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to me finding someone who is actually willing to do it with you is rare, so naturally someone who does it with you is someone to be honoured and highly respected.
some people see this as a noble attitude, but i am ashamed of it sometimes, it seems a bit shallow to give someone a gold star because they just performed oral on you |
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Unfortunately, physical attraction DOES factor in. I used to try and deny that out of some wish to be a "good" person, but I could never be happy in a relationship where I didn't drool over my man, as well as adore his mind. It's... human nature.
I still don't like pretty boys -- my MO is usually more of the geeky, wiry type. But I DO have an MO, as do we all. I don't like jerks at all (which is partly why I don't likepretty boys), but it's not easy to find a good man with whom there is an attraction. Seems it's one or the other. Why is that? |
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i had sex with my ex the first night we kissed, but i had known her for a while. hey it lasted 3 years+
but in general idk, sex right away can make people feel like they dont have to invest as much in you |
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i had sex with my ex the first night we kissed, but i had known her for a while. hey it lasted 3 years+ but in general idk, sex right away can make people feel like they dont have to invest as much in you But that assumes that sex is the only thing they're after. Investing in WHAT? Other than sex? In that analogy? |
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well in answer to your question, i found that the way to determine whether or not a woman is TRULY attractive, is to imagine what it would be like if they were performing oral sex on me...if i experience arousal during the thought, they are attractive, which accounts for a LOT of women between 20-49 unless they are too skinny, or old grannies, but it's easier to do that, because males have an insane sexual function, i don't know of an easier way to make the uglies attractive if you're a girl though.
btw, what's your name Snarky? i wouldn't mind putting one to a picture. |
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well in answer to your question, i found that the way to determine whether or not a woman is TRULY attractive, is to imagine what it would be like if they were performing oral sex on me...if i experience arousal during the thought, they are attractive, which accounts for a LOT of women between 20-49 unless they are too skinny, or old grannies, but it's easier to do that, because males have an insane sexual function, i don't know of an easier way to make the uglies attractive if you're a girl though. btw, what's your name Snarky? i wouldn't mind putting one to a picture. Case in point, then, that sex is a very large factor for men, no matter if it's thinking of a woman they truly like, or just being out for a one night stand. And it's Jessi. 
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i had sex with my ex the first night we kissed, but i had known her for a while. hey it lasted 3 years+ but in general idk, sex right away can make people feel like they dont have to invest as much in you But that assumes that sex is the only thing they're after. Investing in WHAT? Other than sex? In that analogy? you do know that you ask far too many questions, right? lol i think there should be some type of buildup toward sex and not have it happen right away, at least for dating material. sex clouds judgement, be it good or bad. people who have sex right away also come across as easy and all that. |
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i had sex with my ex the first night we kissed, but i had known her for a while. hey it lasted 3 years+ but in general idk, sex right away can make people feel like they dont have to invest as much in you But that assumes that sex is the only thing they're after. Investing in WHAT? Other than sex? In that analogy? you do know that you ask far too many questions, right? lol i think there should be some type of buildup toward sex and not have it happen right away, at least for dating material. sex clouds judgement, be it good or bad. people who have sex right away also come across as easy and all that. Nice save. I ask questions to get answers. How else can one achieve one's dreams in this world, right?
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Hey Jessi, that's a cute name.
if you want to know the truth know, in answer to your original question, basically a girl that's dressed like a complete skank, pardon my language, is not one i'd see as relationship material, then again, i don't find prostitutes that sexually attractive, they just dress too...unladly like, for my taste. it really depends on the guy, not all guys are after the same thing, i prefer larger women, and many people find that unusual. Basically though, if a girl is quick to take off her clothes and engage in sex with me, then it's a logical assumption that she does it with other men as well, and therefore even if i do engage in sex with her, i would be cautious about asking for any committment. Basically, I think it's the girls attitude, the way she's dressed, if she dresses elegantly in clothes that don't show off her belly, and breasts too much (i don't mind seeing cleavage, but i hate seeing the belly) then she's more likely to be relationship material...if she was a drunk girl at a swinger's party, well to me, that's just sex. I am sorry Jessi it's too hard to answer your question appropriately, there are far too many variables... |
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... What, for you, is the difference between a girl who you want to date (IE try something meaningful with), and a girl you think of as just a screw? okay ready for your answer? Men "date" women and "think of just as a screw" them for the SAME EXACT REASONS Do you really think we are dogs? That all we want is to HUMP? Okay, maybe...there are the small percentage of men who are like that. But who cares about them because I do not even consider those people men. So, the difference is this. When we meet a girl we ask ourselves some questions. And they are ALL different for ALL men. Some of the questions may be, "Does she like football?" "Does she like my Mom?" "Does she like Video Games?" "Will she lick my nipples and not make it a big deal?" Now, if this girl...in his opinion allows him to answer YES to those questions, whatever they may BE, she then goes from "just a screw" to "possible" girlfriend..... So, you girls   Its your choice, not ours  Wait... but... that's what GIRLS do!  So then what the hell? I must be doing something majorly wrong here.  Yes you are, and what it is is trying to clump all guys into the same catagory because of the experience you have had with a few. |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Tue 07/14/09 06:16 AM
