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heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Tue 09/23/08 08:34 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days I don't view it the same way. You're still married to someone if separated. Some states it takes longer to get a divorce, especially if children are involved. It took me a while to get mine, so I waited until I was officially divorced before I thought about seeing anyone else. Is that a man thing or do women do that also, say they are divorced, when they are really just separated? Just curious, so don't send me any nasty emails, ok Women do it too. I said I was divorced while we were separted did the guy get upset when he found out, or did he find out?

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:34 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days I don't view it the same way. You're still married to someone if separated. Some states it takes longer to get a divorce, especially if children are involved. It took me a while to get mine, so I waited until I was officially divorced before I thought about seeing anyone else. Is that a man thing or do women do that also, say they are divorced, when they are really just separated? Just curious, so don't send me any nasty emails, ok Women do it too. I said I was divorced while we were separted oops separated

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 09/23/08 08:35 PM
Dating, committed, living together...I had to come back to NY to take care of some family business..when I got back to Tennessee I caught him in our bed with his newest gf...

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Tue 09/23/08 08:36 PM
I think its the other way around I'll b chatting with a girl & b really into her & she takes something the wrong way & poof Well if you have and idea what you said to hurt her feelings or insult her enough she objected then if you didn't follow up with maybe a simple second sorry later she might taken that as lame. If you said something but she refuses to tell you what she either is making an excuse or you said something so bad she isn't going to bother to explain it. I have had guys make racial slurs when I was out on a date and I just didn't bother to explain to them they were disparaging minorities which includes me and my children. Somethings you just can't take back. I haven't a clue that you said so it is just guessing.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 09/23/08 08:36 PM
Heres one to be asking.Why men get jealous of other men looking at their girlfriend? Hello if you're walking hand in hand who is she going home with? insecure. i'm used to it. i don't mind.

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:36 PM
No he didn't get upset. My ex and I had been apart for 2 yrs.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 09/23/08 08:37 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? I did because we had been seperated for 4 years I stayed on his insurance and he paid ALOT less child support, that was agreed upon by both of us. My paperwork will be final sometime next month, but I consider us divorced when we ended the relationship, for me it was over and we dated other people. For others it's not the same though. I don't do anything half assed, when I left him I was sure there wouldn't be any reconsiliations.

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:38 PM
Heres one to be asking.Why men get jealous of other men looking at their girlfriend? Hello if you're walking hand in hand who is she going home with? insecure. i'm used to it. i don't mind. ok that and like the women can stop the other men from looking

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:41 PM
I agree Lily leave and don't look back

Cavatica Joined Thu 07/31/08 Posts: 305	Tue 09/23/08 08:42 PM
Dating, committed, living together...I had to come back to NY to take care of some family business..when I got back to Tennessee I caught him in our bed with his newest gf... I'm so done with it all H

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:44 PM
Dating, committed, living together...I had to come back to NY to take care of some family business..when I got back to Tennessee I caught him in our bed with his newest gf... I'm so done with it all H Don't give up not all men are that way. Just most of them

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Tue 09/23/08 08:45 PM
Do men really think we will chase after them if they disappear for days at a time???

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:47 PM
Well I'm going to bed. 6:45 is aweful early when you get woke up at 2:00 and can't go back to sleep

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:48 PM
Do men really think we will chase after them if they disappear for days at a time??? I won't it's a waste of my time.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Tue 09/23/08 09:04 PM
Dating, committed, living together...I had to come back to NY to take care of some family business..when I got back to Tennessee I caught him in our bed with his newest gf... Well that really bites. I have learned over the years if a guy, or a gal, wants to live together it is bad news. They are NOT committed and you are not there the chances are very good you are going to be replaced. That even if you are and they decide to move up so is your living arrangement. It keeps going back to the value you assign a relationship. You give someone your heart at least get the same.You wouldn't pay for a car without a bill of sale get the paper or at least a promisory note of a engagement ring. Anyone who strings you along longer than a year is ripping you off.

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Tue 09/23/08 09:07 PM
No he didn't get upset. My ex and I had been apart for 2 yrs. that makes sense

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Tue 09/23/08 09:48 PM
Do men really think we will chase after them if they disappear for days at a time??? Not all of us.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Tue 09/23/08 09:50 PM
why if a guy seems interested does he do the famous Houdidni act and disappear for days at a time. Is it that hard to text or say thinking of you...blah blah blah.? ljcc1964 have talked EVERDAY since ealy June. We just met face to face at the end of August, and spent 4 beautiful days together. I think about her all the time when I'm awake, or asleep. I can't answer this question.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Wed 09/24/08 06:18 AM
<-------twinkle head......

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Wed 09/24/08 06:21 AM
ok.... but, as dim witted male it is often difficult to discern the different types of separation ...... why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? I did because we had been seperated for 4 years I stayed on his insurance and he paid ALOT less child support, that was agreed upon by both of us. My paperwork will be final sometime next month, but I consider us divorced when we ended the relationship, for me it was over and we dated other people. For others it's not the same though. I don't do anything half assed, when I left him I was sure there wouldn't be any reconsiliations.