I am a slim women and my ex :-( is now living with a more then full figured women. Let your personality shine.....

I totally did! That was awesome, and true! Very interesting to see a man who sees that men are expected to fit this "norm".

Love yourself & be physically and mentally healthy - the rest will fall into place.

I'm a size 12/14, which isn't soo bad when i see what comes thru the hospital everyday. America is seriously OVERWEIGHT!!

I'm attracted to brains, warmth, and niceness first. Adding a pretty face and/or or a nice body helps with attraction but these qualities change with time. I've met some "beautiful" women who were extremely unattractive.

i prefer a little thickness

Seriously girl i used to feel the same way, but then I just carried myself differently, I am eating healthy and exercising and totally feel awesome about myself. I figured hey everyone has a preference and if they can't handle these curves, then they probably won't get a hold of me anyways!!

I am a bigger gal and I have always had very muscular, very sexy men in my life. It's all about the way you take care of yourself. You can be heavy and be a slob and gross (or) you can take care of yourself and dress nice. I am lucky to have a great personality, am smart and great sense of humor. It's the "whole" package the man gets not just the "physical" you. Besides, the appearance is something that can be changed if you don't like it.....it's just alot of work! Good Luck on your search. Real men aren't afraid of a heavy set woman. (heehee.....gotcha guys!) only kidding....it really is personal preference on the man's part (and everyone is entitled to have likes and dislikes).

I give you kudos for losing weight and all, but I wanna give you a different side of the story. Being overweight may be unhealthy (I know because I've been overweight my entire life and have been bullied, picked on, and even hounded about it by family members), but what happens when there is nothing you can do about being overweight? You can work out, do whatever it sounds like to lose some weight. I've had 8 knee surgeries and physically cannot do anything to lose weight. I've spent half of my life off my feet, on crutches, in physical therapy, learning how to re-walk. I can walk and that's the only kind of exercise besides swimming I can do. Going up and down stairs makes my knee cap move as well as breaks up scar tissue. Everytime I get up from a chair my knee cracks and sounds like a baseball hitting a home run. I haven't been able to kneel for over 10 years now. I can't be on top during sex. I've loved food ever since I was a kid, was born to be overweight, but wouldn't have been had I been able to continue playing sports before my knees got bad. But that was taken from me, as was any physical possibility of exercise. This is not negative thinking here--it's a reality I have to live with every single day. I ask you how do you lose weight when any kind of exercise is impossible, makes your knees hurt, crack, dislocate, etc.? I've been told by my knee surgeon that losing weight would help my knees but it's a viscious cycle for me because to exercise I need "normal" knees, something I will never have. I may have partial replacements now in both knees, but my knees will never be good enough to go out and lose weight. Again, this is my reality, and I ask how do you deal with it? I have just accepted who I am and that there isn't anything I can do. I can walk and swim. That's it. For me it's a harsher reality. For you, you are lucky.

I agree with the posters who say that it all comes down to your personality, and the way you present and carry yourself. I ain't skinny by any means, but I don't have trouble finding dates. HOWEVER, I will say that eight years ago, when I was a dowdy housewife who stayed home and didn't really have a reason to get foxed up, I don't think many men would have given me the time of day! I was kinda depressed and wasn't all that much fun. I wasnt' looking for a man back then, and it's a good thing, cause I don't know that I would have gotten much interest! Now I'm happy, confident, easy to talk to, and can have fun doing just about anything. I think some men are attracted to that.

You are really pretty, OP! Maybe add a couple pictures to your profile of you smiling or doing something silly. It might show the guys how approachable and fun you are!

I am a slender woman and am lucky that I haven't had any issues with my weight yet. I guess I just got lucky.But we are all God's children and deserve love and respect no matter how we are shaped.

You stated you can walk and swim. That's all you need, along with healthy eating. I don't belong to a gym, I walk. I've just seen too much grief due to weight issues. You can walk, you're as lucky as me.

p.s. I don't get on top during sex because I just suck at it that way.

I hope, it does not matter, to much..I have "a few extra pounds".

i love a fuller figured woman, but have dated skinny as well. i truly do believe it comes down to personality. i've had beautiful women who couldn't hold my attention past, well, only in one area could they keep me at attention. and i've dated women who weren't super fine, but they were awesome women on the inside, and nothing wrong with a little extra on the outside. i have some myself. but you can't allow that to control you.....don't always make comments about your weight, or be afraid to show what you have. if you act and talk like you're not attractive, it rubs off on those around you. be aware of how you look, and if you don't like the looks of things, start walking or try eating less, just do something. every little bit helps. i know it sounds easier to say than do, but just start, that's the hardest part. remember it takes time. they say it takes about 3-4 weeks to start a habit, so keep at it and you'll be fine. don't get discouraged! but most of all, remember that until you find the man who loves you for who you are on the inside, then he just loves you for what he sees on the outside, which is just superficial and fades in time......

Ill drink to that!!!

I am a full figured woman, young, but still a woman. I've been insecure about my body for years. Most people are, and are most likely always going to be, atleast a little bit insecure. People who are going to judge you for your physical attributes, whether they be good or bad, are not really people you want to associate with. Shallow people are just that, shallow. They have very little to work with in the personality department and they eventually jsut get annoying.

Don't worry about finding a person that likes "your body type". Try to find someone who likes YOU. Don't sweat over being single, you need to live your life for you, and you will at some point have someone to share that life with, whether it be your love or just a friend. Don't let your happiness depend on other people, it just won't work that way.

Hope I helped

if men didn't go for all sizes... they wouldn't make size 44 wedding dresses. a good man is hard to find. a good match is hard to find. it's not YOU, who is the problem. Someone's physicality is definitely just one aspect of attraction and believe me... there really IS someone for everyone.

If that's your picture, there's nothing wrong with your looks.