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Being prince charming is a drag. I gotta keep adjusting my chainmail underwear.
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Sun 05/10/09 03:53 PM
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Small note who follow the thread: Every single women disagreed with my post.
The claim is the usual : "I am not like that." de·ni·al = An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings. |
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Small note who follow the thread: Every single women disagreed with my post. The claim is the usual : "I am not like that." de·ni·al = An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings. Heaven forbid that you might actually be wrong and not everyone adheres to your methodology.  |
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I think it is fair to say every woman does want to feel secure with the man she is dating. Where this theory falls apart is the assumption that every woman translates this into money... some do... but not even close to all.
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Denial works two ways...
If you are choosing gold-digging witches and have been burned, you need to hold yourself accountable for the bad choices. If you are a gold-digging witch who says "I'm not like that" then shame on you, too! |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Sun 05/10/09 04:14 PM
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Small note who follow the thread: Every single women disagreed with my post. The claim is the usual : "I am not like that." de·ni·al = An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings. Heaven forbid that you might actually be wrong and not everyone adheres to your methodology. After 4 women within 2 years, all ending up asking the same and wanting the same and all equally dumping me after realizing I'm no dollar daddy, how would you like me to think? 1. It is possible, that somehow and someway with a bum-luck, I end up attracting women like that, but somehow the majority aren't like that. They bunch up on me, regardless of how hard I try to avoid them, there is just something about me that gold-diggers really love. 2. Most of the women like that, especially the place I live. Sure, I'm on a singles' site and on a forum, where women posts and there is a good chance, that most of the women here aren't like that, but they don't represent the majority. |
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my ex dumped me and used the gold digging excuse because of his past ex. funny thing was...i never asked for anything from him...i even paid my equal share...some times more
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Atlantis, you sound bitter.. How do 4 women constitute ALL women? you know how I hate generalizations.. You're being very unfair to those that REALLY are capable and do handle their own lives and finances without a man.. I'm not saying some aren't as you've experienced but those that aren't it doesn't mean they're in denial.. Why can't you take them at face value until they prove otherwise?
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I read through the OP and it was difficult to read as the writer seems down on the whole thing.
I have to say that with all that was written, I think, it comes down to a man who can support himself. If he makes enough to pay rent, public service, phone, food for himself then all is good. A man who can take care of himself is responsible and we have something to start with there. Now with these times more men are probably going to live with someone else to share bills which is understandable. Personally, I think men have been out of sorts since women became more independent. The manly role, or manly place, has been jogged a bit. |
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I'd REALLY REALLY like to commen.....
 Oooooh Sparkly!
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Small note who follow the thread: Every single women disagreed with my post. The claim is the usual : "I am not like that." de·ni·al = An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings. OR, they really aren't 'like that', OR...your perspective is jaded. I, in fact, agreed that gold-digging women and barbie/ken seeking people do exist, but don't believe they are the primary reasons folks are not getting together...perhaps at one time this was true, but not so much anymore. I think it lies more within ourselves. |
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I read through the OP and it was difficult to read as the writer seems down on the whole thing. I have to say that with all that was written, I think, it comes down to a man who can support himself. If he makes enough to pay rent, public service, phone, food for himself then all is good. A man who can take care of himself is responsible and we have something to start with there. Now with these times more men are probably going to live with someone else to share bills which is understandable. Personally, I think men have been out of sorts since women became more independent. The manly role, or manly place, has been jogged a bit. Agreed, and when men go for the stripper types well expect that you're going to get gold diggers most of the time.. Or the opportunists.. They're everyone... so are good people... you get what you put out there... You draw in what your aura lets out... |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Sun 05/10/09 04:38 PM
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Agreed, and when men go for the stripper types well expect that you're going to get gold diggers most of the time.. Or the opportunists.. They're everyone... so are good people... you get what you put out there... You draw in what your aura lets out... I've never went with the stripper types...one of my best ex is a doctor now, hardly a stripper kind.....and even though I know there are women out there who aren't like the ones I describe here, just listen to this. My friend just went through a divorce for the same reason. He lost his job, so after 13 years, his wife sent in the papers for divorce. His fault? He lost his job and he makes half of what he made before. There are more and more similar stuff I see and hear about so I refuse to accept such an explanation that it's "my aura" is what to blame here. Amazingly, not one single women here would even want to acknowledge that their fellow gold-digger 'sisters' are ruining their chances, because many men became very suspicious and careful. |
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Amazingly, not one single women here would even want to acknowledge that their fellow gold-digger 'sisters' are ruining their chances, because many men became very suspicious and careful. Oh...they exist, of course! They ruin 'chances' with people who don't get to know me, of course! But is that really who I want to be with? Someone who wouldn't want to really know me? |
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Agreed, and when men go for the stripper types well expect that you're going to get gold diggers most of the time.. Or the opportunists.. They're everyone... so are good people... you get what you put out there... You draw in what your aura lets out... I've never went with the stripper types...and even though I know there are women out there who aren't like the ones I describe here, just listen to this. My friend just went through a divorce for the same reason. He lost his job, so after 13 years, his wife sent in the papers for divorce. His fault? He lost his job and he makes half of what he made before. There are more and more similar stuff I see and hear about so I refuse to accept such an explanation that it's "my aura" is what to blame here. Amazingly, not one single women here would even want to acknowledge that their fellow gold-digger 'sisters' are ruining their chances, because many men became very suspicious and careful. I'm sorry for you friend, some people suck.. But that's exactly it SOME people... Not all... As for us acknowledging those types, why would we? Why would we give them more attention than you men already do??? Why would we let them ruin our chances??? they're not ruining anything for us.. If men let women like that break them, then I do not want that man.. ANY person that lets another dictate how they think of others or what ALL others are about is not a person that thinks for themselves and not the type of person I'd want... I want someone that can stand up for theirself and their life.. If we get some bad experiences, turn them into lessons not negativity and anger.. have you EVER seen me on here slam the male gender b/c my ex tried to kill me? Hell no.. He's one man out of billions.. Why give him that kind of control... |
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There are a lot of men out there ...That can support themselves pay the rent, utilities, food , bills each and every day. Yet There are some and I repeat some women who do not think that's good enough...And there lies the problem... And I do understand the OP plight. He does need to reevaluate his own requirements.Maybe make some adjustments.
