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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! I am who I am, all the time, in the dating world. I only hold back at work. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not so that the man can "feel comfortable". In my world that is called gamey. doesn't sound like a bad world lol...is that a pic of "the last unicorn"??? please tell me it is lol It might be... I don't recall. It was so long since I posted that. My one year anniversary is coming up. I like the world I live in, it's honest, and afger all I want to meet a guy with a backbone and balls. Better I let him prove he does, yes? spoken like a true woman....of course the guy should act like he has a pair of gonads and stand tall...it all depends on the guy though how do you make him "prove" that though?? what test is there to find out if he isn't a wimp? |
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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! Why should a woman act less intelligent to make a man comfortable? |
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i'm not skeered and i don't sweat. unless we're
at the gym or playing tennis. then i might sweat a little, but very politely. 
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A man proves he has a set when he doesn't turn into a sweaty ball of nerves on a date with a smart woman. Simple...
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well then....i am proud to know that i have set of balls LOL
it is hard, however, for a man my age to find a woman around my age that really cares about intelligence or has any of her own....sad but true |
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Edited by
RKISIT
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Fri 10/03/08 01:03 PM
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i've notice one thing about "intelligent people", they may be smarter in some areas but dumb in others,i have a bachelor degree in project management and im real smart in that area, but when it comes to medical thing i know very little,i dont always use big words either,only when i have to ,like when i was doing a presentation for my company in front of billionaires,but after that was over i went back to being me again.
 hell i even part time d.j.ed at night clubs after a business meeting.
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So, my friend and I have had this ongoing argument that I hope you fine males can finally conclude for us. Ladies, please chime in with your opinions and experiences as well. When a woman is smart -- aka can carry a conversation about things beyond TV and shoes -- has a career, is educated, etc, are you more or less apt to be attracted to her? My opinion is you should be more attracted to her. Obviously she can support herself and isn't looking for a free ride or a sugar daddy. Also, she's interesting and unique, and guys, you can get a dumb mannequin anywhere. And a woman who is smart thinks of some VERY interesting things to do in bed. Plus, you can bring her home to your family and be proud of calling her yours.
My friend's opinion is that it's intimidating to men -- that we women should dumb ourselves down in order not to scare them away. IMHO, if we have to do that we're dating men who aren't worthy of us in the first place. So... what's your opinion?    
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brains always a turn on!
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brains always a turn on! Je suis aussi effrayant .... puce activée pouffer de rire ...... 
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brains always a turn on! awwwwww hansome and smart..... |
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99% of the men I've met on this site say they want an intelligent woman but IRL are nervous about it and don't know what to do. Almost as because I wasn't nervous they were... dunno. They became sac less balls of sweat. That is my experience. The few I met that didn't have a problem with my intelligence and bearing, well I just didn't want to kiss them. But that was about 4-5 out of 30 or so. Intelligent women are hot. I know one in particular, mmmmmmmm! |
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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! Why should a woman act less intelligent to make a man comfortable? singmesweet, lets say I come over to your house, would you bring me in to show me your best china, how about opening the safe, show me your checkbook, the new car in the garage? My point: there is a time and place for everything and if you are interested in someone isn't comfort the thing? Don't you want to put them at ease? I don't mean lie, I don't mean condescend, and I don't mean pretend anything. Unless of course you are looking for a man that is willing to put you in your place. Then you may as well bring the whips and chains...lol Relationships are like dancing, do you insist on leading???? if you allow the man to lead does that make you less of who you are? |
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As long as she doesn't make him feel stupid by talking down to him. Sometimes if a person thinks they know it all, they miss a lot...
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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! I am who I am, all the time, in the dating world. I only hold back at work. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not so that the man can "feel comfortable". In my world that is called gamey. In my world that is called pushy |
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HOW DO YOU LIKE ME NOW????.......LOL
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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! Why should a woman act less intelligent to make a man comfortable? singmesweet, lets say I come over to your house, would you bring me in to show me your best china, how about opening the safe, show me your checkbook, the new car in the garage? My point: there is a time and place for everything and if you are interested in someone isn't comfort the thing? Don't you want to put them at ease? I don't mean lie, I don't mean condescend, and I don't mean pretend anything. Unless of course you are looking for a man that is willing to put you in your place. Then you may as well bring the whips and chains...lol Relationships are like dancing, do you insist on leading???? if you allow the man to lead does that make you less of who you are? I don't really see how those things are the same. You seem to want someone to not show how intelligent they are in order to make you feel comfortable. If you're not comfortable around an intelligent women, perhaps you should date someone different? If acting less intelligent than I really am is what's going to make someone feel comfortable, that person is not for me. |
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I think how a person handles their intelligence really shows not only how smart they are but their character. Someone who is generous with includeing everyone is the really smart person because very few people wants to feel intelectually bullied. Or feel safe if they are around someone who displays that kind of contempt for others. Occasionally I have had men express fear that I am a lot more together than they are but rarely has it seem to spoil the relationship. Maybe that is because I am attracted to men that are usually extreamly smart, and rather quiet about it, themselves. And more often than not I tend to enjoy having the gentleman take the lead in personal relationships, even if I am smarter, just because I don't like a relationship to be a competition. How men find being a Biotch attrative I don't know but it seems to happen a lot because I see some women treat them like dogs and they take it.
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lalala
 
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So, my friend and I have had this ongoing argument that I hope you fine males can finally conclude for us. Ladies, please chime in with your opinions and experiences as well. When a woman is smart -- aka can carry a conversation about things beyond TV and shoes -- has a career, is educated, etc, are you more or less apt to be attracted to her? My opinion is you should be more attracted to her. Obviously she can support herself and isn't looking for a free ride or a sugar daddy. Also, she's interesting and unique, and guys, you can get a dumb mannequin anywhere. And a woman who is smart thinks of some VERY interesting things to do in bed. Plus, you can bring her home to your family and be proud of calling her yours.
My friend's opinion is that it's intimidating to men -- that we women should dumb ourselves down in order not to scare them away. IMHO, if we have to do that we're dating men who aren't worthy of us in the first place. So... what's your opinion? I need a woman that can help me with my homework
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So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees? Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable! Why should a woman act less intelligent to make a man comfortable? singmesweet, lets say I come over to your house, would you bring me in to show me your best china, how about opening the safe, show me your checkbook, the new car in the garage? My point: there is a time and place for everything and if you are interested in someone isn't comfort the thing? Don't you want to put them at ease? I don't mean lie, I don't mean condescend, and I don't mean pretend anything. Unless of course you are looking for a man that is willing to put you in your place. Then you may as well bring the whips and chains...lol Relationships are like dancing, do you insist on leading???? if you allow the man to lead does that make you less of who you are? I don't really see how those things are the same. You seem to want someone to not show how intelligent they are in order to make you feel comfortable. If you're not comfortable around an intelligent women, perhaps you should date someone different? If acting less intelligent than I really am is what's going to make someone feel comfortable, that person is not for me. I will try to talk alittle slowwwwwer.....lol..j/k "I don't mean pretend anything" = don't act less intelligent! If this is you being yourself, IMHO then more may actually be less. Good luck to you. Let me know how it works out! |
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