It's always been nice to TALK with the woman I chose to be with...or her choose me!

This, like everything else in life, has gray areas and depends on the woman. Yes, I would prefer a woman to be educated and hold intelligent conversations, but not if they were pompous or thought they were better than other because they were smart. They would also know how to be stupid at times. I mean, I am an engineer so I guess I can say I am a pretty smart guy, but sometimes it is just fun to act stupid and a little immature every now and again. I need someone that can be flexible like that.

..wow scoundrel..that's really smooth - "Understanding that I am not a genius, and that my love is the most I've got to offer."...Marge, I am the direct opposite..so which leader are are you looking for..??

Roco

..some of them are...and the ones that are do quite well for themselves in business..most of the women supervisors that i've had who were "intellectual and b*tchy" were just as successful and had just as much power as the male supervisor's that were intelligent and ***holes....if you need a lesson on intelligence and b*tchy..in a business smart way..watch the movie: on any given sunday...you'll know what i mean..

Roco

discourse then intercourse......i like that



it is only intimidating to "lesser" men

I izzzzzzzzzzzzz lookin for da smott mens!!!!

In keeping with the real question based on the title: Intellect, Turn Off or Intimadating?

I will say intellect is a HUGE turn-on.

Always has been, always will be. Forever, Amen!

No, I'm not one of those men who says they want a strong woman and then whimpers in the corner when she has beat me down intellectually.

I honestly like being challenged, on all levels. If you don't challenge me enough on deeper levels...off with your head.

Bring it on, ladies! I dare you.

Your panties are showing!!!

Really now? Funny! Seeing how I go commando!

Oh!!! those are mine!!!

Turn on, however.......... the smartest person in the room usually isn't the one doing all the talking. Guys are competitive by nature, kind of me against the world. When he sizes up a woman the question in his mind is,,,, will it be you and me against the world? or will it be me against you and the world? The last thing a guy needs is another thing to have to watch out for. I know this sounds paranoid, but its really not. I think people fall in love, and trust, not by facing each other, but rather by being together side by side facing the world (I got your back).
Think about it! Aren't those the happiest times in your life when you have someone to face all of lifes adversities with? A smart woman is an asset, and will make life easier for a man provided she knows how to make him feel that know matter what, she is his and he is hers. The smartest women will not say much,at first and let things grow, like trust and confidence then when he knows where her heart and soul are, he will be secure that she won't use her smarts against him.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Wellllllllll I could have done AS well, but then I'd be talking tooo much

99% of the men I've met on this site say they want an intelligent woman but IRL are nervous about it and don't know what to do. Almost as because I wasn't nervous they were... dunno.

They became sac less balls of sweat.

That is my experience. The few I met that didn't have a problem with my intelligence and bearing, well I just didn't want to kiss them. But that was about 4-5 out of 30 or so.

WELLLL Thank You for the compliment FADE!

So lilith? are you saying you put your intelligence and bearing right out there. Right up front so as to be the first thing a man sees?
Be damned if I'm going to hold back just to make a man feel comfortable!

I am who I am, all the time, in the dating world. I only hold back at work.

I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not so that the man can "feel comfortable". In my world that is called gamey.

doesn't sound like a bad world lol...is that a pic of "the last unicorn"??? please tell me it is lol

You know, I've run into something similar -- I talk to women on various sites who say that intelligence is a turn-on but then they don't like it when it comes out and they feel the need to reciprocate.

I think there's a sort of a reflexive thing that kicks in when people say what they think they're "supposed" to say -- like "looks don't matter" or "age is unimportant" or something -- the need to be perceived as something other than shallow and superficial, maybe. You're "supposed" to want someone intelligent, but not everybody does.

And I've noticed a huge discrepancy between the number of women who say that want a guy with intelligence, as opposed to the number who really do.

I've gotten e-mails here from women who say "So-and-so really likes you, but she's intimidated by your use of the language." Pffffft. It's all English, hun. Deal with it.

It might be... I don't recall. It was so long since I posted that. My one year anniversary is coming up.

I like the world I live in, it's honest, and afger all I want to meet a guy with a backbone and balls. Better I let him prove he does, yes?

Yes, but your daily vernacular makes me weak in the knees. I really, truly, mean it.

I just wish people knew themselves and what they wanted, and spent time writing that out. That's all. I know what I want and what i don't, and I know what gets me going and what gets me going home.