That really sucks. People need to take responsibility for their actions point blank.

My ex and I do not do child support. Instead, I have her 50% of the time and she has her 50% of the time. We have split daycare and when I have her, I pay for her and when she has her, she pays for her. It works out perfectly. So far, at least....

I never took him to court. I guess it's kind of a trade off... He has no legal right to her and I deal with the money issues.

i have my son and i've never received a penny,but at least he has my love and my support.

Ah, I get it.

Well, good luck and I hope he comes to his senses.

here what I did until he change jobs,if you have the old tax returns get his SS# and go to your childsupport agent and they can find his employer and pull the money out of his check.

It sounds like you have a loving father to your children and that he still respects you and your relationship with him. God Bless!!

I never bothered with child support and doubt I ever will. I know my ex, he's too self-centered and irresponsible, I'd spend whatever he did give on attorneys so what's the point. If I take full responsibility for my son, then I'll never have to rely on someone else ever again.

I've never missed a payment or a visitation unless he had plans and we talked about it!!!

I've paid regular for 13 years and worn out 3 vehicles and spent thousands of hours in vehicles driving for visitations. Never regretted a thing and I have a wonderful son that is very close..

I'm just wondering what she's gonna do without that extra $1,000.00 a month in tax free income in a couple of years.......

How do you divide the "extra expenses" like playing on the school's sports teams for $75 a sport and $100 for school supplies and clothes and toys, birthday presents for classmates, etc.?

thats not your problem

I wonder that too. And frankly, it worries me.

I am very sorry you're going through this, wish I was the only one. My kids are now 21, 19, & 18 and wonderful. Tell you what, when I get that $50K back child support check we'll party......deal?

Sorry to stick my nose in this, but I have several female friends that have been through the same thing and this is what we've talked about.

How is that? If what you mean is he doesn't pay support he doesn't get to see he than be careful with that. Just because he doesn't pay CS doesn't mean he doesn't have a right to see her. And that may get you into trouble - if he's a... well you know..

My advice is to take him to court. It's in your best interest.

For one, it defines the custody. If you never have defined it, that really means he can 'take' her without ramification. I.e. pick her up from school and take her.

For another you can solve these CS issues. He probably still wouldn't pay and you'd still be in the same spot. But then you've got him by the short and curlies. And you can continue to take him to court AND you'd have the backing of your state's Child Support Enforcement Agency.

I know this seems like "what the use" but I'd say this to anyone in the same situation. He is preying upon the idea that you won't resist.

-Rick

That issue really doesn't bother me a bit.....I just know that SOME people depend on child support for their personal income.

I gladly pay my child support every 2 weeks because my son is worth every penny, and I know my ex is putting it to good use. The brand new Chevy Equinox she just bought is a safe investment.

wow, guess my daughters father is not that bad, he did after all buy her one gallon of mil back in 1986 to date - I kept telling her to take small sips, but did she listen NO!

shame some parents don't participate in the upbringing nor financial responsibility of their children, I know it's hard but it was worth it for me to do it all on my own.

Ohhh, you mean when they use that money for gasoline to drive the child around or use it help put a roof over their head?

Judges have even said that the money can be used for utilities because the child is benefiting from those utilities too.

If it helps luv, keep in mind, my ex is behind by four months AGAIN, all she is required to pay is 88 dollars (for two kids with her taking home OVER 1600 a month),

She has just turned off her phone again, knowing I am tlaking to the courts about it AGAIN, and is now trying to hide from everyone AGAIN.