I can say that "I don't agree".. honestly. My ex bf hadn't had a job the whole 6yrs we were together, while he attended college on a full time basis. This didn't bother me at ALL. I supported the relationship, the many christmas's, ect...What DID bother me and cause the FAILURE in our relationship was that fact that he LIED AND CHEATED!

So, you are WRONG in thinking there aren't any of us out there.. because I am ONE who doesn't want/need materialistic belongings.. just someone TRUE and HONEST!

I feel the same way. I'm not looking for someone who can support me and take care of me financially.

yes they do.. most are $50,000 - $75,000 and some do ask for $150,000 minimum.. scarey huh?

Most women are not materialistic about who they choose to love.However, most people (men and women) have a distorted view of what love and relationships are because of movies,television,and pop music.

lol...I guess I was just taught to work hard and support myself.

Thank you Atlantis...I actually just started a spin-off of this thread because it's something I have been thinking a lot about recently. Why should I lower my standards? If I don't find the type of guy I'm looking for, I'll just die trying.... I'm not looking for a sugar daddy either, as some have posted. I do, however have some traditional values that I won't compromise on.

I guess any guy who responds to a profile like that deserves exactly the disappointment he's probably going to get.

If, however, you want to be a sugar daddy and have eye candy on your arm (just assuming she's gorgeous) then have at it.

If you're only finding women who have a salary requirement for men they date, maybe you're looking for the wrong type of women?

the real problem lies in that we have become accustomed to Living beyond our means. and when a divorce happens SOME women expect to continue that with the next man they fall in love with.

Granted there are a lot of women who are willing to just fall in love as long as the man is honest doesn't cheat and tries to make a living. But other then the few here? They are a rare breed... its about the money always has been always will be till people accept the fact things are not like it was 6 months ago. I applaud any woman who can and does support herself and her family.

that's funny. most are just average looking women . I wouldn't say any of them are georgous... I have seen better looking women here.

Here Here, I concur!

Thanks...and from the flip side, it's pretty hard to find a man you would trust with what you've worked hard to establish. Giving up that security, standard of living, independence or whatever - that is going to take one really special person. There are plenty of opportunistic men in the world, as well.

thats the point.. I am not looking for someone with that type of agenda. But they exist. they have their requirements like we all do in some manner or form. Its a sad note that its a requirement when you see it in a profile. automactically I skip them and move on.

I have no doubt there are many women out there like that. But, just because there are some, you can't assume all women are like that. If you keep finding them, maybe you need to think about the type of women you're going for.

I will have to agree, it also takes a special woman . I have been taken for a home ( pd for) 2 new cars (pd for) and my bank acct with $236,000 dollars in it. Then paid 375 a month for child suport.so I am just a very leery person. trust? hmmm

its not about the type of woman. Its what is in their profiles And you don't know that till you read them.. Its one of those things the other sites list about incomes? yours and theirs.. I do not specifically look for these types. there are just there so I pass them by.

I guess the only thing you can do is just move on to the next profile if you don't see what you like in the one you're reading at that time.

the only requirements I have about money is that he's not a dead beat and expects me to support him while he does nothing. I have that because of a past relationship.

I really don't think it's a matter of lowering ones standards, but rather redefining them.

I believe there are women looking for someone to 'take care of them', but not because they are not capable of doing so themselves, but because they feel entitled and it's so much easer to take from someone so willing to give rather than take responsibility for your own existence/survival.

With that said, I don't see/hear about those kind of women as much as I once did. From what I can tell, there are many more women these days taking care of themselves and their children just fine without the financial assistance of a man. However, there's nothing wrong with wanting someone around the share the load, financially and otherwise.

As far as looks, except for those few with 'tunnel vision' for the Barbie and Ken types, again, I think most of us have realistic expectations and standards. There's nothing wrong with seeking folks we find physically attractive.

I think these things actually have little to do with why folks are not connecting. I think, rather, it's the walls some have built up and the bitterness they spew due to past experiences and disappointments. It's not thinking outside of box and taking a chance. It's not honestly and openly putting oneself out there to be considered. It's feeling unworthy. It's just not willing to risk it. It is so much easier to carry around the bitterness, blame others for their unhappiness, rather than actually doing something positive to change what is making them so miserable.