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Is it unreasonable to feel that, when dating someone, you should be the only one they date until they feel that it's just not gonna work and decide not to date you anymore??
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No, but everyone is different and some think its ok to date multiple people until they decide to KEEP one.
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I think if more people did commited themselfs to one person before moving on....things would be so much easier.
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I think it depends on the outcome of a discussion between the two involved... I know if I'm not into someone "that way", I'll date more than one but I won't become intimate with anyone.. For me intimacy would mean I've decided that I want to date just one.. But again that's me, others may handle it differently...
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Yes. I feel it is asking too much to suggest mutual exclusivity after only a single date. Moreover, I have found that women treat me much better if they know I'm seeing other women. I do not try to hide it. I always assume the women I'm seeing are dating other men. Why wouldn't they? How can you know if the one you are with is the best one for you if you are not seeing anyone else?
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Is it unreasonable to feel that, when dating someone, you should be the only one they date until they feel that it's just not gonna work and decide not to date you anymore?? if both parties agree i suppose its ok.. but i think its rather selfish to have expectations of exclusivity immediately. |
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To avoid this confusion I am usually VERY straight up in the beginning....
I'm not a playa I just crush a lot 
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I dunno. I guess my reasoning for feeling the way I do is that, the way I see it, I am either what someone wants, or I'm not.
I don't want to be put in the position of being in a " competition " so to speak, for someone's time or affections. I think I deserve better than that. Although, I am beginning to wonder. |
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 I myself would only date one person at a time but thats something that should be discussed by both people so things are in agreement
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Yes. I feel it is asking too much to suggest mutual exclusivity after only a single date. Moreover, I have found that women treat me much better if they know I'm seeing other women. I do not try to hide it. I always assume the women I'm seeing are dating other men. Why wouldn't they? How can you know if the one you are with is the best one for you if you are not seeing anyone else? Fair enough. But then, how does one guy, or any of them for that matter, actually get a fair shake when they are constantly being compared to the others?? |
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Yes. I feel it is asking too much to suggest mutual exclusivity after only a single date. Moreover, I have found that women treat me much better if they know I'm seeing other women. I do not try to hide it. I always assume the women I'm seeing are dating other men. Why wouldn't they? How can you know if the one you are with is the best one for you if you are not seeing anyone else? Wow, really? Interesting... |
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I dunno. I guess my reasoning for feeling the way I do is that, the way I see it, I am either what someone wants, or I'm not. I don't want to be put in the position of being in a " competition " so to speak, for someone's time or affections. I think I deserve better than that. Although, I am beginning to wonder. If thats how you feel then back off and let her come to you. If she doesnt then her loss and no sweat off your back 
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Is it unreasonable to feel that, when dating someone, you should be the only one they date until they feel that it's just not gonna work and decide not to date you anymore?? if both parties agree i suppose its ok.. but i think its rather selfish to have expectations of exclusivity immediately. Is it selfish to want to have a fair chance without the other perhaps thinking " Well this guy does this, but this one is cool in his own way " while spending time with one or the other??? The women I have spoken with almost always say they want a man's undivided attention when they date. Can a man not want the same thing? |
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I dunno. I guess my reasoning for feeling the way I do is that, the way I see it, I am either what someone wants, or I'm not. I don't want to be put in the position of being in a " competition " so to speak, for someone's time or affections. I think I deserve better than that. Although, I am beginning to wonder. If thats how you feel then back off and let her come to you. If she doesnt then her loss and no sweat off your back
If only I had a quarter for all the times I have been told that. I guess I am just trying to get the ladies' opinions on whether my ideas are unreasonable in this regard. |
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Unreasonable, no. Just be upfront about what you want and if they aren't cool about it then move along.
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Fair enough. But then, how does one guy, or any of them for that matter, actually get a fair shake when they are constantly being compared to the others?? I don't worry about being compared to someone else. I know I'm a fun, interesting, smart man that knows how to show a woman a great time on a date. If she wants to be with someone else I'm fine with that and I wish her the best. I'll just spend time with someone else. There are plenty of women out there and getting a date with one (or more) is easy. |
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no as long as you dont lie about it. sometimes thats all chicks want to. and the older ladys will say it.
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I dunno. I guess my reasoning for feeling the way I do is that, the way I see it, I am either what someone wants, or I'm not. I don't want to be put in the position of being in a " competition " so to speak, for someone's time or affections. I think I deserve better than that. Although, I am beginning to wonder. If thats how you feel then back off and let her come to you. If she doesnt then her loss and no sweat off your back
If only I had a quarter for all the times I have been told that. I guess I am just trying to get the ladies' opinions on whether my ideas are unreasonable in this regard. Guy it's not unreasonable.. It's what you want and you have the right to have that.. If someone isn't willing to give it, then they are not meant for you... |
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no as long as you dont lie about it. sometimes thats all chicks want to. and the older ladys will say it. Ok Mix let's find another word rather than "older people" and "older ladies"... 
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no as long as you dont lie about it. sometimes thats all chicks want to. and the older ladys will say it. Ok Mix let's find another word rather than "older people" and "older ladies"...
oh sorry i mean beautiful ladys such as yourself |
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