Community > General Discussion

Topic: Ok this is
feralcatlady Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 35491	Tue 09/23/08 07:52 PM
Why is it when you go out on a date with a guy; he's made the invitation say to go sighteeing after lunch or to supper and a weekend movie and he has obviously made an effort, dropped what you expect is not small change to him especially a single parent or in my age bracket maybe a dependent mother and you buy yourself and him a soda walking around or bring back popcorn from a trip to the powder room and they act like you shot there dog? Guys are always complaining about gold diggers and playing fair and you try to reciprocate a little kindness and they take as you are "too independent" or whatever. Or if you send a thank you note for the outing you are blowing "them off", clingy, or bucking for another date. What happen to ladies acting like ladies? Good question I will enjoy hearing this one.

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 07:54 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days Who are you and what makes you think I'm not already divorced

elwoodsully Joined Tue 05/01/07 Posts: 7477	Tue 09/23/08 07:55 PM
I look at it this way: If a man is interested, he'll show it..and I'll know it. If I can't tell....what's the point? I just don't see the point in putting my time and effort....and heart...into a relationship with a man that I have to wonder if he's into me. If he disappears for days and days.....he might as well stay disappeared. Thats not the point.....most of the gals complain about this...they are interested things are going great...and then bam they disappear and when they come back and act like nothing....why is it so hard to text or leave an offline message anything except dissappear. She's my Girl.. She knows I want to be in a relationship with her, and she appreciates the fact that I have not gone Houdini. I believe her word was "reliable".

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Tue 09/23/08 08:00 PM
I look at it this way: If a man is interested, he'll show it..and I'll know it. If I can't tell....what's the point? I just don't see the point in putting my time and effort....and heart...into a relationship with a man that I have to wonder if he's into me. If he disappears for days and days.....he might as well stay disappeared. Thats not the point.....most of the gals complain about this...they are interested things are going great...and then bam they disappear and when they come back and act like nothing....why is it so hard to text or leave an offline message anything except dissappear. It isn't difficult. Ask my b/f, elwoodsully. We teach people how to treat us. So if he were to do that to me....and I accept it...I'm teaching him that it's ok. So you either accept it and be a doormat.....or you don't and eventually you meet a man who will not be emotionally messed up and will have enough respect for you not to do that. Isn't that right, John?

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Tue 09/23/08 08:01 PM
the three sides thing; you guys forget a woman likes you she is going to talk to her friends if you have a bad track record, you flunk being googled, or you fudged even a little on a basic facts your dead in the water if she starts fact checking. If a guy checks out a gal he can hear she has screwed half the football team and they usually let it pass.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Tue 09/23/08 08:03 PM
interesting no comments! why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:05 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days Who are you and what makes you think I'm not already divorced OOPS Sorry about that I guess it would help to update my profile. It's been 1 of them days

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:06 PM
interesting no comments! why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days I responded THANKS NO THANKS

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Tue 09/23/08 08:13 PM
Why is it so many men have a difficult being honest with the woman they are involved with, such as dating one and dating another at the same time...why not just tell the first one you have no interest any more...instead of dragging it on and on until you get caught and claim "But I didn't want to hurt you"...let me tell you from experience, damned recent experience..it hurts a hell of a lot more to catch you guys with another woman than it does if you are completely honest with us. Save a girl some pain and just be freaking honest.

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14519	Tue 09/23/08 08:13 PM
Why is it when you go out on a date with a guy; he's made the invitation say to go sighteeing after lunch or to supper and a weekend movie and he has obviously made an effort, dropped what you expect is not small change to him especially a single parent or in my age bracket maybe a dependent mother and you buy yourself and him a soda walking around or bring back popcorn from a trip to the powder room and they act like you shot there dog? Guys are always complaining about gold diggers and playing fair and you try to reciprocate a little kindness and they take as you are "too independent" or whatever. Or if you send a thank you note for the outing you are blowing "them off", clingy, or bucking for another date. What happen to ladies acting like ladies? Good question I will enjoy hearing this one. Wow, I guess I havent been on enough dates yet. If a date came back from the powder room with a coke and popcorn, I would say "Oh, you shouldn't have" but I wouldn't make an issue of it, and secretly I would consider it a positive sign. If she e-mails me first about the date, yeah I would think she would like to out again. If she didn't want too. I would hope she expressed that too.

jeffta52 Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 11	Tue 09/23/08 08:14 PM
I think its the other way around I'll b chatting with a girl & b really into her & she takes something the wrong way & poof

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Tue 09/23/08 08:17 PM
Sorry it quoted you but dropped my question; are you just dating this guy; or have you had a direct conversation about being exclusive? What about a ring to say you are engaged?

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:18 PM
Why is it when you go out on a date with a guy; he's made the invitation say to go sighteeing after lunch or to supper and a weekend movie and he has obviously made an effort, dropped what you expect is not small change to him especially a single parent or in my age bracket maybe a dependent mother and you buy yourself and him a soda walking around or bring back popcorn from a trip to the powder room and they act like you shot there dog? Guys are always complaining about gold diggers and playing fair and you try to reciprocate a little kindness and they take as you are "too independent" or whatever. Or if you send a thank you note for the outing you are blowing "them off", clingy, or bucking for another date. What happen to ladies acting like ladies? Good question I will enjoy hearing this one. Wow, I guess I havent been on enough dates yet. If a date came back from the powder room with a coke and popcorn, I would say "Oh, you shouldn't have" but I wouldn't make an issue of it, and secretly I would consider it a positive sign. If she e-mails me first about the date, yeah I would think she would like to out again. If she didn't want too. I would hope she expressed that too. I would be worried Did she really go to the powder room? Shes coming back with food and drinks? Sounds fishy to me

Cavatica Joined Thu 07/31/08 Posts: 305	Tue 09/23/08 08:18 PM
Dating, committed, living together...I had to come back to NY to take care of some family business..when I got back to Tennessee I caught him in our bed with his newest gf...

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14519	Tue 09/23/08 08:20 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? I had a diiferent experience here. Many women said they wanted to be sure that the man was divorced, finally-final. I was told it was about the possibility of reconciliation, the guy going back to his wife. And still being to emotionaly raw and fragile during the separation, ie not ready for a real relationship. I don't think I would date a woman who was just separated, legally she is still married.

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:26 PM
Another ? to ask is how long and why are they just separated? Me I couldn't afford a lawyer and legal aide wouldn't help cause I made to much

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Tue 09/23/08 08:29 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days I don't view it the same way. You're still married to someone if separated. Some states it takes longer to get a divorce, especially if children are involved. It took me a while to get mine, so I waited until I was officially divorced before I thought about seeing anyone else. Is that a man thing or do women do that also, say they are divorced, when they are really just separated? Just curious, so don't send me any nasty emails, ok

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:30 PM
Heres one to be asking.Why men get jealous of other men looking at their girlfriend? Hello if you're walking hand in hand who is she going home with?

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Tue 09/23/08 08:30 PM
Holy Crap!!

bzmom01 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 788	Tue 09/23/08 08:32 PM
why do some view separated as the same as divorced??? ....most states have a short waiting period from the filing date 30 60 days..... do it already.. i was divorced in 31 days I don't view it the same way. You're still married to someone if separated. Some states it takes longer to get a divorce, especially if children are involved. It took me a while to get mine, so I waited until I was officially divorced before I thought about seeing anyone else. Is that a man thing or do women do that also, say they are divorced, when they are really just separated? Just curious, so don't send me any nasty emails, ok Women do it too. I said I was divorced while we were separted