me....Your moms and sisters would disagree.

they can have the greatest heart and soul...but still suck in the sack. i'm sorry, but it's NOT possible to "teach" everyone. aptitude plays a big part. and if we aren't compatible in that area, i'm not staying married to them...they should just be my best friend.

for a commitment, there has to be both.

of course, my marriage lasted waaaay longer than it should have, in part because we WERE so compatible.

A good relationship should be able to stand on it's own though, apart from sex. Sure sex is nice, but that's more a bonus on top of the rest. If you don't have a connection otherwise, then just what do you have?

That can be worked on, personality however is different. You can be totally crazy about someone, have great sex with them, only to find out they weren't who you thought. But by then if you married them, you're already up the creek without a paddle, which brings about divorce.

I'd rather stick with my method of knowing the heart and soul first thanks. In the end that will last far longer then any sex will.

nah, a good relationship has both.

a relationship without the sexual component is...a friendship. period.

Agreed...been there....done that....

Fantastic sex with zero probability of an acutal future...


but, if the sex is good enough....(it was that good)...I knew full well that it wouldn't work...so did she....

should we really discount the meaningless screaming orgasms?...Hell, mine were good enough that I was screaming my own name...

Not like you can get that same experience from Six Flags or the County Fair....

Besides...if you are willing to stick to a relationship longer than the sex will last....that says a LOT in and of it's self....

not being personal there dude but, think about it.

I'm not bashing the role of sex, I'm bashing useless and pathetic casual sex. I personally find it to be of the utmost uselessness.

Apparently you need a tutor (not me , so don't look at me that way bro...)

If you haven't had mind blowing casual sex that you can walk away from....you need to get out more.

"Utmost uselessness" unhhh?

Like sex is less satisfying than sitting in front of your monitor and typing away to people who you will never meet?

nah, a good relationship has both.

a relationship without the sexual component is...a friendship. period.

define "something comes up"

"But you are missing the point! If you can't survive without sex, in the event something comes up, then you have a problem. There needs to be a connection inside too, otherwise it just won't work."


Exactly how often do you get laid?

Well illnesses for example, or maybe a person just doesn't feel in the mood for a period of time, cause they're in pain, etc etc. There's different reasons where sex may end up on the backburner for a time.

define "a time"

That depends on the situation. The point is if you don't have the soul connection during those times, you won't last.