I'm one of those guys who is hard to squash and I stand by my words..(this is not a comment on your post ladywolf). I know, this topic isn't about to make anyone feel happy or good, I understand that, but the reason I decided to write about this isn't about posting to make people feel happy.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not here to make anyone feel bad either, I am just simply putting the word out and it's for the better.

If I get just one single woman or man take a few steps back and think about it and change their thinking and their ways for the better, than I have won and I've achieved what I wanted. If there are more, the better.
Nobody is perfect, not even I am (big surprise) but we can make each other more perfect and sometimes It is worth to criticize if it makes people to better themselves.

I have spoken.

In words that's all wonderful and great.. But what have you really achieved? Showing everyone how angry you are... You're not even acknowledging that there are good people out there and good relationships, you're just jumping on the angry negative bicylce and trampling all thoughts, feelings and opinions of any that doesn't agree with you... We all have thoughts, feelings and opinions, but doesn't mean ours are right for everyone...

this is true.. I had a hard time in the past . But I learned to forgive and forget. What one person does... does not mean every person will do the same... Its called trust.... lesson learned if you must say .. again leery sure, but I over look that and try again keeping an open mind and an open heart.. I would not put every woman in a group and say it's all your fault. And for that matter I wouldn't put any woman there. what happened in the past is just that the past. And thats where it belongs. Look to your future and do not dwell...

shouldn't one start with themself? way too much negativity to send a positive message of change.

I agree. Not much accomplished except we all now know how he sees it all.

Angry and frustrated.

Usually if life isn't going your way, it is something you are feeling, expressing, doing that is blocking you from reaching where you want to go.

I'm sorry but did you just tell people to LOWER their standards, OP??

financially and materialistic requirement standards. If you read the first post carefully.

Does that mean my first question upon speaking with a new guy can no longer be "What is your Visa Gold Card limit"???

No....those who are after financial gain don't openly talk about it. There is usually a substitute excuse.

The first sign of trouble starts like this:

-Honey, what's wrong? evertyhing is ok? - Asks the boyfriend or from the girlfriend, who is looking away with a serious face.

She answers: - Nothing.

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That's it...from that point on, it goes downhill.

WOW!! Okay well thanks for that. I guess I'll just have to go back with my previous question of "are ya hung like a ****"

You're not here to make anyone feel happy, good, or bad, yet you'll tell all the women who replied that they're in denial? Why? Because they didn't go along with what you posted and agree with everything you said?

Didn't expect for women to go along with it...read the title "You are not gonna like this".

I'm afraid you left out ONE scenario, or over looked it all together. You could have a comfortably life and the man dies and you get everything. Now THERE's one lucky girl right there AND she didn't have to lower her standards. Brilliant!

That's another one, I'm sure others also seen it or heard it before. Unfortunately I can't think of all the various options available since I'm not a woman, I can't think like a woman.

maybe you should give that a try and get some insight? that will be 2 lolipops for my services.. Thank you.

I did read it. As did many other women here who replied. Yet, you told us all we're in denial because we didn't agree with everything you said. It just makes you sound bitter and angry, which I guess you were when you were writing that?

Frankly I am glad that there are so many materialistic women out there. It's not that they are the majority, but the dating scene is overrun with them. They are easy to spot, most often misserable and have suprisingly higher standards for what they say they want than who they 'temporarily' end up with. I would rather date a single mother than a professional woman because of this.

My neighborhood is filled with single professional women my age, and most of then scare the hell out of me. I should live on the other side of town with the artsy types. At least they seem real.

ok now I'm just annoyed now.. First off Atlantis that was a horribly COLD reply... Some women have lost the loves of their lives and no amount of money or inheritance can replace that... I cannot believe you are sooooooooooooooooooooo jaded to really think women are this way... some sure but your post isn't about SOME women it's about women in general...


SECONDLY Monier, I am a single mother and a professional and I do just fine on my own I don't need a man to make me who I am, I have my job and my children, my life is complete.. Why can't women in your book be both a mom and a professional...


Finally... I do not want a man without a job.. If I had a man and he lost his job I would stand by him and support him as long as he were trying to get work and really putting in the effort.. People are different and have different expectations.. Just because you haven't met a woman that accepts you for who you are doesn't mean they're all bad.. I don't call all men a pieces of crap and yes I've had the man I've supported and I always make more than every man I've dated.. What's that say??? Freakin' NOTHING... People are people some are good and some suck END OF STORY...

AMEN JOY.... preach it sista!

I just let the angry and bitter people remain as such and go on about my life as if they don't exist. We have all been jaded in someway but to say all men or women are a certain way its just ignorant.