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Topic: What you will not put up with
MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 08/17/08 12:55 PM


I don't know, as I read this I become a little disheartened. Rules for dating. Let's call them what they are limits.

We are putting up limits on the person we are looking for. Some might say, that narrows the focus to the traits I'm looking for. Everyone is on here for the same reason, we can't seem to find someone "locally" on our own. Whether we admit it or not.

My question is this: If we've been following these rules for so long, haven't we've narrowed our focus right past some descent people? I've heard women on this site say "you need to lower your standards" or "you need to start looking for different traits." It appears to me, that we all could use to follow this advice, because it is obvious that none of us know what we are doing or we wouldn't be here.

Now I admit, that may sound harsh, but sometimes we need harshness to open our eyes to what we are not seeing. Look, we all say we want that perfect person, but there is no perfect person. Relationships are all about comprimise, doing things you don't like because the person you are with enjoys them. Who hasn't had to deal with "an annoying friend" that someone they cared about just loved? Who hear hasn't gone to some event (concert, wine tasting, art show) even though they thought they would hate it the whole time (whether you did or not)? Loving someone is about accepting them in spite of their faults. The things you have in common don't matter so much as the things you don't.

If you are putting up "rules" before you start getting to know someone, aren't you just setting yourself up to end up right back here?

Just an observation, it hit me this morning, I thought I might see if it intrigued anyone else.

All that being said, you still need to make the tea.


Alannis says it best here....

Do you derive joy when someone else succeeds?
Do you not play dirty when engaged in competition?
Do you have a big intellectual capacity but know
That it alone does not equate wisdom?
Do you see everything as an illusion?
But enjoy it even though you are not of it?
Are you both masculine and feminine? politically aware?
And dont believe in capital punishment?

These are 21 things that I want in a lover
Not necessarily needs but qualities that I prefer

Do you derive joy from diving in and seeing that
Loving someone can actually feel like freedom? are you funny?
la self-deprecating? like adventure? and have many formed opinions?

These are 21 things that I want in a lover
Not necessarily needs but qualities that I prefer
I figure I can describe it since I have a choice in the matter
These are 21 things I choose to choose in a lover

Im in no hurry I could wait forever
Im in no rush cuz I like being solo
There are no worries and certainly no pressure in the meantime
Ill live like theres no tomorrow

Are you uninhibited in bed? more than three times a week?
Up for being experimental? are you athletic?
Are you thriving in a job that helps your brother? are you not addicted? ...curious and communicative...

flowerforyou Your so intelligentflowerforyou

SVImager's photo
Mon 08/18/08 09:16 PM
Some other man's cum coming out of her.....

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 08/18/08 09:30 PM

Some other man's cum coming out of her.....


shocked surprised noway

I think I'm gonna vomit.

lovemeifyoucan26's photo
Tue 08/19/08 04:29 PM
I am sort of old fashion, in what i believe....
but i never ask a woman to do what i dont practice...if i tell them i expect something, then they can expect it from me.

1. if i am not home no other male needs to be in the house.
that can easily lead to thinking something is going on..
if she is not home, i allow no females into the house.
2.no flirting with another guy...even when I amnot there....flirting is one step below cheating.
i dont flirt with any other women either.
3. no lying, even white lies....if you will lie about a little thing, you will lie about anything.
4.no phone calls, emails, text, or any other form of contact with an ex...except in passing, saying hey.
Keeping in touch indicates you are not over the relationship, and potential for anything is clearly there
I do not talk to an ex, if i am with someone.


there are the basic big ones, but there are amendments, and subsections with them all.
If a woman has a complaint about any thing i request, then she is not ready for the real deal.

It will be nothing she isnt willing to do if she wants a real man.

Never do me wrong, and you will have the most loving man you could hope for.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 08/19/08 06:49 PM

Some other man's cum coming out of her.....
noway laugh noway laugh noway laugh

bad_girl's photo
Tue 08/19/08 06:52 PM
Infidelity and lying

SVImager's photo
Tue 08/19/08 11:49 PM


Some other man's cum coming out of her.....


shocked surprised noway

I think I'm gonna vomit.


I wouldn't put up with vomiting in my car either...
Oh wait... I did.

I have to find that link about a Guy and Sex and Vomiting.

LDYNRED's photo
Wed 08/20/08 08:40 PM
Lyin and Cheating are the biggies. I also agree that you should not ask anything of anyone else your not willing to do yourself. No double standards.

Unique2468's photo
Wed 08/20/08 09:08 PM
Cheating or lieing. Everything else can be overcome. I don't like rules in dating. They make it to complicated for me. I just want to see how i am with the girl. Eventually Mrs right now can become Mrs right. The now part usually goes away in time, with the right person.

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