date someone who always had a negative attitude about their self worth?
Saying things like
"I know the outcome of this before I start, things never go right for me"
or
"I'm not good enough because people always leave me".

(just examples, not real statements)

Could you get past that and attempt to befriend this person or do statements like these turn you off from the start?

I think I would hang up on them in the first phone conversation.

Red flag number one.

I don't feel im good enough to answer this post lol.

I'd like to think I'd be friendly, but it would never go anywhere.. everyone has their own issues.. I don't need to fix yours too.

you cant date someone like that at all the persons attitude has already sabotaged the whole thing

I've dated a lot of girls like that -- I have this thing where I feel the need to try to help them. I think it's truly sad when a totally great person can't see how great she really is.

Of course, it never works, and I end up just reinforcing their beliefs anyway, after a few months. So it's a lose-lose for everybody.

But NASA keeps flying space shuttles, so you never know....

Most people that have been jaded to that point won't date or try to have relationships.

Ask me how I know.

nope if your not happy with your self there is no way I could be happy around you

It's interesting the replies.......which of course I knew would go this way. However, I think someone needed a wake up call. Hopefully this post will do it in a kind way.

I too am one that feels the need to befriend people like this and pretty much always am disappointed when I do. It's almost impossible to "fix" that behavior until someone sees the need to do it for themselves. And then usually they move on to someone else anyhow.

We can only work on ourselves. We're never going to fix someone else. Although, if you have a certain personality, sometimes you just can't help yourself..

If one only looks for the negative that is all one will find.

If they are not willing to see if things could go good and always looks on the downside. Then why stick around and try to prove something will work when they will be doing everything they can to not make it work.

Yes, I agree TxsGal......it's like over and over to try to make a point. You can only compliment or try to help someone so much, after that it just gets annoying.

since i'm not looking, i would try to help them with the confidence issues, and help them, help themselves and steer them in a direction toward the law of attraction, and make them understand that they are drawing bad energy to themselves .

Bravo to you for the willingness to help out your fellow man. That person is lucky to get you as a friend.

I'm a happy camper! Don't need no negative nellies around me no siree skippy doodle. Just call me flanders.

I'm taking my ball & going home

people with low self esteem= drama

Ya know, I know I have these very issues that your talking about, bashing or whatever, but try looking at it from the other side.....

I have been working on these issues for years, and your right nothing anyone says or does can change how a person thinks or feels about themselves. I was working on my issues and was doing very well with them, Untill I found out I was being lied to for Three years. I'm not going to get into the details of what happened because thats not important.

However, when you look around and see that no one wants to be around you unless your writing a check for something, getting them out of trouble or fixing one of their issues, you start to slide back in to the thought pattern that your really not worth anything.

At that point you start to figure that its the way you look or act. Thats when you start to with draw from people, convence your self that its better for everyone else if your just not around to screw things up for them, and eventaully you just give up.

There is only so many times that you can hear that you never were good enough to date, They just wanted something from you.

At that point you start to believe everyone is like that. Thats when you start to hate People as a whole.

Personally I'm trying to stop things before they get to that point, but every time I start to make some ground, and start to feel better about my self and my self worth, something happens that proves to me that I shouldn't have started to believe that I was a decent person after all, and that no one will ever want to be with someone like me, or a type of person like myself.

So while your sitting here talking about people and the fact that they don't think highly about themselves, try to understand why.

I cant fix someone else they have to do themself.