Same here for me, too- are you in law enforcment of some sort?

I can't date someone who has no sense of humor......many say they do until you talk with them & realize they really don't.....I can't date someone who is too wrapped up in their past.....I can't date someone who really doesn't know what they want......I can't date someone who is full of themselves.....

The thing that people over look is that he is not black, his mom is most definitely white. Still a monumental occasion though.

Sorry, I didnt mean to call you out, Ive just been dealing with that issue for a while now.

Again, an actual African American is very rare.

If a person was not born in Africa, did not come to the U.S. from Africa to live, has never been to Africa, or does not speak any African language, then they're American, who is black (or mulatto, or whatever). Ain't no "African" involved!

That would be as ridiculous as me calling myself a German/Polish/French Canadian/American/American.

"In the first place we should insist that if the immigrant who comes here in good faith becomes an American and assimilates himself to us, he shall be treated on an exact equality with everyone else, for it is an outrage to discriminate against any such man because of creed, or birthplace, or origin. But this is predicated upon the man's becoming in very fact an American, and nothing but an American...There can be no divided allegiance here. Any man who says he is an American, but something else also, isn't an American at all. We have room for but one flag, the American flag, and this excludes the red flag, which symbolizes all wars against liberty and civilization, just as much as it excludes any foreign flag of a nation to which we are hostile...We have room for but one language here, and that is the English language...and we have room for but one sole loyalty and that is a loyalty to the American people."

Theodore Roosevelt 1907

You know was just thinkin

I can't date some one who... isnt ticklish.

i mean really a girl who isnt ticklish is dead inside


do you have any deal breakers?
what is your "I can't date some one who...."

This would be a model of "assimilation" that Roosevelt was describing. This is a somewhat antiquated concept now. It also clearly would not be applicable to ALL ethnic minorities and immigrants. Would a Polish or German immigrant have the same difficulty in blending in to their new surroundings as an African American or an American Indian? I dont think so. You also have two diverse ethnic groups there that were forcibly enslaved or moved in some respect. Not the same as a bunch of Polish or Italian or Irish citizens voluntarily leaving their native land for a new and perceived better existence in America.

You can not simply look at this through the eyes of a white person.

I prefer a model of pluralism in which each and every diverse ethnic group is enjoyed and experienced on its own merit. I view it as a big salad. Wouldn't you rather taste the cucumbers and the tomatoes and the celery and the carrots? Or would you rather eat a bowl full of homogenized mush?