Edited my reply above. Very relevent to what you just said. :)

ETA: Here:

I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want."

Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship rigt now. SO...?!

May I stab at what you are doing wrong?

OK but read this first:

I had a friend tell me last summer that the best way to interest a guy is to act like a dumbass. "Men don't want to talk about books. That makes them nervous and makes them feel like you're acting better than them. Just flirt and use all your physicality. THAT'S what they want."

Sad thing is, she's in a GREAT realtionship right now. SO...?!

Is THAT right?

That can attract a guy to a certain extent but is it who you would want to attract. Men are very visual. So yes physicality plays a role. There is a fine line where physicality turns into slutiness though.

Let me ask you this?

If I lived in Spokane would you go on a date with me if I asked you?

Exactly. So... finding that balance sucks. You men are confusing!

Truthfully, I am NEVER asked on dates, so if I ever am, I totally say yes. That's the best way to get to know someone.

I hate stereotypes....

Well guess what? If you were a dumbass? My mom would be sick about 14 minutes into our date. That answer your question?

You should rename this thread:

Male stereotypes and the Monkeys who buy your soul at the bookstore

Ditto.

See, in my experience, guys don't DATE girls. They just sit at the bar and wait to find one they can take home for the night.

NO MEN ask a lady on a date anymore. EVER.

did you read what i wrote? I asked you if you really wanted me to reply for a reason

Duly noted. So where the hell are men who ask women on dates anyway? Cuz to me y'all are like Bigfoot.


ETA: Yuppo. But, see, you're not in Spokane.

attitude/personality/class

if she has a pleasant personality then i'll entertain the idea of a relationship. if not, then no deal. class also play a role. if she's just plain trashy/uncouth then she'll never have a place in my heart.


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Men are confusing mmmm well what about this.

Most (not all) woman that i hear complain about the macho one track minded men that they hate are always (not all the time) going back to those same men they say they hate and then come back and cry on my shoulder about those men.

That is confusing, guess the body doesn't always agree with what their mind is telling them.

we are the guys who say, "Hey do you like music?" and you are so surprised that someone is talking to you that you go, "durruh, yeah" and then we go, "are you waiting for someone?" and you go, "duuurreuhh yeah" and we go, "wanna help me pick out a cd for 10 minutes?" and you go..."duhhahrhhh sorry...no" and then you see us 15 minutes later and walk away so we dont see you...but, we do

Hod should a woman dress to catch notice but not seem slutty?

not all guys want this.


and the ones that do deserve to feel like idiots.


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But ask yourself who do you want to attract? Physicality could be just a strong presence that you exude also. Kind of like confidence. It doesn't mean you have to show 95% of your leg Or half of your breasts. Confidence is as much a turn on for men as it is women. Show skin and see what you attract. Then go to the same place and exude confidence and see what you attract. You will get both spectrums of men there. You're obviously a very pretty woman so i wouldn't think you'd need anything but the confidence.

See, that's it exactly. There HAS to be physical attraction, too. Does that suck? Yes. But it is just a fact.