In my case I am retired, pay all my bills on time, have a home pay the mortgage, put food on my table. Have a little left over for a couple of nights out during the month if I so chose. And all I ever ask from a woman is to be honest , communicate with me...Accept that I am and never will be an ambitious hard wrong person to provide for the all the materialistic things in life. Been there did that and It about cost me my health and life. to me life should be simple...no stress, no anxieties. just love. |
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There are a lot of men out there ...That can support themselves pay the rent, utilities, food , bills each and every day. Yet There are some and I repeat some women who do not think that's good enough...And there lies the problem... And I do understand the OP plight. He does need to reevaluate his own requirements.Maybe make some adjustments. In my case I am retired, pay all my bills on time, have a home pay the mortgage, put food on my table. Have a little left over for a couple of nights out during the month if I so chose. And all I ever ask from a woman is to be honest , communicate with me...Accept that I am and never will be an ambitious hard wrong person to provide for the all the materialistic things in life. Been there did that and It about cost me my health and life. to me life should be simple...no stress, no anxieties. just love. I think that's great.. The thing is if a woman wants more that is her right... Just like you want more than some women can or are willing to give... All I'm saying is we have choices, and sometimes we don't like the outcomes but we can't blame it on everyone... I didn't blame all men that I was divorced with kids and dating is harder.. I knew that some men didn't like that and that was their choice... I have only one left under age but my older lives at home and comes back and leaves annually... I respect a man's decision to not accept my door open policy with my sons.. There are sooooooooo many different things that we do or don't want and we will mesh with someone when we meet the person that we can accept what we're comfortable with and they will as well. If not then they aren't for us, pure and simple no anger or negativity necessary... IMO |
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Edited by
galendgirl
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Sun 05/10/09 04:53 PM
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There are a lot of men out there ...That can support themselves pay the rent, utilities, food , bills each and every day. Yet There are some and I repeat some women who do not think that's good enough...And there lies the problem... And I do understand the OP plight. He does need to reevaluate his own requirements.Maybe make some adjustments. In my case I am retired, pay all my bills on time, have a home pay the mortgage, put food on my table. Have a little left over for a couple of nights out during the month if I so chose. And all I ever ask from a woman is to be honest , communicate with me...Accept that I am and never will be an ambitious hard wrong person to provide for the all the materialistic things in life. Been there did that and It about cost me my health and life. to me life should be simple...no stress, no anxieties. just love. I think that's great.. The thing is if a woman wants more that is her right... Just like you want more than some women can or are willing to give... All I'm saying is we have choices, and sometimes we don't like the outcomes but we can't blame it on everyone... I didn't blame all men that I was divorced with kids and dating is harder.. I knew that some men didn't like that and that was their choice... I have only one left under age but my older lives at home and comes back and leaves annually... I respect a man's decision to not accept my door open policy with my sons.. There are sooooooooo many different things that we do or don't want and we will mesh with someone when we meet the person that we can accept what we're comfortable with and they will as well. If not then they aren't for us, pure and simple no anger or negativity necessary... IMO ...and I'm betting you (dirtyduck) read the profile, note any income 'requirements' (OMG, I'm still amazed this exists!) and take personal responsibility for whom you choose to contact. |
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Edited by
Dragoness
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Sun 05/10/09 04:55 PM
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As for the man married for years and divorced for losing his job and not making enough.
If they have been married for years and lose their job and end up divorced, I hate to tell you this but they had more problems than the money situation before the money situation came up. A woman who has been married for many years happily is not going to leave the relationship because of a job loss. |
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I'm just gonna send a big HUG out to all the guys here who have been burned by women...
a big HUG out to all the guys who take personal responsibility for the women they choose to date... a big hug to all the independent women who don't fit the bashing ...and a big HUG out to all women who DO act like gold-diggers because clearly they NEED some love and self-respect. Are we all friends now???
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