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| Topic: Intellect: Turn-On or Intimidating? | |
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I find it to be a turn on. I don't feel challenged with my intellect because I am always learning (even if slowly at times) and welcome the chance for someone to teach me a different point of view or logic behind something. Would be nice if I could find that here in Illinois but as Lex has already explained it is a rare commodity here. It amazes me -- there must be 4000 colleges in Illinois, half of the Illinois people I see on the site are either in college or recently graduated, and yet none of them can write three complete sentences without either misspelling half of the words and becoming completely unintelligible, or being so dull, boring and informationless that all it takes is three profiles to send me into an extended coma. |
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..when she is abusive with her mental advantage..it is a turnoff...well, perhaps at the beginning it can be a turn on...but eventually, its a turn off...same thing can be said for smart men i suppose..
Roco |
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point of clarification: smart men that are mentally abusive that is to say...
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..when she is abusive with her mental advantage..it is a turnoff...well, perhaps at the beginning it can be a turn on...but eventually, its a turn off...same thing can be said for smart men i suppose.. Roco Another comment on abuse. Are intellectual women really that b*tchy? 
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Intelligent, biotchy women are
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Honestly, it's hard to find guys that can keep up with me in this respect but when I do I'm instantly
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there's nothing hotter than a woman who's smarter than me. In the past, i've always found myself more attracted to women of above average intelligence. i've known myself to lose interest in otherwise attractive women upon discovering that they can't (or, won't, for fear of seeming "intimidating" or "mentally abusive", apparently, which is news to me) hold an intelligent conversation.
basically, i've got to assume that if you don't challenge what i say in conversation at least some of the time, you either A) agree 100% of the time, which isn't damn likely B) aren't listening C) can't understand B or C - major turn off. ( kinda new to the forums here, so, hello, relationship advice forum  )
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Intelligent, biotchy women are
yes actually, we are 
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I'm not the smartest guy in the world, nor will I ever be the richest. But I don't think that this defines me. Basically, what defines me is that I am someone who might not always do the "smart" thing, but I live my life and learn from it. That said, I want a woman who is smart enough to know how to take care of herself and can talk to me about anything she wants. I don't care if she has an education, meaning college degree. I think people put WAYYYY to much emphasis on if a person has went to college. I don't have a degree, but I did alot of things (in my last career) that most engineer's (with degrees) did. Basically, I learned by doing...nuff said. Just because I don't have the paper that says I am smart, doesn't mean I am a dumbass. 
Women should not dumb themselves down. I want a fun woman, a live life the best I can woman, a woman who will work with me when money gets tight and we have to figure things out...cause in those moments you really do find out alot about each other. Smart women don't intimidate me, but some can piss me off cause they try to hard to use their smarts to put guys down. I don't like these women, and they can take a mile jog and run off the tip of my d*ck for all I care. Anyways...I like smart, logical, common sense women. 
This just confirms why I adore you...... |
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Edited by
feralcatlady
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Wed 10/01/08 04:41 PM
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((((((((judy)))))))))) you got mail...
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I think you fall in love with a lot of different things about a woman or a man. For me intelligence was a given but actually funny came first. I don't think any man should be intimidated because they are obviously talking to you or with you because of what you brought to the table in the first place. I think some women think men are intimidated when in reality most men are not. I do think women either play it to much or don't play it enough (smarts) think what they might want....stop thinking about it and that is half the battle.
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Edited by
Blaze1978
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Wed 10/01/08 05:15 PM
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Naturally, having the ability to carry on a conversation would be attractive. Guys who are intimidated by that are probably only after one thing anyway, otherwise they would care a great deal about it. What's the point of having a chick around if there's nothing in common and there's nothing to say? That would be incredibly boring.
Of course, upon further reflection, intellectual women can be *****y and disagreeable too, argumentative even, which is a definitive turnoff...I guess it depends a lot on the individual. Being able to carry a conversation without going on an ego-driven "I'm always right you're always wrong" power trip... |
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Smart is good.
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Intelligent, biotchy women are
yes actually, we are
"sigh"  
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So... it seems to come down to two reasons: Dumb guys who don't want to be one-upped by their SOs and smart guys who want all the control.
Not really. The idea that smart guys want someone they can control is slightly off base due to the fact that it isn't the case for all of us ( and yes, I AM saying that I am a pretty smart dude ). Myself, I would much prefer a woman who can keep up a good conversation with me, and possibly keep up with the way I think. I'm not one of those guys who looks for someone I can control. |
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i am totally turned on be a smart girl. smart girls are witty and can follow my quick and sarcastic humor. im like, instantly in love.
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Yes, I am turned on by intelligent women. I do not however feel they should flaunt it though. And it also depends on how you define intelligence. There are a lot of girls who have multiple degrees and have great jobs, but still talk about boring material things like clothes and how much they drank last weekend. I believe it has more to do with how they act, as opposed to what their IQ is.
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Hot
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Oh, and to add to that, I would be intimidated by someone who made a whole lot of money. Not that that necessarily has to do with intelligence, but I would fear that there would be some comparisons being drawn up in her mind.
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intelligent women are sooooo much more attractive to me than one that can't speak with correct grammer
i am turned on by an intellectual woman that i can learn from but that is just my preference though |
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