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We are starting to get the court ordered members and retreads to the meeting. What is nice is when their spouses or relatives bring them in and dump them off for us to fix.

I am glad I went to the meeting. My head is back on straight temporarily. I am glad there are people out there just like me.

June 16th will be 9 years, which isn't far off for me. My last drunk was on Fathers day, 2003 and this is my first father's day coming up as an actual father. The mother hasn't faired so well. She's back out there and wow... Today when she visited our daughter, her parenting attitude was almost gone, and all she really wanted was her cell phone so she could call drug dealers. I said no and also told her she could not stay while I went to te meeting because I didn't trust her in the home alone. All of the women in the meeting took turns giving my baby love as only a woman could so it was win win.

Congrats,keep the faith!

Sobriety opens the door to a world of possibilities. You look like a proud father. Congratulations on your time sober and your precious child.

I was never diagnosed as having any addiction but I have impulsive problems. You all know I take medication and go to therapy.

I have been asked out repeatedly by twelve steppers in the past.

I do not tolerate drinking, smoking or doing drugs.

Do you think it's stupid to date 12 steppers for this reason? I mean for them, there is a a person with zero temptation around and for me, I get my person working on themselves who is no smoking, drinking and doing drugs. Yes, I am aware some still smoke.

I only dated one and he was a decent person.

I think it's unwise to date someone just going through the motions. If they are sincere and serious about living a lifestyle that matches that of which you live, go for it, but be very careful of those who are just going through the motions to appease others. In fact, stay far away from those types.

P.S. I never ever smoked or did drugs but I did drink at parties on high school as everyone where I lived did. I never "needed" it and never drunk to excess though I am a light weight when it comes to alcohol.

My boyfriend in Texas tried quitting smoking for me. I did not ask him too. He took that drug Chanex. What a disaster. It made him a whole different person. I say changing anybody is not possible. It's like asking a fish not to swim. He lied to me. He said he smoked on occasion. He smoked 4 times a day.

I have met some 12 steppers who are many years sober. I just don't know if that is a good pool to date from or contaminated waters.

That's a good thing tea, especially given your personality type. You could have went down a very bad road.

Emotions anonymous, and Nami are useful resources,




Even sewer water seeks its own level. We find people at our own level of health or lack thereof. Your chance of meeting someone who will die sober are 1 in 30, and those odds really don't improve much with time. At nearly 9 years sober, I could easily drink tomorrow, although it doesn't seem likely. I have one baby to love and am planning for a meeting tonight. You must be getting something else out of it.

Bipolar drinkers are typically cheap entertainment, often found on table tops dancing. In my case, I wasn't a tabletop dancer. Just an A$$hole.

Oh heck. I have mentioned before I was sheltered by certain people because of the bipolar and watched carefully. I do not table dance. I cry on your chest and fall asleep in your wet from tears t-shirt. I am told it is so totally sad you will biotch slap anyone who so much as tries to hand me a beer after seeing it once.

Ah, the sobbing drinker! :-) Been there done that. I also have Bi-polar II disorder, for future reference and there's nothing worse in appearance than a dysphoric manic drunk. The key element in terms of who or what we date, however, is we find out how healthy we are by who we attract. It's never just them.


On a positive note, the mother of my child will be working on day 3 of renewed sobriety when she wakes up. Day 2 was a bit rough and it could still be another rest period instead of commitment to sobriety, but her motherly instincts are returning and our baby is doing fine. Our baby will be going onto actual meals soon, and before too long, it will be all organic inhouse grown food, free of fluoride Mercury, Aluminum, and other toxins and preservatives, which will likely put our daughter way above me in intelligence, smart enough to scare anyone.

5th of July, '09. Nearly 3 without drugs and alcohol and it's great. Volunteered to be locked in a hospital for a week to withdraw and I haven't touched a thing since. Gave up the smokes as well last Christmas and I'm working out to restore my fitness.

I'm going to make whats left of my life worth having.