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take it into court now hun. Show the evidence of his not supporting the child(ren), and you havig done everything. Show his not being aournd or wanting anything to do with the child(ren. The courts will not give him any rights, and they WILL order the support. They might not order back support, but they will initiate it form the date you filed for the hearing.
He actually told me "you choose your family" and because he didn't "choose" my daughter but he "chose" his new family, they take a priority and he's doing the best he can. Blood means nothing... because you "choose your family" |
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I never bothered with child support and doubt I ever will. I know my ex, he's too self-centered and irresponsible, I'd spend whatever he did give on attorneys so what's the point. If I take full responsibility for my son, then I'll never have to rely on someone else ever again. The courts will add the lawyers fees and such onto whatever they order him to pay you so that you get all that money back in the end. |
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I never bothered with child support and doubt I ever will. I know my ex, he's too self-centered and irresponsible, I'd spend whatever he did give on attorneys so what's the point. If I take full responsibility for my son, then I'll never have to rely on someone else ever again. The courts will add the lawyers fees and such onto whatever they order him to pay you so that you get all that money back in the end. Daniel, in a perfect world the parent ordered to pay child support will pay (and on time) her/his duties. More often than not that parent falls in arrears, stops or just cannot comply. Granted there are those who truly step up to the plate but please realize you are the exception, most people once they break up want to sever all ties and it sadly also includes their children. NOT EVERY PARENT BUT ON THE NORM. |
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I never bothered with child support and doubt I ever will. I know my ex, he's too self-centered and irresponsible, I'd spend whatever he did give on attorneys so what's the point. If I take full responsibility for my son, then I'll never have to rely on someone else ever again. The courts will add the lawyers fees and such onto whatever they order him to pay you so that you get all that money back in the end. Doesn't mean anything to me. I'm capable of supporting my son and playing the "get even" game doesn't do anyone any good. I'd rather give up some unnecessary things and live my life than have it centered around such bitterness. Karma's a *****, it'll bite him in the end without any help from me. |
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Child support can be used in any manner that increses the day to day living of the child in question. If it goes towards rent, then it goes to making sure the child has a place to live. if it goes to utilities, it goes towards aking sure they have heat and electricity.
As long as you can show that it will benefit the child in question, to have the money spent in the way it is spent, then it is being used properly. And the person paying the support does not have any right or reason to know what the money is going for prior to paying it, nor tdo they have the right to an itemized list of expenditures. IF they think something is wrong, they needs to file in court to have the court review everything that is happening, and the OCURT willd ecide if it is not being spent wisely. I'm just wondering what she's gonna do without that extra $1,000.00 a month in tax free income in a couple of years....... That issue really doesn't bother me a bit.....I just know that SOME people depend on child support for their personal income. Ohhh, you mean when they use that money for gasoline to drive the child around or use it help put a roof over their head? Judges have even said that the money can be used for utilities because the child is benefiting from those utilities too. |
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daniel... agreed. I am supporting my child. I provide food, clothes, house, supplies, and even cable tv for her. My ex would have a lot of damn nerve to ask me to list off what I spend the money on that he does send me.
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Child support can be used in any manner that increses the day to day living of the child in question. If it goes towards rent, then it goes to making sure the child has a place to live. if it goes to utilities, it goes towards aking sure they have heat and electricity. As long as you can show that it will benefit the child in question, to have the money spent in the way it is spent, then it is being used properly. And the person paying the support does not have any right or reason to know what the money is going for prior to paying it, nor tdo they have the right to an itemized list of expenditures. IF they think something is wrong, they needs to file in court to have the court review everything that is happening, and the OCURT willd ecide if it is not being spent wisely. I'm just wondering what she's gonna do without that extra $1,000.00 a month in tax free income in a couple of years....... That issue really doesn't bother me a bit.....I just know that SOME people depend on child support for their personal income. Ohhh, you mean when they use that money for gasoline to drive the child around or use it help put a roof over their head? Judges have even said that the money can be used for utilities because the child is benefiting from those utilities too. I have never questioned her use of the funds that I have sent over there. EVER.....I have asked myself sometimes how she was able to pay for some of the things that she's done in the past....but never have said a word to her. Like you said.....it's her business.... BUT!!!!! Wouldn't it be quite a chunk to YOU to have $1,000.00 a MONTH....TAX FREE INCOME.....removed from YOUR budget?????? I imagine it will be for her after having it available to her for so long..... |
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Child support can be used in any manner that increses the day to day living of the child in question. If it goes towards rent, then it goes to making sure the child has a place to live. if it goes to utilities, it goes towards aking sure they have heat and electricity. As long as you can show that it will benefit the child in question, to have the money spent in the way it is spent, then it is being used properly. And the person paying the support does not have any right or reason to know what the money is going for prior to paying it, nor tdo they have the right to an itemized list of expenditures. IF they think something is wrong, they needs to file in court to have the court review everything that is happening, and the OCURT willd ecide if it is not being spent wisely. I'm just wondering what she's gonna do without that extra $1,000.00 a month in tax free income in a couple of years....... That issue really doesn't bother me a bit.....I just know that SOME people depend on child support for their personal income. Ohhh, you mean when they use that money for gasoline to drive the child around or use it help put a roof over their head? Judges have even said that the money can be used for utilities because the child is benefiting from those utilities too. I have never questioned her use of the funds that I have sent over there. EVER.....I have asked myself sometimes how she was able to pay for some of the things that she's done in the past....but never have said a word to her. Like you said.....it's her business.... BUT!!!!! Wouldn't it be quite a chunk to YOU to have $1,000.00 a MONTH....TAX FREE INCOME.....removed from YOUR budget?????? I imagine it will be for her after having it available to her for so long..... But...remember that she'll have less people to feed, buy clothes for, drive around, etc., etc., etc. Her cost of living will go down considerably when they're gone. She might even consider a smaller home which means less utility costs. 
