And what are you reading that isnt there? i never said anyting about 1 date only.. I too was refering to several.

If I liked a guy enough to go on more than 1 date with him, I'd like him enough to not bother to want to date another.

If we didn't hit it off on the first date, it probably wouldn't ever come to us having several.

Is it unreasonable to feel that, when dating someone, you should be the only one they date until they feel that it's just not gonna work and decide not to date you anymore??

Usually if I am interested in someone enough to go out with them more than a few times...it usually means that we like each other somewhat, and naturally the desire to hook up with someone else fades as the feelings grow for the person I am dating. If I have had several dates and find there isn’t much hope there….then usually it is simply time to move on.

I think in general most people accept the fact that until a relationship has some good sparks of hope…there is always a chance that the other person is possibly still dating others as well as the newbie.

If it does get to the point where sex is involved (unless it is just a date for sex) it gets exclusive naturally for me…because at that point…I am usually pretty sure that I want a relationship with that person.

If I decide to agree to not date others solely for the other persons benefit or request upon the first few dates I don’t think it would be a big deal unless I didn’t really like them, or didn’t get enough attention from them.

I used to date a great guy who was in the navy. We dated off and on for years and we are still great friends. He never once asked me to be exclusive with him even though we liked each other a whole lot…He actually cared enough about me to know it would be unfair to ask me to wait and be faithful while he was overseas at that point in our lives.

We were so young still. I guess he knew it would be too hard on me…we had never had sex though either. He was such a sweetheart. I remember several times when he would come home on leave without any notice and he might drive up to see me leaving with someone else. It always made me feel bad because I knew it had to bother him. He had always told my dad he was going to marry me someday.

Needless to say we never did get married. He actually offered to drive me to my dates a time or two. That really bothered me and made me feel bad. He was a one of a kind sweetheart and an awesome friend. I loved him… but sadly never was in love with him.

So in summary, I think you should do whatever feels right and is agreeable to you both. But you know I can’t help but wonder…if he had asked me to be exclusive with him what might’ve happened.