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Hey Jessi, that's a cute name. if you want to know the truth know, in answer to your original question, basically a girl that's dressed like a complete skank, pardon my language, is not one i'd see as relationship material, then again, i don't find prostitutes that sexually attractive, they just dress too...unladly like, for my taste. it really depends on the guy, not all guys are after the same thing, i prefer larger women, and many people find that unusual. Basically though, if a girl is quick to take off her clothes and engage in sex with me, then it's a logical assumption that she does it with other men as well, and therefore even if i do engage in sex with her, i would be cautious about asking for any committment. Basically, I think it's the girls attitude, the way she's dressed, if she dresses elegantly in clothes that don't show off her belly, and breasts too much (i don't mind seeing cleavage, but i hate seeing the belly) then she's more likely to be relationship material...if she was a drunk girl at a swinger's party, well to me, that's just sex. I am sorry Jessi it's too hard to answer your question appropriately, there are far too many variables... Thank you, and you're right of course. Belly?  I'd be a nutjob if I showed off my belly! Course, that doesn't rule out legs... Gotta accentuate the positive, ya know? Yes you are, and what it is is trying to clump all guys into the same catagory because of the experience you have had with a few. Possibly, but that's how people learn. I can't know anything about guys I have never experienced, right? And that's why I'm asking here, too. I think I'm going to the wrong places and need more confidence, myself, but we're all different. And it HAS been my expereince in bars that if a man talks to you, he wants one thing. So that makes it kinda hard to want to talk back. |
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Possibly, but that's how people learn. I can't know anything about guys I have never experienced, right? And that's why I'm asking here, too. I think I'm going to the wrong places and need more confidence, myself, but we're all different. And it HAS been my expereince in bars that if a man talks to you, he wants one thing. So that makes it kinda hard to want to talk back. that's what bars are for. you can't expect to meet a good match in a bar. . . . |
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lol to me bars are where you go if you want to get bashed up if you're a guy and raped if you're a girl
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Tue 07/14/09 06:24 AM
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Possibly, but that's how people learn. I can't know anything about guys I have never experienced, right? And that's why I'm asking here, too. I think I'm going to the wrong places and need more confidence, myself, but we're all different. And it HAS been my expereince in bars that if a man talks to you, he wants one thing. So that makes it kinda hard to want to talk back. that's what bars are for. you can't expect to meet a good match in a bar. . . . I'm pretty aware of that. Problem is, where else is there? It's never good to date a co-worker. lol to me bars are where you go if you want to get bashed up if you're a guy and raped if you're a girl That's why girls always go with friends. I have NEVER gone to a bar alone at night. Once, during the day to have a drink and write in my notebook, but never at night. |
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i think that i could only reach the conclusion of sex vs. relationship with a girl after talking to her....my choice would depend on the conversation
did we hit it off? could this last a long time? is she interesting, honest, trustworthy? OR is she just beautiful...and not relationship material? her appearance would not change my mind because i would want an attractive woman either way....although maybe moreso if it is just for the sex |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Tue 07/14/09 06:26 AM
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i think that i could only reach the conclusion of sex vs. relationship with a girl after talking to her....my choice would depend on the conversation did we hit it off? could this last a long time? is she interesting, honest, trustworthy? OR is she just beautiful...and not relationship material? her appearance would not change my mind because i would want an attractive woman either way....although maybe moreso if it is just for the sex Would you have sex with her right away if you wanted more? |
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Possibly, but that's how people learn. I can't know anything about guys I have never experienced, right? And that's why I'm asking here, too. I think I'm going to the wrong places and need more confidence, myself, but we're all different. And it HAS been my expereince in bars that if a man talks to you, he wants one thing. So that makes it kinda hard to want to talk back. that's what bars are for. you can't expect to meet a good match in a bar. . . . I'm pretty aware of that. Problem is, where else is there? It's never good to date a co-worker. i'm still single, i don't know where the decent and attractive women are. church maybe, but i'm agnostic so that doesn't work for me. as for coworkers, i work in a heavy industry weld shop. what few women there are either aren't the kind you want or are the kind who don't want men. . . . |
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Possibly, but that's how people learn. I can't know anything about guys I have never experienced, right? And that's why I'm asking here, too. I think I'm going to the wrong places and need more confidence, myself, but we're all different. And it HAS been my expereince in bars that if a man talks to you, he wants one thing. So that makes it kinda hard to want to talk back. that's what bars are for. you can't expect to meet a good match in a bar. . . . I'm pretty aware of that. Problem is, where else is there? It's never good to date a co-worker. i'm still single, i don't know where the decent and attractive women are. church maybe, but i'm agnostic so that doesn't work for me. as for coworkers, i work in a heavy industry weld shop. what few women there are either aren't the kind you want or are the kind who don't want men. . . . I guess the best way is for friends to introduce you, but all the friends I have who are near my age (many of them are way too young), don't have single friends... except me.
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Jessi, you asked, would you have sex with a girl right away if you wanted more, I guess for me, the perfect relationship would have a emotional, spiritual AND physical connection, therefore, yes, sex would be a part of that, as I enjoy sex, but that said, a relationship with a physical and mental connection is empty without a spiritual connection also. do you get it?
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I guess the best way is for friends to introduce you, but all the friends I have who are near my age (many of them are way too young), don't have single friends... except me. i have one friend and her friends aren't the type that i'd be interested in. one of her friends' friends was cute but she likes pretty boys. . . . |
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