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Edited by
heartSoul
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Thu 09/25/08 08:39 PM
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child support
  I know what it is, but my ex thinks he's immune to pay it |
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HA! CHiLD SUPPORT.. WHAT A CONCEPT?! YOU MAKE BABiES AND THEN PAY FOR THEM.. i DONT GET ANY MONEY FROM MY SON'S iDiOT FATHER. i FEEL YOUR PAiN.
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and it is because of the attitude you show here that they are allowed to continue being deadbeat parents. I am sorry, but the attitude of stepping back and and saying "oh they are just gonna keep doing it..." only encourages it and allows it to happen.
If we step up and STOP IT FROM BEING DONE, it will stop. I never bothered with child support and doubt I ever will. I know my ex, he's too self-centered and irresponsible, I'd spend whatever he did give on attorneys so what's the point. If I take full responsibility for my son, then I'll never have to rely on someone else ever again. The courts will add the lawyers fees and such onto whatever they order him to pay you so that you get all that money back in the end. Daniel, in a perfect world the parent ordered to pay child support will pay (and on time) her/his duties. More often than not that parent falls in arrears, stops or just cannot comply. Granted there are those who truly step up to the plate but please realize you are the exception, most people once they break up want to sever all ties and it sadly also includes their children. NOT EVERY PARENT BUT ON THE NORM. |
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I never had and never will have kids. I share a medical condition with all the males on my mom's side and none of them have kids either
because of that I can't find the slightest shred of respect for a man who doesn't do everything and anything to tend to his kids. Being a daddy is a whole lot more than dashing off a check once a month |
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ARE YOU INSANE ??????
Daniel, in a perfect world the parent ordered to pay child support will pay (and on time) her/his duties. More often than not that parent falls in arrears, stops or just cannot comply. Granted there are those who truly step up to the plate but please realize you are the exception, most people once they break up want to sever all ties and it sadly also includes their children. NOT EVERY PARENT BUT ON THE NORM. please clarify my attitude and keep responses impersonal. What does 'attitude' have to do with my response??? This is an imperfect world, sh!t happens, regardless of whether it's right/wrong, but sh!t happens, either fix it or move on. Those are the options, if you read my post you'd read it clearly states you (and others) are the exception. But you preferred to off on a tangent a wild tangent - 'my attitude' are you truly insane, nothing was said derogoratory - just an opposing view. |
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daniel... agreed. I am supporting my child. I provide food, clothes, house, supplies, and even cable tv for her. My ex would have a lot of damn nerve to ask me to list off what I spend the money on that he does send me. Mine does every time the issue of support comes up. |
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daniel... agreed. I am supporting my child. I provide food, clothes, house, supplies, and even cable tv for her. My ex would have a lot of damn nerve to ask me to list off what I spend the money on that he does send me. Mine does every time the issue of support comes up. does not mean you are required to provide |
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Edited by
Jill298
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daniel... agreed. I am supporting my child. I provide food, clothes, house, supplies, and even cable tv for her. My ex would have a lot of damn nerve to ask me to list off what I spend the money on that he does send me. Mine does every time the issue of support comes up. |
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daniel... agreed. I am supporting my child. I provide food, clothes, house, supplies, and even cable tv for her. My ex would have a lot of damn nerve to ask me to list off what I spend the money on that he does send me. Mine does every time the issue of support comes up. 
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Edited by
Jill298
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Fri 09/26/08 12:23 PM
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The best thing about my ex... is I get to treat him like he's an EX! I don't have to explain myself to him, prove anything, or make him happy in the slightest
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just a personal ranting session now -
parents are responsible financially and emotionally of their children (planned and unplanned alike). Child support is to help with the financial needs of raising a child, while this is extremely important, please do not forget to also provide your children with emotional support, guidance and love. (damnit fell off soap box  ) |
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The best thing about my ex... is I get to treat him like he's an EX! I don't have to explain myself to him, prove anything, or make him happy in the slightest The children are the priority. Not the ex.
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