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Link, you look really sad in this pic...cheer up

Get to know some of these Beautiful ladies here first through the Forums...and you will be fine

Huggs

This is the reality on many dating sites.

I have found that the best way to get people to want to talk to you, is to post in the forums -- a lot. Let everyone get to know you. At the same time, you'll get to know them. You can get some ideas about who appeals to you, who has something interesting or amusing to say.

I gave up e-mailing anybody first ages ago. And I get LOTS of e-mail from women on this site now -- and it's usually because of something I posted in the forums. Or it might be about my profile; but nobody would even know about my profile if not for the fact that I post in the forums.



I don't think that enters into it at all. I think a lot of women just don't feel comfortable replying to an unsolicited message from a random stranger they know nothing about.



It changes once you get their attention and they have some sort of idea of who you are. But they have to get a feel for you first, at least in my experience.



But they don't know any of that based on one e-mail out of the blue. I'm not doubting you; but THEY may be. The fact is, there are a lot of jerks on dating sites, too, and some of the women can get gunshy after enough bad experiences. Hell, that's true for the guys, too.



You're not doing anything wrong, you're just expecting too much too soon.

i may send a random email to someone but if i do its cause i am making an honest opinion on something i see or read on their profile. besides some people enjoy clicking on their inbox to see a few messages, i find it to be nice and makes me feel good that someone took a moment to send me a message

there evil, evil i tell ya !

so what IS up with the women on these dating sites?

And some people have had such bad reaction when we reply saying we are not interested, that we just don't do it anymore.

Sometimes it is what you say in your first email too. DON'T send a resume of why you would make a good romantic partner. Immediate turn off.

DO strike up a conversation by commenting and questioning something in her profile.

And USE the FORUMS!

i sent an email to a girl just telling her she had a pretty smile. if she emails me back cool... if not hopefully she used that pretty smile when she read the email.

I only email people back if I know them from the forums or if they actually have an interesting question for me.

dude go out n meet REAL women that will give u there time n day!!! in these datin sites they all play games n other fun stuff. BUT SOME OF US GUYS DO THE SAME!!!

Do you not know why you want a girlfriend?

ummm...just because YOU are interested in these women doesnt mean they are interested in you...jeeze, talk about an over-bloated sense of entitlement...

forums forums forums..... and oh yeah hit those forums lol

Ok thanks. Yea I'll do that.

i have been surprised by how many more people i have received emails or views from since i have been posting into the forums

I personally love it when a guy messages me a compliment or question about my profile. That shows me that he actually took the time to read it and was interested in more than my picture.

that was such a cute halloween pic. too cute. look like you 2 had a lot of fun

Since I started here, I've only gotten ONE mail from somebody I didn't already know from my previous site. I don't get mail very often as it is. Never have. Don't take it personally.

Patience lil homey....ya gotta be nice...make a few jokes,,,a random compliment or nice word requarding thier posts or something in thier profile goes a long way.

The key is just be easy going and not sound desperate...heard too many women comment on guys that came across like puppies desperate to be petted and taken home. It ain't easy, I know....but you gotta split the difference with wanting to be with someone...and wanting your own space. When you can do that...your odds jump.

One more thing bro....CONFIDENCE! Women ain't turned off by it.

I'd like to add...Bust a smile dude! Post a new photo!

Then order up your lady your way.

That was Burger Kings wasn't it?